im ify on my belife in God....i was in a bad relationship for 3 years and sex just made it worse and harder to leave...i definitly want to wait a very long time before i go all the way with my next relationship but im starting to feel that will be very hard...my body wants what my mind dosent and i was wondering if there are tips to help my self control..im worried since its been so long that once i start i wont stop lol..ive been dating a guy and we have not kissed which im very happy about but im worried once we do i wont be able to control myself...so any tips on how you waited? and please do not judge by me having sex i am hoping to wait but im only human so please just answer my question on tips to help myself wait...no criticism here
2007-10-15 10:45:30 · 5 answers · asked by *Lovely 2* 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I won't criticize; I made many mistakes before my marriage so I can understand. The best way to keep from going to far is avoiding kissing and hugging...that was my mistake...that leads to sex and that is the truth. It may seem innocent but it starts you wanting more and more. Pray to God often and read his Word...ask Him to help you stay pure until marriage. Talk with your boyfriend on how you feel so you are in it together and trying to be careful together, a joint effort makes a big difference. If he doesn't want to wait you might want to back off, someone who really loves you will be willing to wait for you. God bless you!
2007-10-15 10:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would see like you are ify about a lot of things. True?
You closed your account? Yet you want to make that apparent because you want to be found? ( or not? if not, then why put that on there?)
You want to 'date'. But you don't want sex. Why are you dating a person where marriage doesn't even come up as a mention? Do you want to marry the person you are dating or are you setting yourself up for another fall?
I let God decide whether or not He sets me in a place to. That might mean that I NEVER get laid again. But if that's what He wants, I will trust Him.
If you are going to do that, you have to commit yourself to Him. But I really wonder if you commit to very much at all.
I hope you find a way out of being so double - minded.
2007-10-15 11:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Self control isn't something you have or don't have - it is something you CHOOSE.
Practically speaking, you need to draw the line somewhere and if you are having problems controlling yourself the obvious thing to do is stay out of a situation where you might give in.
Here's where you are going very wrong - you are saying that if you kiss you won't be able to control yourself...... In other words you are already planning to give up control. Psychology 101.
2007-10-15 10:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, all I had to do was talk to him. In any relationship you just need to talk about EVERYTHING. Esp. That kinda thing, if thats not somthing you want let him know, tell him how you feel about it and make sure that no matter what he won't let you do it. Bcause sometimes you might get caught up in the moment but he will stop you, you'll thank him for it later and thats a promise!!
Good luck
2007-10-15 10:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by tickerspam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out of the relationship.
The words below have helped me stay in control when I didn't think it is possible. Lean on Jesus!
Matthew 5:29-30
29If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.
2007-10-15 10:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Philip H 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋