the advice is for my friend, and to make it less confusing im going to ask from her point of view
I like this guy a lot, and i think he likes me too. We went to a movie, and he always was holding my hand and putting his arm around me, he even tried to kiss me. (this was only the 2nd i have seen him) we never "went out" or anything, but we talkd on the phone for like 3 hrs every day for a week after that.
he mentiond going to this dance thing and me going with him, but only once then never said anything again.
me and some friends went to the dance, he didnt know we ended up going. when we got to the dance, we found him, and he was all over this other girl! he saw me and gave me a hug, then me and my friends just kinda left. i called him when i got home. he said he would be home soon and call but never did.
i still like him a lott
this is not my problem, its my friends. but what should i tell her! should she call him.
i think hes a jerk
2007-10-15 09:48:23 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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guys, this is for real my friend
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2007-10-15 10:10:50 · update #1
How can someone be cheating if they're not in a relationship? The guy wasn't very nice, but I'm sure you guys are pretty young and this is how a lot of guys (and girls) behave when they are young and just starting to be romantically involved.
Don't call this guy. Just let it go. Forget about him.
2007-10-15 09:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by dashelamet 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's not cheating because they are not exclusively dating. They went out on two dates.. wait you said they weren't dates.. so they saw each other twice and all they did was hold hands. That means nothing. If he went to the dance with another chick, that's fine too because well... your friend is not in a formal relationship with this guy. She can call him, but if she does, she should ask him if he's seeing someone else and if he's not.. tell her to ask him out formally unless she wants HIM to make the move.
2007-10-15 09:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he a jerk? In the 12 - 15 hours of over the phone speaking, were there vows exchanged? Why do you think that is enough to win a guy over? It's a competition honey! You can't fault him for playing the field. Try being a little more realistic, then get back to me sugar...
2007-10-15 09:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..the old "This is my friend trick." LOL it's okay honey. I think school dances bring out the REAL in guys. I personally, at school dances, are never over all the girls, but maybe he's a player. Sit down and ask him and be serious about it. Good Luck! Cheers! :)
2007-10-15 09:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you went to the movie and held hands doesn't mean anything at all. Talking on the phone doesn't count as a relationship either. Your friend is just a friend until she lets him know that she likes him. Find out how much he's actually interested.
2007-10-15 09:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well it depends on exactly what he was doing to the girl. like, if he was just talking and maybe trying to flirt a bit, i wouldn't consider that cheating. but if it was anything more than that (you know what i mean) then i would completely agree with you that he is a jerk and that she should call him and tell him that. it also depends on what your friends relationship with him was before. i know you said he tried to kiss her, but did she reject? he might have taken this as a "just friends" gesture and therefore started looking at other girls.
2007-10-15 09:53:35 · answer #6 · answered by Nmenna (men-uh) gosh darnit..... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should call him its not cheatng you guys havent even gone out plus its only dancing maybe you think it was more but thats just becuase of your strong feelings toward this man a you became jealous give him a call and talk to him about. not in an angry way in a way to show you have feelings and want to know if he feels the same.
oh yeah and i put u but just replace it with your friend
2007-10-15 09:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's a player. She should be glad she didn't get any more involved with him than she did. Tell her not to call him because she will lose her self respect. He's not going to make her happy. He's just going to end up hurting her worse. If she calls he's going to think she's easy prey. He'll make her feel wanted and say sweet things until he gets what he wants from her. Then he'll probably never call her again.
2007-10-15 09:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt consider it cheating, because they only went on what, 2 dates? Just because they went to the movies and he spoke to her on the phone for 3 hours, doesnt mean they are exclusive. AND he never called her back when he said he would. He doesnt have to, because she isnt his girlfriend. So he isnt cheating on her. If she wants, she can get to know him better and see how things progress. If not, she can move on, because it seems he has no problem finding a girl.
2007-10-15 09:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by J. Lee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're right - he is a jerk! He led your friend on - he even tried to kiss her... And then she finds out he's with some other girl - that is DEFINITELY cheating!
She shouldn't call him. She'd do a lot better without him!
2007-10-15 09:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by Becci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋