my kids yell swear at me treat me with no respect, they are12,13 we have been away from a bad relationship with a dad for 3 years i thought i could do better with them without him around but it is worse, they say because i wont hit them.they are scared of theire dad and wont go with him.now i have moved in with another man who claimed to be better and wanted to help,who doesnt talk to my kids do anything with us only complains about what they dowrong and he went to their dads house to tell him that they were swearing and yelling atme and do nothing to help,well neiother does he and i have a 2 year old with him and i take care of his diabetic dog and old gramma I have no time for me ,i cant take any more i need something to change i need help, please help me i dont know what to do i feel like i am going crazy i never t hought my kids would treat me so bad all i ever wanted was to be lovrd and resepcted. i know i do all i can do for everyone why do i deserve3 to be treated like this?
2007-10-15 11:21:21 · 5 answers · asked by Julie F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
therapy.. for you and for the kids.
kids suffer a lot of pain through divorce and when their life is in an uproar because their parents don't get along. some blame themselves, some are angry, some feel depressed and many act out.
getting together with a guy who wanted to help was nice, but did you love and care for him?
our children respect us when we respect them first. this starts at a very young age -- telling them please and thank you, being kind to them, and showing them proper behavior. they will respect us when we respect them.
i see your family has gone through quite a lot....your bad marriage (i've been there, too), then the divorce and kids suffer pain and guilt through them. along comes some guy they don't know that well, and you're married to him. so now he's forced into their lives, like it or not.
you don't deserve to be treated like this, and perhaps getting together for counseling, learning how the kids are feeling, getting a better line of communication open between all of you might help.
therapy works when we work it.
take care.
2007-10-15 11:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even in the bible they it says Spare the rod spoil the child..and it also says ...discipline never hurt a child..My kids respect me..Have i spanked them? yes...even the law says i have a right to..
All I have to say is if you do not correct your children you get everything you deserve. You don not have to hit or beat them...but correct them and stick to your guns..don't back off..
You do not just get respect you have to earn it..nothing comes easy or free in life..
2007-10-15 11:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man you have CHOSEN to live with doesn't HAVE to discipline YOUR children. He actuall has no RIGHT to discipline YOUR children. It is YOUR job as the PARENT of YOUR children to discipline YOUR children (get the hint?)Their father doesn't have to do anything about their behavior when they are with you...YOU are their parent it is up to YOU as their mother to discipline (one more time) YOUR children. The reason your children treat you the way they do is because you ALLOW them to.
2007-10-15 14:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you have to think positive. rule number one you have to be cruel to be kind. and instill discipline. talk to your guy and tell him he as to back you up all the way. go and see a councilor. for peace of mind. and stick to your guns. and take no bad mouthing of your kids ever. i wish you well good luck.
2007-10-15 11:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them to there dads.
2007-10-15 12:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by patches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋