very lonely, have bpd, my ' few ' friends ive made on the internet have just stopped contacting me,what should

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i do?
im really bad with my illness right now, isolation, high panic anxiety, bad depressions each day...im 30, made no real friends in life due to my disorder and the trauma, bullying ive endured.
im trying to get the right help right now for my problems, which are dibilitating.....ive isolated myself in my apartment....the few friends ive made via the net have really helped me cope believe it or not....both 2 are in the u.s......now i dont hear from them for weeks, and i feel rejected, abandoned, like theyve been told to stop contact or not get involved with me anymore..

i have bad paranoia to that certain people want to ruin my life and prevent me doing things and prevent me doing what i want to do, making friends etc..
so im thinking, those persecutors have told these few friends, who i felt built up a rapor with, to stay away from me..

i sit in my apartment everynight, dreaming, fantasizing about the goals i have of emigration from the uk, to build a new life elsewhere

of finding security happiness, turning a new leaf
but...in the circumstances im in, quite how im
going to do that....im not sure...i fear itll
take to long...i can never accomplish.

now the few friends i have are not around
when i really need them..
what can i do?

with all respects: i actually dont want to go to the park, i just want good friends around me, then to get the hell out of britain to build a new life.....i dont want to waste any more of my time reading a book in the park, in britain.......i really do want out.....i want to live in a hot place of beaches, sun, security, love warmth, friends and a new life....i dont want it here......please here what im saying

i dont want to me fenced of from the mainstream society either hope...and as you say '' find a place where people with mental health problems can go ''.......i want more, so much more than that......so im supposed to spend the rest of my life going to '' mental health '' get togethers ? keep ing out of the way of mainstream society? not being involved? not having friends? a life?

feeling included in the
mainstream?......nope i want out to a bigger better life, love acceptance..sun sand beaches.

Answer 1

I've answered your questions time and again, and yet you refuse to do anything to help yourself. Rule number one of getting out of bpd rut--stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop yearning and DO. It makes me so frustrated to see you posting every other day and not listening to a word anyone says. I mentioned exercising, I mentioned vitamins, I mentioned therapy, I mentioned medication, and yet here you are again, crying about being stuck in the UK and your terrible life. Did you try anything anyone else has said in your previous posts? You can't get well unless YOU want to, and I think you're getting too much self-satisfaction out of all these people on answers reaching out to help you. Get out in the REAL WORLD.

Maybe I'm frustrated because yes, bpd can totally screw up your world, but guess what--many many people have it. I have it. But you know what else? I had to work to be the stable person I am today. I had to wake up every morning that I wanted to slit my wrists or felt like the queen of India and I had to say "Hey, somethings wrong, and no one's going to help me unless I reach out or help myself." You are doing nothing posting here every other day and complaining. From here on out, help your d amn self.

Trust me, I'm never harsh on people having a hard time, especially because I can more than understand. But you are abusing our help by not ever taking our advice and simply ignoring the fact that you KNOW how to get help. All it takes is one day calling up some therapist and setting up an appointment. That's ALL, despite how big of a task you think it is. From then on, one person can get the rest of your life moving. I DID IT. YOU CAN, TOO. Do NOT make me respond to one of these again. I want you to be happy, just know that. That's why I feel like I need to call you out on this.

Answer 2

Gore didn't invent the internet. The department of defense did to make a distributed communications system that would be hard to attack.. He only promote it's usage for civilian society. Gore didn't invent global warming. I think James Hansen raised the issue in 1980 after seeing some observations from Mount Loa (sp?) in Hawaii. Gore only promotes awareness of the issue pretty much when scientist concluded it was a seriuos threat.. The theory has been around for a long time (someone above post since the 1800's). You need to attempt to check your facts instead of "inventing" them! Your question is a gross "misrepresentatiion" of reality.

Answer 3

Oh dear fantome...you are struggling on through but you haven't given up hope. Your friends haven't abandoned you, it just we can't always be on line and available every time you needs us, no one person can meet all your needs which is why I suggest that you should join a support group and take up a social activity or hobby, maybe a sport?

You may just be driving people away by coming on too hard, too fast with your intensity and vulnerability. Not everybody has the ability or compassion to be able cope with other people's baggage, especially one that is as complicated as yours, straight away. It often takes time to build up a trusting relationship between people, though sometimes there is that lucky spark that you have when meeting someone you is really like catching up with a old friend you just haven't seen for awhile.

Anyway, I think that you need to learn to appreciate being in your own company more because there is not always going to be someone available to be with you all the time. Alone does not equal lonely and the more comfortable you become with yourself, the more people will be with you and it;ll be easier to meet people and attract friends. Please just remember that there is someone in Australia looking out for you even when she's not on line, OK?

Answer 4

If you want a friend then you have found one. I too have bipolar disorder. I don't know about you but I need all the friends I can get. As I do not have many because I also isolate myself. I can not work due to my illness and at times I feel very lonely and afraid. I would like to be your friend and help you if I can maybe we can help each other. I am from the USA and you can feel free to IM me or e-mail me. Take care friend.

Answer 5

I'm just going to touch on the paranoia. You have 2 choices here. You can give into the paranoia and let fear perpetuate and feed itself. Or you can chose to listen to that little voice inside your head that says, "I don't think that's right." It's hard to convince your mind that what it's thinking is wrong but it's not impossible. It helps me to sit down with pen and paper and write down all the other reasons something might be happening other that the paranoid ones.

You can do this. It will be a great step toward being stable and (believe it or not) happy.

Answer 6

You probably know what you need to do. Routine is the answer and stop dreaming. Get up in the morning and have breakfast, then go for a walk in a nice park near you or just somewhere that is "nature" - if it's raining wear a coat and take an umbrella, set yourself small goals each day, one for the morning, then have lunch, go out again, meet people, develop a routine and stick to it. Good Luck and God bless......you're not alone, just manage your condition and you will be fine (I speak from experience)

Answer 7

Are you living in a city? Possibilities may exist close by.
Contact your local Mental Health office.
Ask if there is a location in your area where people with mental health issues can gather during the day/or evening.
Here there is an informal "day routine" that includes lunch, kitchen preparation and clean-up chores, publishing a newsletter, artwork, and other various office-type skills.
The main objective is for the people with mental health issues to have a "place to go" where they can feel normal among the others. It gives real things "to do" and opportunities for contact and conversation with real people, not just a computer screen.

Answer 8

Look mate, For starters your giving to much away to soon, You should hold yourself back a little. You must realise your not the only one with problems like this, but you should also realise not every body's out to get you. There is always going to be someone out there that's jealous of you, but that's just because they've got small minds. What you need to do is forget about all that and move on, and put your past behind you. Good luck.

Answer 9

Isolating yourself is one big sign that something inside of u is really hurting. Do you know why you feel the way you are feeling right now?

Understand, that no one is trying to hurt you. Some people get the impression that a person would rather be left alone, I think, and maybe you really do feel that way.

Answer 10

I know you don't want to hear it and you never take the advice, but you need to get out of your apartment and look for a mental health support group. Ask your doctors and therapists to give you places you can go to do that. Or call the UK mental health organization called Mind, their details are here:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Mind+in+your+area/

They will put you in touch with support groups and other references.