my sister is looking at colleges for next year and she got accepted in Pennsylvania where my dad lives. my mom really wants her to stay here in Colorado and is revolving our whole lives around her. im stuck doing most everything around the house and my mom caters to my sisters every want and need before mine. im sick of always being last and think it would be better for me if i lived with my grandparents across town till this whole college thing is settled but i dont know how to tell my mom or my grandparents....anyone have any ideas?
2007-10-15 15:09:23 · 6 answers · asked by amanda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
talk to your mom she probably has no clue how you're feeling. then tell her that you'd like to go spend some time with your grandparents for a little bit, you need a break....you might even have to get your grandparents to help you on this one....
2007-10-15 15:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, no offense, quit your whining.
That's exactly what it is... whining. Boo hoo, no one pays attention to me. That's life, grow up and deal with it.
Everyone wants the focus of attention on them at all times, but running to your grandparents, because an older sister is getting attention, sounds like a whimper from here. Congratulations, by the way to your sister for the college acceptance. You and your mother should do the adult thing, and talk... as adults. That means no cussing, swearing or yelling... do something that seems like you aren't doing currently.
So, you're going to move into your grandparents... how would your mother react. Put yourself in that place... you're already losing one child going clear cross-country, and the other one is pitching a hissy fit, because all the attention is on the other sibling, and you'll move back in when the other one leaves. This seems like a sibling rivalry, nothing more, the other one is getting the attention, you're getting nothing.
Your extra responsibilities around the house... good for you, responsibility is a good thing. You should be proud of that.
Don't do something you may regret. Talking to them, you may damage a relationship, and then there's no attention. Talk to your parents, and tell them how you feel, moving is just the immature way out.
2007-10-15 15:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by David M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Running never solves anything. Speak to your Mother about how she is making you feel...she probably doesn't have a clue. Then speak with your Grandparents if things don't improve. You could be just a wee bit jealous right now since your sister's drama is getting so much attention. Relax a little, college is a really big deal so it is most likely a temporary situation.
2007-10-15 15:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your grandparents first and see if it would even be an option.
If it is an option, ASK your mom how she would feel about the idea. Tell her that you feel like things are hectic with your sister and you'd like to live with your grandparents to help you relax and stay focused on what's important.
If you're feeling like you're not getting enough from your mom, communicate with her and tell her you're feeling like you're in the background and could use some extra attention too. I'm sure she doesn't realize you feel so left out.
2007-10-15 15:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would speak to your mom about how you feel first of all. She probably doesn't have a clue you feel this way! If she continues to act the way she is then speak to your grandparents and see if it'd be ok if you moved in with them for awhile, then speak to your mother about it and shee where that goes. Good luck!
2007-10-15 15:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
your parents will have to SAY you can go...
2007-10-15 15:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋