How can I convince my grandparents to let me move out?

Question

My best friends parents said Im always welcome at their house but I dont think my grandparents are going to let me? They said I could move in with my mom but I dont want to move in with her I want to move in with my best friend. I would pay for my own stuff and everything. But How do I convince my grandparents to let me?

Answer 1

Anon your grandparents are probably doing what they feel is in your best interest. Somehow I think that your friends folks are probably speaking of you moving in their temporary and not full time. Take a look at how things would change if you were to move on your own and also take much time to decide if this is truly what you want. Sometimes the grass looks greener but turns out to not have as much manure and/or stability as we thought. Best of luck in coming to a conclusion.

Answer 2

Dearest Anon,

I don't think, but I know that your grandparents are right on this one. People other than family, can put up with you for awhile, but not indefinitely. Some family members have hard times putting up with each other. I think the kind parents of your friend meant that you are welcome to VISIT anytime. If I were you I would NOT push the issue of moving in. You are not their responsibility. I take it that you are a minor and you are not an adult. Your parents and grandparents are responsible for you until adult hood. Don't rush it. You have plenty of time to be an adult and if you know what I know about being independent you'll stay a kid as long as the law permits. It's not as easy as it all seems. Learn patience and try examining yourself before finding fault in your parents. I think this is why you want to move out and your way is definitely not the best way. Have a great life, learning how to live, love and remembering to laugh often......

Answer 3

I agree with the first person, they say you are welcome anytime, but only for a weekend or a school break or summer, not until you can fully afford a house. I'm not trying to be mean, but it's probally true.

Talk with your grandparents and your best friend's parents and maybe arrange something where you can stay with your friend's parents whenever you need a break from your grandparents.

If your friend's parents ment you could live with them full time then really think about it. If your grandparents heart breaks and then 2 days later you decide Boy theese parents are strict or they have different rules then my grandparents and want to go home, that isn't very fair.You may think your friend's life is fun and her parents are so nice, but once they're your gaurdians you realize something different about that.

And that's another thing. They will have to go through a LEGAL process for them to earn garudianship over you and you have to make sure YOU want this because it will be another big process for you to live with your grandparents again.

Talk with the people you need to talk to (Grandparents and friend's parents) and work it out. Good luck!
~Justine

Answer 4

You can't, they have told you, you can move in with your mother, not with strangers. I know you know they, but they are strangers. When they say you are welcome anytime, doesn't mean for you to move in. Believe me it will not be as cool as you think if you move in there. Oh and by the way your best friend will end up not being your best friend. Have you heard the old say" it's always greener on the other side of the fence" Well it's not.

Answer 5

If you are underage, your grandparents have a legal responsibility for your well being. If they say no, then just accept it until you are a responsible adult, and don't argue. It's nice to do as you please, but be an adult first.

Answer 6

well just give them some time sounds like they are just being a bit protective