I feel stuck in my life, I am in college preparing for med school and I'm not happy. My life lacks direction.

Question

I am doing relatively well in school, and in a friends with benefits type relationship, but I seem to be moving nowhere. I am not happy with anything, and I dont' really know how to get that way. Transferring schools is not really reality, since I am attending the best school for my major, but I feel suffocated and not myself this year. I feel like i have so much I want to do with my life, but I don't know how to get from Point A to Point B. How do you fix your life when you are ready to give up on it? When will happiness find me?

Answer 1

Could it be pressure? Are you trying to live up to your parents' expectations?

Maybe you should try taking a bit of a break to help relieve some stress. I can only imagine how difficult it would be in med school. Try taking a few nights off per week and just relax with pizza and beer, or something to that effect.

Answer 2

I can relate. I was in college for pharmacy technician and dropped out last week in my 2nd year. I had excellent marks-90% GPA, but was severely stressed and depressed. Maybe you should rethink your career choice. If you were fine until this year, you are probably very overwhelmed. Your major would be worse than mine. I am an older student with a family and was injured in my place of employment. I had to go to school to start a new career. Like you, I felt like I was going nowhere and just wanted out. So I got out. I don't know where my life is going now, but am so relieved to unload the stress of memorizing, studying, and basically having no life outside of school. I don't know how old you are, but I am 43. You don't want to go into a career that may make you miserable. I felt like giving up, but don't do that. There is always a plan B. If you can, really think about what you want and do it. Your happiness is the most important thing. I really wish you the best of luck and understand exactly how you feel.

Answer 3

Sounds as if its time for a self-evaluation course, you being the instructor of this course, Is med school really where you want to be? Or, perhaps you have not found your niche in life. School, alone can be very stressful at times, perhaps you are experiencing a burnt-out phase, It is always a sign of growth when you stop and identify where you are in your life, it seems to me you are there in this growth stage. Friends with benefits are mere pleasures for the fleeting moment, what you maybe desiring is something and someone with foundation in your life. Many of us go through the fog-stage in life before we are able to determine exactly what we want, so, don't feel alone. Its okay to feel like giving up , just don't.!! What you are experiencing will pass and things will get better, but, when I want something different in my life, I have to do something different in order to obtain it. I agree with you about transferring schools because no matter where you go, you take you with you, the mindset has to change before anything changes around us, change comes from within and emanates outward, I wish you all the best, you may not be where you want to be right now, but, you are not where you were.

Answer 4

Happiness doesn't find you- you find happiness. And you have to find that path for yourself. You don't have a relationship- what you have is sex, and a mutual use arrangement. No emotional attachments, so no emotional benefits. Just sex- not love. As far as school, you may simply be in a sophomore slump, as it used to be called. Though it can actually happen, and in my experience does happen anytime, and really common in the early junior year. Maybe you are tired, maybe you just really aren't happy in the chosen major. The people you need to see are in the student health department, there are counsellors available just for this reason. They can help you put things in a little more perspective, and help you find direction and motivation. Perhaps you need to give up some of the things you are currently doing, or change the way you do them. When you aren't happy with something, that's usually the clue that it is time to change. But you will have to be willing to do that, and want to do it bad enough. And you have to take responsibilty for doing it yourself. You want happiness, it's up to you to find it. Help can point you in the direction, but it's not truly leading the horse to the water, as much as it's pointing out a general direction of the pond.

Answer 5

How soon will you be graduating and moving to a new location? Have you gone to local museums etc (entertainment) that is located in the city you are attending school? Sometimes stepping back away from the 'schooling' just to walk in the park, or taking an art class might be refreshing to you and put things in perspective.

And since you are attending Med School, if a female comes in complaining of bad females (GYN) conditions (ie., bad bleeding), don't foo foo her off that it's the start of menopause, throw hormone pills at her. Please be sure to check her for an endocrine (Pituitary problem). I suffered for YEARS, had cysts on my ovaries and all docs kept doing was telling me it was it my head. And 6 months after I begged and got a hysterectomy with oogeomy (sp), they discovered I had a pituitary adenoma, later removed transphenoidally 2 1/2 yrs ago. I am on Topiramate now to control tremors and my Cushings weight gain.

Thank you and don't give up :)

Answer 6

School can get stressful and its not the most fun or exciting thing to do. Sounds like you're not enthused about your major and especially knowing that you have a lot of years still to go to become a doctor. Do something out of the ordinary or exciting. Take a fun trip over the next break, make new friends, take up a hobby or sport. Break out of the rut and you'll look at things differently. We all need a little spice in our life sometimes to shake things up.