My best friend Kelly had never liked a guy until 6th grade, when she liked this guy Austin. She really liked him, until he sent her an email that cussed her out. Than, only a few months later, she likes him again. Now, she's liked him for about a month and she just isn't herself anymore. She used to always be trying to get together with her friends. Now, it's all about Austin. And that's only one thing she's changed! All of her friends don't like what she's become, and none of us will admit it. And the thing is, Austin likes her a little. But Kelly thinks that they are totally and madly IN LOVE. They aren't going out, but I know they will if I don't do something quickly. I REALLY don't want them to go out, because things will be awkward and their relationship will be so fragile that one arguement could easily split them apart. Who should talk to her to make her be the old person I knew? How should I get Kelly to stop liking Austin? How do you think I should get my friend back?
2007-10-15 11:32:08 · 17 answers · asked by KeyLight Knight 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I smell JEALOUSY!
Let it be. Let her have her fun. Be a good friend and support her. Quit being a butt-tard.
2007-10-15 11:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that since you two are friends you should want the best for each other. You should want her to be happy. Now if you think that Kelly will get hurt if she does date Austin, then you should tell her. However if there is a chance and Austin does like her, you should let her date him. What would you want her to do for you? Now as for getting your friend back, talk to her. All it takes is simple communication. And if you do decide to let her pursue this relationship with Austin, just remember, even if she does get hurt, she will have a really great friend to fall back on. You should be proud of yourself for caring so much! Good for you && best of luck.
2007-10-15 11:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Valary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say talking is the key to most relationship problems. go out for coffee or something and tell her upfront (but in the nicest way possible) the whole situation and how you and the other friends feel about her and austin. it might help if you can also talk to austin and tell him what's going on as well. then he can decide whether he wants to go out with kelly (and if he does, nobody should stop them cuz its up to them) or he might decide to stop seeing kelly to stop leading her on if hes smart. i find that most people who are helplessly in love never listen to other people unless things actually turn ugly for them so if the two end up going out, i think the best thing is to be there for her when it's all over.
2007-10-15 11:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by banina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do about .She will just have to get a belly full.
She is probably looking for someone of the opposite sex to love her.If she feels unloved by her family this IS the reason.
You and her friends need to invite her to things and encourage her to believe she deserves someone who does not mistreat her unless that is what she is willing to settle for.Then she will either continue to believe she is lucky to have ANY guy even if its an abusive one or she will look for some one better, because she knows she can have someone better.
2007-10-15 11:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only acting this way because she likes this guy and she wants to impress him. Just sit down and talk to her if she doesn't listen let her be eventually she will grow up and she will see she doesn't need to change to impress a guy.A guy should like her from who she is if not say "next" but she only will learn on her own. I sucks to see a friend get hurt and to see them fall behind but trust me in life that's the only way you learn. As long as you are by her side to pick her up and whip her tears you have done your job!
2007-10-15 11:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by nell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly you may not want to hear this, but your friend needs to make her own mistakes, and fall for a few bad guys, more than likely shes not really in love with this guy. If she needs someone to confide in, lend her an ear, and just let her know that your there for her. If its really bothering you that shes not spending time with you just let her know that you miss her and you wish she would spend more time with you. This happened to me and a friend, and if this is the first guy shes fallen for, which im guessing he is, than shes not going to realize it, so just keep her in reality. Also, this should be helpful for you in one way, now you know how it feels to be pushed aside for a guy, so now you know not to do that when you get your first boyfriend.
2007-10-15 11:42:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u cant change hows someone feels... but if u r her true friend u will tell her how u feel and how u dont want her to get hurt but remeber ur younge no one at that age really needs a bf or gf... reassure her what ever her decision is that u back her up and will always be there for her.
2007-10-15 11:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jessi Ka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont interfere you have to let your friend learn from her mistakes and just be there and give her support because that is what a true friend would do.
2007-10-15 11:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by Airehon Harrison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as you are concerned, you cannot make anyone dislike someone. Let her be. Just be there for her when she needs you. You will be in the same position one day and trust me, you will ditch your friends also.
2007-10-15 11:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by nyenelra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-08 10:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋