why don't parents pay child surpport?

Question

at 1 time they were happy , but when something happens they don't want too pay. or see the child. it don't make sense too me. why don't they just give up rites too the child too someone that will take care of them and love them?

Answer 1

So they aren't taking care of the child, somebody else is, and they don't even pay child support? Sounds like somebody I know. It's hard to know; maybe they are into drugs or drinking, or maybe they are just super irresponsible.
If they've abandoned the child, you can start proceedings to terminate parental rights. Try to get the authorities involved, but I understand you have to be discrete about this if you want to keep having access to the child, because the parents might not let you see the child anymore.
It's a hard situation.

Answer 2

The reason is really sad, the parent decides that he or she will not pay in order to spite the parent the child lives with. This only hurts the child, or children. We need to enforce laws that are stricter for deadbeat parents. They should be held responsible for their actions , they were willing to create that child, yet when divorce is an issue they decide that money is more important to them than giving the money to their children and maintaining a relationship with the child. It's much easier for that parent to walk away than to face up to their responsibility....................Contact an agency that will help you get the money you deserve for your child, or children.Good Luck

Answer 3

I guess it is pretty complicated to a child when he is going through the trials of a separation or divorce of his parents. He saw them in happier times and has no understanding of the end result of all the unhappiness.

Yes, the parents should put their children first and want the best for them but, the one paying the support is usually feeling that he is being charged too much and that the wife is spending the money on herself and not on the children. He is no longer in charge of the family and of the spending. He feels as if he has lost his children and that his ex-wife is now poisoning the children against him. (This is often the case though not always.)

The children are the ones who suffer the most. They generally love both of their parents and don't want to take sides or be in the middle of the arguments. Parents should realize this and not place any child in that situation.

I have been divorced and when a money issue came up, I made sure that I discussed it with my ex-husband privately. I tried to be fair and considerate with him as he did with me. Our children did not have to go through the worry and concern of money issues because we simply did not allow it to happen. I always made sure that their father saw them when he wanted to and that they communicated with him when they felt the need to talk with him. He was their father, after all and, even when he ran into financial difficulties and couldn't pay for child support (through no fault of his own), I would never make that an issue. I had respect for him as he did for me. This is not the usual way of doing things.

I have seen many children of divorce suffer terribly and be put through inquisitions when they came home from a visitation weekend. I have seen them be asked to try to put guilt on the parent who was paying child support because the money was not coming there on time. This, to me, is not the way to resolve issues.

Children want their parents to be there for them. They don't like the separation and often do not understand why it has taken place. My children are grown now and tell me how much it means to them that I didn't put them through the turmoil they have seen their friends go through. I still see my ex-husband when he visits and he and my new husband get along very well.

Just because our marriage did not work out does not give me an excuse to make my children a part of that unhappiness. Parents should do their best to make things as good as they can for their children. That means making the child support payments and seeing their children when it is their time for visitation. There is no excuse good enough for not seeing your children, short of illness or work related issues. Paying the child support that has been awarded is your responsibility and will benefit your children. It usually costs far more to raise a child than the amount of money that you have been asked to pay. You had children and you need to put them at the top of your priority list. Children need to know that divorce is not because of them and that your love is unconditional and that you will be there for them always.