My man and I have been together for about 7 months. we have had sex probably once in the past 4 weeks. I am getting soo frustrated with it. I don't know why but it seems like I alway have to come on to him! It's getting to the point where I really don't htink I can handle this relationship and I get depressed and moody so easily since we never are intimate or have any affection anymore...what can be the problem??? And when we do have sex he lasts like not even a minute! ughhh helppp
2007-10-15 11:42:19 · 8 answers · asked by SoberAsADuck 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hah things like this make me so glad to be a lesbian. Seriosuly though sometimes people just dont connect sexually. you can connect in every other way but it just might not be there sexually. Perhaps you guys are losing interest in eachother, which happens. 7 months seems pretty early to be having sex problems. There are ways, however, to get around the minute-man part. Are you sure hes a MAN if he cant keep it in for more than a minute? Are you guys having enough foreplay? If you let me know more I can give you better advice. Email me if you have any questions. k bye.
2007-10-15 11:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by kissyourself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex best friend had this same problem with her boyfriend... He didnt last very long and he had a small one... He told her he just wasnt that sexual of a person and never had been... His friends also said the same thing.. Some men have lower drives then women.... OR he could be seeing someone else, him not coming on to you at ALL is a bad sign now if hes always been that way thats something different... If not than thats definately a RED flag!!
2007-10-15 18:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by londonwprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear Communication is the KEY in any Relationship. TALK TO HIM!! Tell him how you are feeling and what his attitude and actions could result in/lead to. If you have talked to him and nothings changed let him go. You deserve to be with someone who makes you happy (caring,showing affection,great sex,etc). Find someone who treats you equally...or better yet the way you would LIKE to be treated. Do not I repeat DO NOT settle for less than what you know you deserve. That is the saddest mistake women make these days. We forget our self-worth and what we are capable of. You are worth a man's affection and I'm sure you very capable of finding one who will show it!
2007-10-15 18:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by BEAUTiFUL_INSiDE_AND_OUT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a jillion different things! Just talk to him and ak him how he feels and tell him how you feel. You can hopefully talk it over and fix the probs. If you can't communicate about it, maybe you would be better off with somone else anyway?? Good luck!!
2007-10-15 18:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That embarrasses him and he doesn't know how to prevent it....that's why he doesn't approach you more often. He has a fear of failure (which in this case means coming too soon). That's not terribly difficult to solve...let him know that. If he was to ask me, I could explain the remedies to him in detail. Maybe that will help.
2007-10-15 18:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him tell him there are some things you dont need in life. A dud in bed is one of those.
2007-10-15 18:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he knows how frustrated you are and doesn't seem to care then just give it up.
2007-10-15 18:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by FengHuaXueYue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that he's not attracted to you that way, which sucks, or he's cheating on you. not sure on which one but you betta find out soon.
2007-10-15 18:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by sillyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋