My husband bought me a Coach purse for my birthday while he was on a business trip. He asked what style and color I wanted. I e-mailed him a picture, but when he got home with it, it is not the pattern I wanted. Do you think it is rude of me to exchange it? I don't want to hurt his feelings. I explained to him that I REALLY do appreciate it, and he is fine, but I feel bad. What do you think?
2007-10-15 09:40:47 · 25 answers · asked by Di 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, I don't think it's rude. If it was something that he went completely out of his way for and you could tell he spent serious time on than it would be rude. But this is just a purse we're talking about. He went to the trouble of asking what you wanted and then maybe he just couldn't find the exact one so he went with what he thought was the next best thing. I'm sure he wouldn't mind if you went and exchanged it for exactly what you wanted. If it were me, I would want you to have exactly what you wanted (especially if I were going to be spending that much money...Coach purses aren't cheap).
2007-10-15 10:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by NYinFL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband would want you to be happy. If you'd rather have another pattern, exchange. He'll know you appreciated the gift anyways. It's the same thing if he bought you an outfit an dit was too big/small. Would you keep it even if it wasn't right? Probably not.
One thing I forgot to add. Think about the reverse: ifyou bought your bf a gift that was very expensive but he didn't like. Wouldn't you rather he exchange it for what he does like and enjoy it rather than stash it away and force himself to use it only to make you happy? I mean, he spent a lot of money on that purse. I'm sure he doesn't want you to hide it away and pretend to like it. Someone above wrote how she got a purse and never uses it. What's the point of that? Now you have soemthing that money was wasted on and nobody is happy.
I think if you have a strong relationship, you can be honest with each other and not hurt feeling. It's really not that big of a deal. It's not like you are returning the purse for something completely different. It's still the same gift, just a different colour.
2007-10-15 16:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Exchange it. If he is anything like my lovable barbarian of a husband, it's way more important that you get what YOU want. My neanderthal husband has impressed on me many times that, in the World of Men, it's OK to give another guy a piece of software or electronics in the store bag with the receipt in it (giftwrap being totally optional), and it's OK for the recipient to exchange it -- in the World of Men, this is not offensive because it means the recipient gets the joy of getting exactly what he wants, and the giver is thus the hero in the equation. Totally counterintuitive to the rules of gift-giving in the World of Women, right?
Your hubby spent upwards of a couple hundred bucks on that purse ... trust me, for that money, he wants you to have a purse you are going to use. Believe him when he says he's fine. You have a sweet husband. :-)
2007-10-15 22:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's something that you'll still use, but not the color you wanted, I'd say keep it. If it's way off and something you'll nver use talk it over with hubby first and let him know how much you love and appreciate it, but at the price he paid you want to make sure that you'll get the most use out if it. While it was wonderful of him to buy it for you, it can be a little depressing to know that someone won't use what you bought for them. Talk to him and see what he feels about the situation.
2007-10-15 19:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by dolce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it HAVE to be exactly the pattern you were thinking of? Is the one he gave you really horrible?
On the other hand, he specifically asked, and did make a mistake. If he'd chosen it, I'd say live with it.
When you say "he is fine" do you mean he won't be hurt if you exchange it? If that's the case,then there's nothing to feel bad about.
2007-10-15 22:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man bought me a Coach purse, I'd he happy and no way would I exchange it.
2007-10-15 23:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband shelled out the cash for a Coach purse, I'd keep the one he picked out. But then I don't want a Coach purse. I think whether or not it's rude is between him and you. Will it hurt his feelings? Will you really be that devastated without the other print?
2007-10-15 16:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Just keep what he has brought. He is happy that you accepted it. Do you want him to be sad just because he got the purse with a pattern you did not want? Appreciate his kindness of buying you a purse! It would sound a bit rude if you told him about that pattern which he brought was not the one you had asked for. Be happy with what you got. It's a pattern afterall!
2007-10-15 16:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
I say keep it. If he asks what you'd like for any other gift-giving occasion, hand him the picture of what you want and verbally describe it to him while you both look at the picture. He'll probably assume you just want an additional bag.
P.S.My neighbor bought a black Mustang convertible for his wife for Christmas, and it was a surprise. When she saw it, she told him, "I wish it was red". He was crushed- there was obviously a lot of expense and thoughtfulness behind the gift, and she was ungracious enough to tell him that.
2007-10-15 17:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by holey moley 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Exchange it. He meant to buy the one you want, he's just a guy and messed it up. I'm sure that for the $ he spent, he'd want you to have the purse you wanted.
2007-10-15 17:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by Katie G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋