a coworker and i were emailing each other and he said let's make luv and i said i wasn't sure. anyway later on in the day, he told me he wanted to touch me and me touch him. i then changed my mind and told him i wanted us to touch. after his shift was over, we met at the top floor of the library which is where we work and we tried find a spot, but i freakd out thinking someone would see us. he could tell i wasn't sure and told me we shouldn't do it since i wasn't sure and that i wasn't into it. he just seemed really cool about it when i asked him if he was upset and he seemed laid back. he could tell i was nervous and confused and he kinda hugged me. the next day i emailed him from home saying that I want him and me to still do it, but then he said he couldn't do it since he was horny yesterday and that i should do it with someone i luv . he said he was sorry and that he hoped i didn't feel used. was he using me or did he feel rejectd? how should i move past this?
2007-10-15 09:42:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he is physically attracted to you and wants to do stuff, but may not want a relationship with you. If you are cool with messing around, let him know that you are not wanting a relationship...but if you want more than physical, then leave it be. It sounds like you two are pretty straight up with each other, so you could ask him what he wants from you...physical, relationship, nothing.... I think he was probably using you. He sounds like a nice guy, though..some dudes when rejected freak out...it sounds like he really wanted you to be comfortable and cool with everything.
2007-10-15 09:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by prekinpdx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haha, sounds hot lol. Ok well, thats a fun little predicament.
Uhmm, I don't think he felt too rejected, he probably knew you would be a little nervous and hesitant. Its expected that girls usualy have 2nd thoughts at the last moment, some guys get annoyed and turned off by that. However, I think you guys were just excited about the idea and thrill of possibly having sex in a strange place where you might get caught.He was just giving you advice cuz he doesn't want to hurt your feelings and thinks your a little too sensative. But,If you really want this guy, then go back to him, make the first move and be confident, he will get the message and you guys will be on fire with passion. be safe and enjoy it!
2007-10-15 16:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by hescooljess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an easy way to find this problem out. The dude used you. How do I know? Because he said he was sorry. If guys use you they feel sorry afterwards. If they do it often they don't feel sorry anymore. If you felt that he was a jerk than you wouldn't have come with him. So he's a good guy with feelings. Just stay friends with him and talk about it once and just leave it at that. He made a mistake and he's sorry!
2007-10-15 16:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by André S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was trying to use you. Thank goodness you didn't do anything because you might be full of regret and hurt. You must always be careful of relationships with co-workers. When they don't work things can become awkward. When the right person comes around, you'll do it in a more comfortable place.
2007-10-15 16:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he wanted it then and there and would have just used you if yall did do it. Good thing you didnt and he is telling you the truth. He would have just used you. Move on with someone that will respect you. Also, dont be weird about it at work, just act like nothing ever happened.
2007-10-15 16:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by solelone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was horny and wanted to use you for sex. If he was interested in starting a relationship with you, he probably would have suggested a date or something instead of just focusing on sex. How should you move past this? Dont have sex with him and find someone who will respect women because this guy obviously doesnt.
2007-10-15 16:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He hadnt used you yet. It sounds like he has lost interest in you since you were uncomfortable "putting out" with just anyone. With a guy like that you cant win. If you dont put out then you are worthless. If you do put out then he got what he wanted and he will be done with you. How to move past this, is to develop higher self asteem and make better friends.
2007-10-15 16:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That guy just wanted a fling. He did you a great service by picking up on your nervousness and calling it off. He actually sounds kind of like a considerate person because he was looking out for your feelings.
2007-10-15 16:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Rebekah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should feel thankful that he came to his senses and realized what a perv he was being. He doesn't feel rejected he was probably just seeing how far he could get or he was using you. Let him take you out first don't fall into temptation so easily you'll regret it.
2007-10-15 16:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he was just using you I suggest that you move on and find a guy that will respect and love you
2007-10-15 16:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋