oh gosh I am fed up,they have no respect for anything... 7,6,4 and 3 ,I seem to have lost control of this situation and cannot regain it on my own,any ideas?
2007-10-15 10:45:52 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
major, CONSISTANT discipline; and get off the computer so you can focus on correcting them
2007-10-15 10:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly G 4 · 6⤊ 2⤋
I feel your pain...
Whenever I feel that way I realize mine needs more time with me completely engaged.
Get organized and positive even when you don't feel up to it.
Just smiling and being really animated when they are doing the right thing will show them how much better life can be when they behave.
When you keep them busy they don't have time to act out or tear up the house. So plan lots of activities, crafts, exploration in the back yard and/or nearest park. The smallest thing can excite a young child...later it will take a car, so collect leaves, bugs, rocks, etc. They will get a kick out of it.
Lots of first...then statements. "Do you want to go to the park? paint? play___game? First we have to pick up the toys, then we can ____." At first make the tasks simple while they are getting the hang of it so they will have easy successes. When they see that child no.1 got special privileges or a treat and lots of praise they will follow suite. Sometimes I feel like I am bribing but you have to work for the things you want and the earlier they learn this the faster they will be on their way to being contributing members of society.
Be consistent, these are the things that help me but there are no easy fixes here. Good luck!
2007-10-15 18:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Vacious 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all set a day aside for the FAMILY to do a major clean-up together. Once everything has a place...talk about why its important to keep it that way and if they don't, there will be a consequence....like whatever they leave out gets taken away for a few days. I have put things in a bag and brought them to the basement when I've asked repeatedly for it to be put away. Put it away, or it goes away!!
2007-10-15 18:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by g 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For the next several days constantly follow them around, play with them instead of asking them to go play, the key is constant supervision. It isn't too late, if you do constantly supervise them then I have no idea how to help. Consistent supervision and consistent behavior correction is the only thing I can suggest. Good luck...Have you tried applying to have super nanny come help you?
2007-10-15 21:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by = ) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
children are hard ones to control , you may have to try different tactics with them in order to get them on a schedule. theres a book called 1,2,3, majic.... my aunt and uncle were advised it by there psychologist about there children becasue they were out of control. it may be hard at first but it has actually worked for alot of people in my family. children tend to get away with more than they need to. you need to limit them for one. make a schedule and chores for them. take stuff away from them if they dont want to do what they are told and if they dont listen after counting to three put them on a time out according to there age every time . no matter how much they whine or cry dont give in , they take in the attention like a game. try makeing cleaning up fun for them as a learning process. you have to get them to know that your the boss not them and they listen when told. im only 18 but i have babysat my little cousins way too much and know what its like and there used to me useing these tactics and they listen to them now. never give up with it
if they know you give up they know that they win
2007-10-15 17:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I raised 3 children using the 3 "Fs"...
Firm
Fair
Fun
And you must be consistent. If you say something such as, "If you don't clean your room in one hour, you will be grounded for a week".....you must mean it and follow through.
Children usually have plenty of friends....they need their parents to be parents and not their friends.
2007-10-15 17:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late to set up rules and enforce them. Just tell them that things are going to change. If they don't listen to you the first time you will tell them once more.. and then it's either a few smacks on the butt or corner time or something of that sort.
2007-10-15 17:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
DISCIPLINE!
CAUSE & EFFECT, aka CRIME & PUNNISHMENT!
CONSISTANCY!
NO MEANS NO!
LOSS OF PRIVILEDGES, like TV, Video games, phone, favorite toys, play dates...etc.
I feel that from 4 and up children should have RESPONSIBILITIES...something suitable to their age, like setting the table, making their beds...Then you reward them based on their ability to handle the responsibility you gave them/entrusted to them.
2007-10-15 19:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Constant discopline is right! Give them a spanking they won't quickly forget!
2007-10-15 23:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
lots of time out or call in the Nanny
ever seen that show?
2007-10-15 17:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by slopoke6968 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋