Parents of Islam?

Question

slamo 3aleko/peace 2 u

my bio mother is not Muslim, but Christian...she goes against Islam as i go against Christianity...she is throwing Bible verse to me telling me about Honor thy father and thy mother...ok but according to Islam i do not have to honor here if she is against Islam...i want to tell her this but i first must have proof...and i can't remember if it is a hadith or if it is in the Quraan...By Allah, will some1 help me? thanks

Answer 1

YOU ARE WRONG ABOUT THAT. You do have to honor your mother and father in Islam whether they are muslims are not. Honoring them does NOT mean agreeing with them or doing things that God has forbidden. You should talk to your mother in a RESPECTFUL way just like Muhammad (pbuh) spoke to his polytheist uncle in a respectful way (he was an orphan).
DO NOT EVER TELL YOUR MOTHER YOU DO NOT HAVE TO RESPECT HER!!!!!!

THE QU'RAN SAYS THAT THE CHRISTIANS ARE "THE NEAREST TO US IN LOVE" IT ALLOWS US TO MARRY CHRISTIANS AND JEWS AND SAYS WE MUST RESPECT THEIR HOUSES OF WORSHIP!!!!!!!!!

PICK UP THE QU'RAN AND READ IT INSTEAD OF MAKING UNFOUNDED STATEMENTS ONLINE THAT DEFAME OUR FAITH

MUHAMMAD SAID"PARADISE LIES AT THE FEET OF MOTHERS".
HERE IS A LIST OF SURAS IN THE QU'RAN THAT COMMAND KINDNESS TO PARENTS
2:83 , 2:15, 4:36, 16:90 , 17:23, 29:8, 31:14 , 46:15-17.

IN FACT IN SURA 46 IT NOT ONLY COMMANDS US TO BE DUTIFUL TO OUR PARENTS BUT SAYS THAT ALLAH WILL PUNISH US FOR NOT DOING SO!!!

Perhaps your mother (and other people as well) will be more inclined to listen to you if you do as the prophets(peace be upon them all) did.

Set an example by good and righteouss ,(but not self righteouss). When they see you being a positive , caring and intelligent person who carries himself with a peaceful and humble dignity they may be curious about what guides you to such good conduct.

If you can not respect your mother ,as well as other human beings who do not share your faith then Islam has taught you NOTHING!!!!!
Sura 2:256 instructs us that there is no compulsion in religion
and Sura Al Kafirun tells us clearly that we should let those who disagree with us follow their own path.

Let GOD(ALLAH) deal with people' s faith or lack thereof
we must learn to live with our fellow human beings in harmony.

THAT IS REAL ISLAM!!!
As-Salaam Alaikum

Answer 2

Who is your best friend? Your mother. Then who? Your mother. Then who? Your mother. Then who? Your father. Your mother is correct you should be honoring your mother and Father that is the Islamic way also. Yes she may have differing views but the way is to be patient and tolerant and try to find some middle ground with your mother and respecting her in the mean time. Explain to her how you feel and that Islam is respectful of all faiths. I am a Muslim and my mother is also a christian and we have nothing but love and respect for each other. She was more than happy for me the day i told her i was becoming a Muslim. I feel for you sister you are in a hard situation and i pray Insha Allah you find the knowledge and words to open your mothers heart and also for you to see her perspective also. Just because your a muslim does not mean you have to be against other faiths, far from it. Other religions are to be respected. She is your mother regardless of her faith and is to be respected and honored. Peace to you.

Answer 3

According to Islam you have to honor her even if she is against you. If she says something bad about Islam or Quran you should not listen to her and leave but do not insult her or do any harm whatsoever to her. On the contrary you need to be as good as you can to her. The only thing you must disobey her in is if she asks you to do a sin or something unislamic. That's what I know and God knows best.

Answer 4

ignore the weird answers that show they know nothing about islam but hate and disrespect for it, they're just trying to prove to you that they're losers since all they want is to insult islam and muslims with lies and ignorance.
in islam you have to honor your mother, love her and respect her even if she was a non believer, not just a non muslim
prophet mohammad pbuh used to visit his mother's grave
however you cannot obey her in whatever that will anger Allah
the prophet said:
Obedience is only with regard to that which is right and proper
he also said:
There is no obedience to any created being if it involves disobedience to the Creator
this is a link to what a scholar answered a person with a similar problem , i hope it helps:
http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=72252&ln=eng
this is a link to another fatwa as well :
http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=27105&ln=eng

Answer 5

Salaam let me start off by telling you that you must show respect to your parents even if they are not Muslims.This is a commandment.It"s tell us that we are only to disobey our parents if they force us to disobey Allah.If your mother is not doing this you must honor her.Do know that pardise lies at the foot of our mothers.There are many hadiths,and Quranic verses telling us this.May Allah guide us all into the right direction//Ameen.

Answer 6

You must honor your mother because it is the right thing to do. It does not matter in the least what the Qur'an, the Bible, or anything else says about it. Of course, for her to be inflicting the Bible on you isn't nice, but parents are seldom perfect. What you need to do is to study the Qur'an, identify the errors in it, and thus be able to conclude that it is a fraud.

Answer 7

"In the name of Allah, most Gracious, most Compassionate".

Respecting your mother is in Islam even if she is not a Muslim. Respect all her sayings but not about religion of her. Even Islamic scholars say that don't take her to church for her prayers but you should take her back from church.

(TRUTH EVEN AGAINT UR RELATIVES)
Believers, uphold justice. Always bear true witness, even if it be against yourself, your parents, or your relatives—and regardless of whether the person against whom you are speaking is rich or poor. God is close to people regardless of their material circumstances. Do not be led by emotion, as this may cause you to swerve from the truth. If you distort your testimony, or refuse to testify, remember that God is aware of all your actions.
-Qur'an, An-Nisa, Surah 4:135

( DEALINGS )
… Excel in your dealings with parents, the near relatives, the orphans, the needy … (Al-Baqarah 2:83 and An-Nisaa 4:36)

(NOT EVEN UFF, TO PARENTS)
And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," (Interjection of anger, dislike, frustration) and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. – Holy Quran 17:23

ISLAM gives women the respect no other religion can even imagine ISLAM says "heaven is in the feet’s of a mother" this is the zenith of respect. (MEANS U CAN GET PLACE IN HEAVEN IF U RESPECT UR MOTHER)
A man once consulted the Prophet Muhammad about taking part in a military campaign. The Prophet asked the man if his mother was still living. When told that she was alive, the Prophet said: "(Then) stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet." (Al-Tirmidhi)

(PARENTS RIGHTS)
Once Abu Umamah asked the Prophet about the rights of parents over their children. The Prophet replied, "They are your Paradise and they are your Hell."

-Reported by Abu Umamah


May Allah help & guide us all, Amen’.

Answer 8

W-Salaam. You should not listen to her but still respect her and honor her because Islam teaches that you should never disrespect your parents.

"And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents, but if they strive to make you join with Me (in worship) anything (as a partner) of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. …" [29: 8].

Answer 9

So what is your father Jewish , or better yet did some one convert and now they are threatened to be killed by some Muslims .The last I knew Muslims are to show respect to parents , but in your case i know its different

Answer 10

From what I have been taught. You have to respect her in all cases. You have to treat her so because she is your mother. The only time you are allowed to disobey her is when she is demanding you to commit a sin. At that time you can disobey her. But if she is not doing something like that, then she has the right to respect from you. And yes I said "right" because it is her right and your duty to respect your parents.