Because from what i have seen and have proof of, parents hit their children when they dont listen and behave. But when it comes to fights in school, girls will beat up other girls, because they wont listen either. Dont you think that if you were around the age 14, and you were calling ur mother or father horrible words or cussed behind their backs and they found out, don't you think they would hit you? The kids who get hit as a child, beat others up. thats wut i think as a 8th grader :\
2007-10-15 11:32:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As an 8th grader, you're entitled to your opinion. I can count on one hand the number of times I was spanked as a child. It was used as a last resort, and it was extremely effective in my child rearing. I hate to brag, but you couldn't have asked for a more perfect child than myself. :) I NEVER hit anyone growing up, and I NEVER got into fights with anyone. Spanking and fighting were two separate entities.
I also don't think that name-calling deserves physical punishment on the part of parents. If my child called me nasty names, I'd figure out WHY and go from there to correct the disrespectful behavior. I wouldn't hit them. Maybe I'm the exception to the rule, but I seriously doubt parents who spank would do so simply because their child trash-talked.
Girls fight other girls at school not because they won't listen, but because they feel they must prove their superiority in front of everyone else. My husband teaches high school, and with the majority of fights (regardless of the gender of the people fighting), it is extremely easy to break up the fight...because neither person really WANTS to be in the fight. They do it because they feel they HAVE to or they won't be respected by their peers. When an adult comes in to break it up, it takes little effort to do so. I don't think the same could be said of parents spanking their children. Another adult "breaking up the spanking" would seem absurd.
2007-10-15 11:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kendra...thats quite a question.
I was beaten as a child, not disciplined but outright beaten, and I for one, never grew up to beat up anyone. I do not believe it is right to beat anyone.
As for hitting children... I do have 2 boys. I very very rarely will put my hand on my sons' rear. When one gets my hand, its not just from one thing they done. It has to be something truly bad, like breaking a window, or spitting on someone, or being very rude and not listening.
Parents cant hit their children for just not listening, they'd be hitting them all the time. Kids are known to not listen and not behave, thats what makes them kids. They are learning and growing.
But anyhow, I do not believe if you are disciplined as a child you will grow up to hit people. If you are beaten as a child chances are worse that you might, but I am an example that just because you're beaten, you ultimately make the choice in what you make of your life.
I hope this helps ya some.
2007-10-15 11:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know kids who NEVER got spanked and they were the WORST bullies on school.Who taught them to do this?Not the parents they never hit them.
There is more to disciplining kids than spanking.You HAVE to set an example for them because NO CHILD(or adult) will EVER respect a hypocrite.The old "do as I say not as I do" never worked and never will regardless of whether you are parents or not.There ARE times when children have to be spanked because they WILL NOT reason.They want what they want nomatter who it kills.Thats when they have to be taught there are dire consequences to bad behavior.They do not have to be spanked for every little thing they do, but some need it and some may not.Depends on the kid.
2007-10-15 11:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one has a right to hit anyone! It really is a cycle, it take a very stong minded person to break this cycle. If you think about it, what dose it do for you? Truth is nothing!! Life is too short, live it up for the now and always choose to be a bigger person!!
As for parents out there that hit their children you should be ashamed of yourself! GET SOME HELP, if not for yourself do it for your children!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-15 12:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by butterfly_07242000 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing parents prove when they hit their children is that they do not have the intelligence to parent effectively without having to resort to hitting. Apes hit their offspring. Human parents SHOULD be at least a bit more intelligent than apes, however not all are. Hitting one's child doesn't instill respect in children, it instills fear, and disrespect and also teaches children how to hit.
2007-10-15 14:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree. Parents shouldn't hit their kids, and neither should other people unless they deserve it. My parents always hurt me, and one day I won't ever talk to them again. They want neglect, then I'll give them neglect. I don't want anything to do with them when I turn 18. -From a fellow 8th gr8dr, Angel <3
2007-10-15 11:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Queen of Angels 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋