my family keeps trying to break me and my hubby up. i'm a stay at home mom of 3 kids and he works. ever since i had our 2nd child my family keeps tryng to break us up. my mom called one day and told him i was out with some guy and i was sitting right next to him. how can i get them to stop.
2007-10-15 10:02:49 · 9 answers · asked by lisaanndubay 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think this would be the point that I would tell my family they need to stop, or that you would cut off contact from them. Your family - your husband and children are your first priority, your other family comes next. If one is getting in the way of the other, you have to do what's best for your marriage and kids.
Tell them that you love them very much, but you will not talk to them again until they decide to stop doing this. That they can see the grandkids on christmas for a few hours, but otherwise, when they can be loving grandparents, they can be involved in your lives.
I have had to do this to some extent...we went to visit my grandparents a while back - and my husband and grandpa got in a huge fight over my grandpa pulling my son's hair. Now, my husband doesn't want anything to do with them. He'll go occasionally - but I have had to cut back on my contact with them. It hurts me, but it's better for our family. We still talk and visit occasionally, but it's more limited, and my husband is happier - thus our family is happier.
2007-10-15 10:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a get together at your house, a dinner lets say, while your husband is there, tell your family enough is enough and if they want to remain in your life they need to stop their antics, that the phone calls of BS will stop or you will change your number and be done with them. Be sure to tell them you would love to have them in your life, but they must understand that your husband and children are your family too and they need to learn to accept that if they can't then they should keep their distance. If they get nasty just ask them to leave and know that you have done all you could. Be sure the children are not in the room during this time.
2007-10-15 17:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get them to stop, but you can stop communicating with them. Break ties with them, if it is not a benifit for your family. What does your husband want to do? Talk it over, maybe you should move. Change your phone number and have it unlisted so they can't get it, and don't give it out to anyone that will give it to them.
2007-10-15 17:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to stay away from u and if they keep it up get a restraining order on them no need to put up with that behavior from Ur mom tell them to totally stay out of ur life
2007-10-15 17:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by blugeanie923 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sever ties until they can accept you are where you want to be and they need to accept that you are happy with your hubby and kids and until they do tell them you will not respond to any contact attempts
I had to do this with my mother she was very anti (my hubby) because he wasn't the country type she thought i should marry
2007-10-16 00:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by SAHM3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell them that you are a grown woman and that you have power of who you marry and who you want to stay with.
2007-10-15 17:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, thank God your hubby knows she is a trouble maker and a LIAR. you should change your phone number and only allow her to e-mail you this way you can delete if needed!
2007-10-15 17:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Indya M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to stay out off ur marrige put ur foot down and tell them to back off
2007-10-15 17:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone number, you want them far away until they clean up their act...
2007-10-15 17:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋