He is my ex husband.We have a 7 yrs old son. Last mth he stops the allotment and chooses to transfer the funds to my account.Then he changes it to the 15th instead of 1st like it has always been. Now he lied and said it will be there but it's not.Of course he is underway(sub) for several wks now and I don't have a clue of the name of the boat or where to begin.All I know is that he is stationed in Norfolk Naval Base.I am a single mom. Any positive info would be greatly appreciated.
2007-10-15 14:58:51 · 28 answers · asked by ms_kiki00 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
This is court ordered. I am just clueless on steps to take to contact his superiors. I don't know his boat's name. All I know is that he is stationed in Norfolk Naval Base. No it is not a delay with paperwork because I received payment last mth.
2007-10-15 15:23:14 · update #1
he may have made the request but it may not have been submitted in time to become effective this month. with him being on a sub he has ZERO access while underway.
pay issues do happen, and it is not always the servicemember's fault. Just because you got paid last month doesn't mean something didn't happen to screw it up this month.
ETA: if you don't know his Boat, then there is nothing you can do. there is more than one Sub at Norfolk, and you can't just call the main line and say "I need to contact some CO of some boat whose name I don't know because I didn't get the CS payment Monday."
Here's a radical thought: maybe the routing number to the new account was mis typed in. maybe the new deposit information hasn't been through your bank yet and set up. maybe the computers went down the day he went to do it and he wasn't able to.
Don't be so quick to assume he's a deadbeat dad. If you have been paid up until this point, then at least he has been doing that.
2007-10-15 15:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-18 23:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact your Lawyer , then the Inspector General's office, and they will make sure you get your child support, you could go to Jag who will tell you a little but not enough , and only refer you to an off base Lawyer anyways...
I dont know what is going on today with men (MOST) in the military trying to run from taking care of their kids, goes back to the 50 and 40 something yr old officers who tried to scam on a dna test, then i just responded to a guy worried about anyone taking his enlistment bonus money for past due child support, If I were you that is where I would begin.
I am sorry this has happen but dont worry as I am sure your not worried all will be ok.
Be at peace,
Soldier & Armywife
These are the reasons I want to be a family Lawyer.
2007-10-15 15:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by Justice35 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your ex isn't all that bright it seems. Court ordered child support should go through the child support division of the county you live in. It's best that way because it's taken directly out of his check, goes to the child support division where there is a record of the payment being made on time.
He's risking getting into deep bilge water by tinkering with it. I did the same thing, thinking it would save me a few bucks because the state charged me handling fee. Well, ex wife claimed she never got it and I got stung for paying the same child support TWICE.
If it's in your divorce decree how it is to be paid, when, etc, take the info to child support division and let them deal with your husband. They'll contact the Navy and it wouldn't surprise me that they take it out of his check all at once. I lived pretty meager for awhile but I learned a lesson.
2007-10-15 17:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by Chris L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Navy dad purposely skips child support for the month.He's now in the water for few wks.What action can I take?
He is my ex husband.We have a 7 yrs old son. Last mth he stops the allotment and chooses to transfer the funds to my account.Then he changes it to the 15th instead of 1st like it has always been. Now he lied and said it will be there but it's not.Of course he is underway(sub) for several wks...
2015-08-06 17:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by Norine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can report him to his Commanding Officer. In the mean time, the Navy may be able to help you with some sort of assistance. Have the Commanding Officer's office point you in the right direction. Do you still maintain your benefits? Or did you have to give them up when you split? Hopefully your son has full benefits too. Go get em, the millitary does not like dead beat dads and can make his life quite miserable. They will probably make him take out another allotment. Good luck
2007-10-15 15:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by Diane B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take a certified copy of the court order for child support to the base legal office nearest you. Show them the bank statements where the money was coming by allotment on the 1st then changed to a transfer on the 15th and then you did not get it at all. They may say that he is protected by the Soldiers and Sailors Relief act and they can not do anything until he gets back. You can point out that the Soldiers and Sailors Relief Act was put in place to protect the troops, not to act as a shield so they can dodge their responsibilities. At the very least, they should be able to tell you who the land based commander is. Keep that information for when he gets back.
When he gets back you got several choices.
You can file a complaint with the court, he will get served papers and you both will have to fight it out in court. That will take quite a while and in the meantime he probably will not pay you a dime.
You can demand he pays you within 48 hours and if he does not, you will go see his commander. (Give him the name so he knows you know who it is.) That could adverse effect his career so he probably will pay up. If he does, you know you got a weapon to use and tell him that if you do not get the money no later than the 5th of each month, you will go see the commander.
If he will not pay the money, will not set up the allotment again and does not care if you see the commander, then you have to go back to court.
If you do have to go to court, get the court to ORDER the child support to be done by allotment. Then if he then fails to do it or cancels it, he is immediately in contempt of court and you can haul him in right away.
2007-10-15 15:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would be more helpful if you knew his particular department, commanding officer or the ship he is on.
Call a lawyer or some sort of legal advice service. Take him to a civilian court about it, like any other person with a child support issue would.
Whether you sort it out through his supervisors in the Navy or if you take it through a civilian court, the military will find out about the problem either way.
2007-10-15 15:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by Gotta have more explosions! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact NAVY JAG at Norfolk with a copy of the court order, his social security number and any other information that you have on the pogue. .
UNfortunately, my first wife was able to do the same as your munchkin's dad. She also took the cowardly way when ordered by her Skipper to pay CSP - she told the NAVY she wasn't going to do it. They put her out with a General Discharge.
2007-10-15 16:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first he's a bubble-head so nothing will get fixed QUICKLY if he is UNDERWAY. Though others gave you sound advise as to whom to contact
I'm alittle surprised... if it is court-ordered child-support, the NAVY takes it out of his check and does it DIRECTLY.
I guess you don't care enough about your child's FATHER to know the name of the FEW subs left in Norfolk on which he's might be stationed ?!?
2007-10-15 16:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by mariner31 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋