I just recently got engaged about three months ago and have since been living with my in-laws in arizona. I love them dearly and appreciate them beyond anything but I just can't take not having my own space and privacy. I have talked things over with my fiance and have come to the decision of moving out and getting a three bedroom apartment with him and one of my very close female friends. She's coming down this weekend from cali and will stay with us and the in-laws until the three of us get an apartment and she gets a new job. Is this a good idea? We plan to get a place that my fiance and I can afford without her just incase something happens. I want to do the right thing. I also want to help her out. I need some serious advice and FAST !
2007-10-15 12:10:49 · 5 answers · asked by Caitlin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We are just letting her stay with us till she can get on her feet. Something she couldnt do in cali due to lack of jobs there and prices are hire.
2007-10-15 12:24:05 · update #1
It's your in-laws house, so they would have to agree but imo it's a really bad idea. Your friend should be able to take care of her own business.
2007-10-15 12:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, assess the reasons why you didn't get a place of your own with your fiance in the first place. Now, why do you say you have no privacy??? If the in-laws are offering more advice than youre comfortable with, tell them so in a good manner and they will understand. For all you know, they might have gone through the same ordeal when they were your age! Second of all, having your friend as a roommate is the same dang thing as living with the in-laws, except that your friend is gonna help pay for the apartment. But the fact of the matter stands that you will still have NO privacy because you are living under the same roof as your friend!
What I'm getting from you is that you're biased as to what you want to do because you want to help your friend out. Think about how your fiance feels about this. He may not have the money to support the two of you just yet. I'll offer myself as a prime example.
I am married with a newborn baby (one month old) and me and my wife are living with my family because I am the only one working at the moment and therefore I cannot afford a place of our own just yet. Yes we both aren't exactly happy with that situation, but we adjust and conform to it for now because otherwise, we would be in financial hell.
Just try to bear with it until you are both in a financial situation that allows you to get your OWN place, with no friends or family as roommates! =D
Good luck!!
2007-10-15 12:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by Hexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok how is having your in-laws under the same roof as you is declared 'no privacy' but, your friend staying with both of you is fine? If you don't want to live with parents, then admit so. Can't afford the rent? Then make and save more money before moving. I'd hate to be your friend cos what I'm feeling is that I'm being used to help YOU pay the rent. You may be an angel outwardly 'trying to help' a friend in need, but you're not, because your motive is clear.
2007-10-15 12:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by Hanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your own place. You found out the problems it can cause by living with someone else.
2007-10-15 12:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake was to move in with in-laws.
Yikes.
Get out soon as you can.. i don't know if it's a good idea to have that girl as a room mate? i'd have to meet her to find out.
Use your best judgement.
2007-10-15 12:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋