lately my bf has been saying things like "we're not in this short term" and things like that and today i caught him staring at me and he said "i feel really good about us".....we've been dating for a year and half and he hasnt said this stuff before....do u think hes thinking of marriage or proposing or am i jumping the gun?
2007-10-15 09:26:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
we moved in together 4 months ago
2007-10-15 09:31:47 · update #1
I don't think it's necessarily a prelude to an official proposal, but he is starting to think of you two as a permanant thing, which is a good start.
But I doubt he has much of an agenda. A lot of guys are in the "I'm okay with this being a forever thing" place, but that doesn't mean they plan to propose within weeks of coming to that realization.
Try not to overcomplicate things. It sounds like you guys are in a good place.
Winebabe makes a semi-point. For her, a proposal needs to be forthcoming. She sees something she really likes and grabs it before it can get away, and that's fine -- for her. Not everyone is like that, though. Some people are less inclined to want marriage, so when they meet the one they eventually marry, it takes a while to actually reach that point. Some people don't feel that rush and go into marriage only after they feel really prepared for it.
I have two sisters, and I and one of the others are happily married to men we had whirlwind dating relationships with. The other dated her husband for eight years. On the seventh anniversary of their first date, he proposed. They are just much more methodical about things, and take their time about everything. We're all happy, and we're all with the one we wanted to be with.
2007-10-15 09:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
He could be but I wouldn't get too excited just yet. It's sweet of him to say those things though. He's thinking of you two as being together in the long term so chances are a proposal may be in the future but it can't predict when or how soon.
2007-10-15 10:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably it is really the best feeling when he proposes just don't put in your head just in case he doesn't and don't ever tell him that you had a feeling that will make him feel less of a man, because he wants to do it as a surprise for sure...good luck and try to enjoy each other, don't think about it till it happens
2007-10-15 10:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wine babe, seriously? You would leave a guy if he hadn't proposed after 6 months? Then I must be in trouble because I am going on 4 years in May without a proposal and I'm pretty sure I'm happy. Come on now, pull it together. Good for you but thats rediculous.
Anywho, I wouldn't get too worked up about it yet. You don't want to get your hopes up and then it not be the case. He could be simply letting you know that he loves you more and more each day type thing and that he sees you guys lasting.
I have a friend getting hitched in 2 and 1/2 weeks and she is happy as can be, been with her boyfriend for just about6 years.
2007-10-15 09:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 4 · 7⤊ 3⤋
I wouldn't dwell on it. If he is thinking about it, (and you're okay with it), then just go with the flow--you want it to be a surprise! If he isn't, then just enjoy the relationship, no need to hurry things along.
(Please keep in mind that Winebabe's advice is NOT typical and it is silly to drop someone if they haven't proposed in 6 months. Most people do not get married that fast and it would be careless to do so. Everyone goes at their own pace.)
However, if you are not feeling ready for marriage and you think that he is, you may want to bring that up with him. Make sure you guys are on the same page before a big decision like that. Good luck though, sounds like a good thing you've got going!
2007-10-15 09:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by Biz 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Nope. No signs of proposal here. He's seing things more seriously, but that's about it.
Good luck
2007-10-15 09:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Not really a proposal but he is getting serious about you.
Congrats!
2007-10-15 11:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably enjoying living with you at this point. As it has only been a couple of months he is probably realizing what a commitment you have already made.
Enjoy your time together and don't rush things! And definitely DO NOT listen to Winebabe! I just got engaged after dating someone for 6 years. I would have waited forever for him.
2007-10-15 09:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by Merry Christmas 1 · 4⤊ 4⤋
He could be thinking about it, so theres a good chance he'll ask you to marry him. Or maybe move in ( just in case your already not).
Congrats!
Must be a wonderful feeling
2007-10-15 09:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're getting there, but I wouldn't walk around expecting him to propose. You'll just wind up disappointing yourself for no good reason. When the time comes, he'll propose.
2007-10-15 09:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by ZombieExpert 2 · 8⤊ 3⤋