Scenario: Your best friend since you were 8 is getting married and would like for you to be her Matron of Honor. (Typically the matron of honor is married and walks by herself)
In this scenario there are two a Matrons of Honor, (for understanding purposes we will call them Matron 1 & Matron 2) and they were supposed to walk either by themselves or with each other.
The bride decides at the last moment that her wedding party may look a little lop sided if they don’t walk with someone, and has the Groom choose two more men to be his groomsmen, ironically one of the men he chooses happens to be Matron 1’s husband.
Now! The Matron 2 is upset and feels as if her marriage is being insulted because she doesn’t get to walk with her husband.
Matron 2 tells bride day of wedding that because of this she will not be able to be in the wedding?
Is the bride wrong for letting one Matron walk with her husband and not the other?
Or is Matron #2 wrong for not being in the wedding?
2007-10-15 09:42:16 · 23 answers · asked by peanutbudda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am sure the bride to be and her future husband chose these men for a reason if it upsets matron#2 which is understandable I think she should suggest she walk up the aisle with matron#1 husband so both of her matron of Honor's are without their husbands oops maybe they should just be called bridesmaids. So I think the Matron's of Honor should walk by themselves
2007-10-15 09:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does this question sound like another one?
My response is similar to the other question. Matron 2 is wrong. The matrons do NOT walk alone (they can, but they don't have to). It is never assumed that the bridesmaids (or matrons) are married to the people they walk next to, and a program clears up any confusion. The groom picked two guys who are closer to him, and one happened to be Matron 1's husband...good for her. But there is no reason at all to have Matron 2's husband be in the wedding if he's not a close friend of the groom.
2007-10-15 10:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matron 2 had legitimate reasons.
The bride and both matrons could have been more graceful in the situation.
I don't see this as Matron 2 being cut-and-dried "right" or "wrong". Bride and Matron 1 share some guilt here, too.
BUT
Chalk it all up to the high tension that *Everyone* in a wedding party is prone to and responsible for.
Let it go. It's water under the bridge.
Now the new bride and her two dear friends and the their husbands should plan a party and get on with their friendships :)
2007-10-15 10:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by FourArrows 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matron #2 is wrong. It is the bride and grooms wedding and they can have whoever they want in it. Maybe the husband is friends with the one Matron's husband but not the other. At my wedding my matron of honor's husband was in the wedding but they did not dance together or walk down the aisle together because she was paired with the best man. The only reason her husband was in the wedding was because our husbands were friends.
It is sad what Matron #2 did, she probably really upset the bride on her wedding day. That is unforgivable in my mind.
2007-10-15 09:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by randomcobweb 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I will say you are wrong in that the Matron of honor has to be married. I have video over 300 weddings and photographed over 150. And there is nothing that says they have to be married. They are suppose to be your very best Friend.
Now as far as the matron of honor #2 pulling out last minute she was wrong in every way. She should of lived up to her agreement to you her friend and the bride.
2007-10-15 10:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by videoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matron number 2 is SO wrong, and needs to apologize to bride and groom.
Groom was not close to Matron 2's hubby, and he was not required to ask him to be a groomsman. Groomsmen are close friends or relatives of the groom. The groomsman is not selected because he is married to the matron of honor. He is selected because of his relationship with the groom.
Matron 2 was asked to briefly be escorted down the aisle by someone not her hubby. She was not asked to have a relationship with this man or start dating this man. She was asked to walk down an aisle for just a moment.
Matron 2 and her hubby (or their marriage) were not insulted by this request. Bridesmaids and MOH's are frequently escorted by groomsmen they do not know. This is not a big deal. For Matron 2 and/or her hubby to make it a big deal is extremely childish and immature on their parts.
To cancel out on a dear long-term friend on the very day of the wedding is horrific. Personally, I would completely understand if bride decided never to talk to Matron 2 again.
Matron 2 acted immaturely and perhaps lacks knowledge of traditional etiquette. She has most likely irretrievably damaged a long-term friendship. She should be ashamed of herself.
2007-10-15 22:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matron 2 sounds bizarre. An attendant doesn't always get to walk with her husband - in fact it's rare, so that other Matron is lucky that it happened to work out that way.
If someone were chose to be a MOH, then just crapped out at a tiff about something like this, she's not much of a friend.
2007-10-16 01:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, matron 2 should not have been so concerned about her own feelings that day. So what if she wasn't able to spend 15 seconds walking down the aisle with her husband? She's already been there and done that. If she were a true friend, she would have just gone with it and not gotten so petty. For her to cancel on the day of the wedding was vindictive. I'd forgive her but I don't think I'd be close friends with her again. That was cruel.
2007-10-15 09:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Matron 2 needs to grow up.
Being asked to walk 20 feet without her husband is not an insult to her marriage.
Just smile, walk and apologize to the bride for being a pain in the you know what.
Why do people lose all common sense when it comes to weddings?
2007-10-15 10:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by jennifersthegreatest 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
matron #2 is wrong. she is throwing a fit because she thinks her marriage is not being recognized. its not her wedding. its just dumb luck that groom picked matron #1's husband to be in the wedding. it wasn't a big deal before when neither of them were walkin with their husbands, so now that one does, the other feels she has to. i feel its selfish of her to pull a stunt like that on the day of the wedding. she is not being a friend to the bride at all.
2007-10-15 09:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋