Don't get me wrong, I love sex, but it has never been affected by emotion for me. I pretty much do not feel emotion when I am having it. Even if it is with someone I love, I still do not feel any profound "loving" feelings during sex. I have never developed feelings for a person after having sex with them. I do not form attachments to people because I had sex with them. Sex is purely physical for me and I am pretty sure it always will be.
Is this odd??
2007-10-15 09:23:29 · 13 answers · asked by Linz ♥ VT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not odd at all.
I think that if people practise sex with partners they love, usually love (instinct of it) comes first then sex after (though I can't generalise, there are isolated cases).
I agree, sex is purely physical pleasure, also a human instinct, but to me, it can also be emotional as well, only when I care about the person.
2007-10-15 09:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not really odd at all.
Sex is not naturally part of love, only as such because humans consider the act of sex and really everything that has to do with sexuality to be private. So human's only do these things with people they trust. Such is the reason humans make words like intimate go with the word sex, when there is really no reason for it.
I think espically for women they are breed to feel that sex is only an expression of love. Even in 2007 many women do not understand that sex can be an enjoyable activity just for physical pleasure.
It is like running. Sometimes you need a emotional reason to run, like being chanced by a dog. But sometimes running is just fun for the pure act of running. Sex is the same way.
2007-10-15 16:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's not really weird a lot of people feel that way. When I have sex with certain people I feel like it is no attachments so why would I like love the person out of nowhere. In your mind is where you make the connection of love. If someone leads me on and has sex with me I do develop feelings for them. Which happened once and the person totally avoided me afterwards so I guess I was just a tool =(. Sex is about needs but it is sooooo much better with someone you love.
2007-10-15 16:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by In hiding 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see it as odd because I feel the exact same way. I have also met a number of people of both sexes who share the same sentiment.
It's certainly a possibility to have an emotional connection, but it is by no means necessary. Nor does a lack of emotional connection make the end product any less spectacular.
2007-10-15 16:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by Peter D 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Same here, although sometimes I do kinda feel bad a few days later and get that confused with actual 'emotion', but during the deed I'm too focused on what I'm trying to accomplish to be all "lovey".
That probably didn't make sense.
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2007-10-15 16:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Brandon's been a dirty Hore 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. I don't know that I'd use the word "weird". Atypical might be more appropriate. Especially for a woman. I think men are generally more emotionally constructed to separate the two things. And it's always been my impression that women are less inclined to. But that might be some kind of baseless socialization for all I know. Either way, don't sweat it. You are who you are and there's nothing wrong with that.
2007-10-15 16:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Weird? Odd? Not at all. Out of the norm? Maybe, but what is normal? I am close to how you are, but I do have an emotional bond during sex with my wife (unless we are not making love and just enjoying pure lust). But everyone else I am with, there is no emotion, just enjoyment.
2007-10-15 16:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
No. That's pretty much how I feel too. I'm not sure why though. Lots of people seem to tie it all together.
2007-10-15 16:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by Shay V 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you haven't had sex with the right person yet
2007-10-15 16:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by darwinsfriend AM 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is not weird at all. Sex and love are not necessarily synonomous with each other.
2007-10-15 16:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋