this guy i have been seing for a yr and half almost two! and we have been off and on more times then i can count! during one of our little breaks were we were suppose to be broken uo for good he gets another girl friend for like a month! then after she didnt work out he started to talk to me again well we got back together he said that he was talking to her as freinds bc she wanted to be frinds well i broke up with him of course there was a lttle more to it but u get the drift. well we broke up a couple times after that and now he wants to be friends with benefits liek act liek we go out and really dont when we r together. but i was alright that ya know i still got to see him which was all i wanted but now we just get togehther for like 2 hours one day out of the week and when we r together he sems like he likes me! i just dont knwo! this is my relationship really! i dint know what to do!
2007-10-15 12:06:25 · 37 answers · asked by Niki D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ditch him plenty of fish in the ocean unless you really want to work it out....
2007-10-15 12:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! Friends with benefits means that he wants to have sex with you wit no strings attached! Basically he's using you to get what he wants. He's very selfish and your very gullible. Basically he could do you any day of the week and do another girl the next hour.
Just because he flirts and kisses you does not mean he likes you! He might think your hot lol and just want to do things with you. Or he might still like you. I doubt it though sorry! there must be reasons for the break up. Do the positvie reasons outweigh the negative? ask your self that. if not then you really need to move on. He's treating you like dog shxt right now.... Its so sad you cant see that. If he wanted 2 be with you... you two would be together, obviously he doesnt if he just wants 2 be friends with benefits.....
2007-10-15 12:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he disrespected you by going out with another girl after that long of a relationship is a bad sign. SOunds like he is immature and sort of sneaky. You need to set things straight. Tell him: I am not going to put up with this. I dont accept that you contine to be friends with this girl. Make it clear and then tell him to think about it. If he makes upexcuses-dump him.DO not call him. Wait for him to call you.If he doesnt then you got your answer.ANother thing do not let him call you and talk about other things.Ask him have you thought about what I said.HE needs to give an answer. If he comes back and tells you he is sorry for what he did then maybe you ahve a chance but it sounds to me like you have an immature guy on your hands that needs to grow up. Good Luck
2007-10-15 12:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anna H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar situation when I was younger. Get out now. This guy's "friendship with benefits" is turning you (as well as him) into objects of pleasure. You might still have feelings for him when you're in public, but after a while, he might not even give you the time of day.
You've tried it before and for different reasons, it didn't work out. A "friendship with benefits" isn't going to work out either, so leave now or you might just regret down the road.
2007-10-15 12:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by swrogueman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont settle for second - never be second to anyone ever!! it seems like you are allowing yourself to be put in the back seat as he goes out with whoever and whomever he wants. you should be his first priority if a true relationship is the issue. friend or lover - you should come before all others or atleast feel as if you are. set a standard and make him meet it - if he doesnt than go elsewhwere and find someone who will be the 1st rate person worth fighting for. you deserve the best, rememebr that and then demand it from this guy.
2007-10-15 12:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by litlbigdg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a relationship he just wants to feel like a player I think yiu should tell him we are friends or we are boyfriends and if we are friends that we are not going to feel up one each other becuase friends don;t do that they give hugs occasionally and that is it nothing else maybe a kiss on the cheak but. Ur friend is getting to flirty.
2007-10-15 12:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want a real relationship then tell this guy to get lost, why should he be able to have sex with you whenever he feels like it with no commitment, have a bit of respect for yourself. It will make you look cheap. Find someone who wants to have sex with you because they love and respect you. If this guy really had any respect for you, he wouldn't even suggest this.
2007-10-15 12:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been there done that and i backed off because i couldnt take it i was depressed i could never be happy and i learned that he didnt care the way i wished he would and i found someone better. i would say to go lookin for something better that catches your eye not a friends with benefits relation type thing
2007-10-15 12:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by ~MommyLovesHerGirls~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't totally understand your situation, but I believe that you should just be friends and start dating other guys. You can nexr be too safe with that other girl lurking around. Besides, if its on and off that means its not good. Fights are healthy and ok, but the on and off thing? That doesn't work out.
2007-10-15 12:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, hon, he's just using you to get some. He's choosing you because he knows you'll be waiting around for him when he gets bored with his current fling. You're going to get too attached (sounds like you already are) and get hurt. I would definately advise to be friends, no benefits. If he can't agree to that, then he's totally not worth your time.
2007-10-15 12:12:56 · answer #10 · answered by Corrie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are so forgiving, do yourself a favor and make a pact with yourself, if it doesn't work out the first time it never will, back and forth relationships never work. Life is too short to waste your time on drama. Goodluck
2007-10-15 12:11:39 · answer #11 · answered by Penelope S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋