My sis n her hubby r fighting (they always fight)... Anyways outta my whole family she always calls me(he does too) cuz I won't judge the situation I will just voice my opinion and I don't take sides... Well when my sis called our mom she(mom) blew up at her saying that he(hubby) was right and she had to choose between her family(hubby n kids) or girls night... Girls night is 1 time a month and its only girls going out no men and keep in mind girls meaning us sisters(theres 3 of us and maybe some friends) !! Anyways her hubby said its him or the girls...Is that fair?Now my mom is mad at me cuz I'm not going against my sis and every1 else is and its cuz of me that she(sis) is standing her ground, mind u I'm 31 and my sis is 32 and my 3rd sis is 29... I know childish but I'm tired of being the 1 every1 is yelling at when I have nothing to do w/ their relationship... Wouldn't u want ur kids to ALWAYS be there for 1 another?? (more w/ an edit)
2007-10-15 11:57:40 · 6 answers · asked by NONAME 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do u think i'm wrong? should I side w/ every1 else and tell her(sis) she's wrong? I hate to judge people and I don't believe in takin sides...Me and my sis have always been close obviously were a year apart how can they expect me to blow her off?
2007-10-15 11:59:32 · update #1
Now she just called me cuz hubby said he wants a divorce and she wants to come stay w/ me and my parents said if I let her stay here I'm as much of an a.s.s. as her WTF when do parents realize ur old enough to make ur own decisions??
2007-10-15 12:01:08 · update #2
Oh and my sis does not cheat her hubbys 1st wife cheated and now he's holding that against her assuming she to will cheat.
2007-10-15 12:03:37 · update #3
her hubby is the 1 who calls my parents
2007-10-15 12:23:50 · update #4
Ya marriage takes work so why does the wife in this case have to give up a night w/ her sisters for a man hubby or not is not the point whats wrong w/ 1 night of girls hanging out...I didn't say I agreed w/ my sis I said I refuse to take sides cuz she is my sis...and w/ his ex cheating that has nothing to do w/ my sis SHE DIDN'T CHEAT HIS EX DID WHY DOES SHE HAVE TO PAY 4 HIS EX'S MISTAKE THATS NOT FAIR!!
2007-10-15 15:42:21 · update #5
Oh and they go out at least twice a month...They have a 1yr old and a 2yr old at home so when they get the chance for alone time they take it
2007-10-15 15:44:38 · update #6
Well first and foremost I have to say that blood is thicker than water. Your mom and your family need to stand behind your sister in her time of need. She is related to you, HE is not. Your mother might have some issues of her own if she is backing up a stranger (well not total stranger but you get what I mean right?) over her own flesh and blood.
Yes it is your sister's fight and she needs to handle it on her own, but making someone choose isn't the best way to go. By doing this, her husband is being an immature little child. Everyone deserves to go out and have a little fun as long as it doesn't involve and bad things (i.e. cheating on her husband and such).
Honestly, if he is reacting to her partying it up with you and ur other sister in this way, it could mean that he has something to hide. We men have our guilty consciences as well. Maybe HE did something during one of his "guys" nights out deals and hes afraid she will turn around and do the same.
Simply put, stand back, and offer support, but don't get involved. If she calls you, let her unload, but tell her that its up to her what she wants to do. If HE calls you, tell him he needs to grow up and stop involving others in his arguments
Like the saying says "Dirty laundry is best washed, and aired, at home."
I wish your sister and her husband luck through their ordeal.
2007-10-15 12:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by Hexx 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look, there's nothing wrong with girls' night out (GNO)...as long as it doesn't come between a marriage relationship. Since it is doing that what you're telling your sister is that her marriage isn't worth much. Is that really what you want her to think?
Now I can see where her husband would have issues as he's been in a relationship where GNO's weren't that innocent. I can understand where he would be concerned that your sisterly nights out are a excuse for something else. I'm not saying that they are, but I can see where he has reason to be worried that they are. It makes it worse when your sister isn't willing to take those fears into account and change her actions for him. His first wife probably did something very similar in not wanting to curtail her "fun" which is why they are divorced.
Part of being married is learning to compromise and live together. Right now it may be that she needs to concentrate on more relationship building activities than individually fun activities. I have to ask, how often do your sis and her hubby go out? Are the GNO's balanced with date nights? They should be. She needs to keep the relationship strong as well as fulfill her self. Have you ever considered substituting in a date night where you all go out with your husbands together? Maybe after a while of date nights you can start doing the ocasional GNO again...and maybe even add in a guys' night out for him to enjoy, too.
2007-10-15 15:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy do i feel for you!!!!!! wow i hate being put in the middle and that's right where you are first i would tell my mom that blood is thicker than water and that is your sister and my sister i would support her in any choice she would make she should decide whats best for her but really they are the ones who are being childish and the hubby is at the front on that one and mom is right behind him ask her how she would feel if your dad made her make a stupid choice like that i mean really is this worth all of that its one night out and now the WHOLE family is right in the middle jump while you can sister save yourself
2007-10-15 12:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jannie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 12:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the future, when your sister is having one of her regularly scheduled fights with the husband, and when she calls, tell her to handle her own life and problems. you can't fix them.
your sister is immature. her issues with the husband are private and should be solved in her home, with her husband.
it's insane that the entire family gets involved when your sister has an argument with her husband. there's something weird about that.
2007-10-15 12:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
people forgot what family support is
2007-10-15 12:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by Annouyed 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋