Is drinking "all that"?

Question

I'm in my 20's and have the most overprotective, old fashioned parents...sometimes it's a good thing and sometimes...it's kinda hard...

For me to get where i am today with their trust and for them not to get paranoid...is HUGE...i'm the oldest so they STILL have the hardest time letting go (even with the littlest things 16 yr olds can do grrr) I'm a simple girl and i usually don't go along w. the crowd...i've got values and i'm a smart cookie :) Being the oldest, i've kinda had to grow up and be mature compared to others my own age but of course, they'll see something else, as "innocent".

I was planning on having some on my bday until my cousin brought it up (getting me drunk) and of course, the FREAKED...the whole "drinking" thing didn't even come up w. them 'til now and they're back to freaking out again..

HELP...is it really worth it?
they don't care once i get my degree but it's "distracting" while i'm still in school...

i've had some drinks before...just not all the time...probably about 3 times...

Answer 1

Drinking really isn't all that... I turn 21 a week from today... and to be honest, I'm not doing anything for my bday. To some college students drinking is the only thing that keeps them going...

There's a lot of alcoholics in my family... a grandfather, 2 uncles (from both sides of my family) and my dad is a very social drinker (he's retired, so I give him credit for at least working for 40 years before hitting the bottle) but still... I see the way my uncles are and it's like 'yeah... I don't wanna be like that."

Getting drunk once in a while isn't that big of a deal (specially if you have a DD, or are at home to begin with) There's no sense in drinking to death, however if you wanna go out every few weeks and have a drink or two, go for it. Your parents are just worried that you'll get too into being able to drink, and in all honesty... they sort of have a point... I know a lot of people in college who are constantly drunk. However I think it has to do with the school I go to... it's considered a 'party school'

Answer 2

yes. it is "all that" ... secondly, I find it hard to believe you've never imbibed. Here is a list of things to do and to avoid

1. Stick with beer. If you want to do shots, you've got to acquire a taste for hard liquor. I would recommend taking it easy your first night out, and limit yourself to one beer per hour. You will get a feeling that makes you feel a little light-headed and smiley and generally relaxed. You will become more sociable and find yourself saying things you would mostly keep to yourself, but it's okay, because everyone else will od it too.

Word of warning: Alcohol makes you feel "sexier" and less inhibited. Please think through before you lock lips with a stranger you may think is cute. Sometimes, you'll wake up the next day and go, "Oh, damn - why did I do that?"

2. If you prefer to have hard liquor, limit your intake as well. Don't drink a whole bottle of vodka, especially when you have no tolerance for alcohol built up. That said, if you do partake in shots, do them before (and I would recommned only one or two for you) you start drinking beer. The worst drunken episodes come from people who mix hard liquor and beer throughout the night. The difference in alcohol concentration makes your liver very confused. Dive right in, and then switch to the lighter stuff (beer)

3. Always drink a glass of water before you go to bed. I drink frequently and heavily and I am NEVER hungover. EVER. (knock on wood) That's because I know my limits and I know how "being drunk" feels and when I've had enough. You say you're smart, so gauge it out. If you're finding it difficult to speak, or your old accent starts coming out, etc., it's probably time to go to White Castle and have some food and stop drinking.

4. Drink water throughout the night. You don't want to kill your buzz, but you don't want to have complete tunnel vision. Tunnel vision is not really how it sounds. What it means is that your perception and awareness gets dumbed down. While you'd normally notice a guy across the bar wearing a bikini when sober, it might not cross your plane of attention unless someone points it out. You become "inwardly" aware, if that makes sense

All in all, the general relaxation and sociability of free-wielded talking and laughing is a great method of winding down. When it consumes you is when its a problem. The buzz is great, the conversation is great, and everything you used to not enjoy will suddenly become something that makes you happy.

hope that helps.

Answer 3

Its not ALL THAT..but it can be nice to taste different beers/liquors/wines. They shouldnt have a problem as long as you set a limit, especially since you are not used to drinking.

what is NOT fun is getting drunk, when you do you act stupid, and get sick with a terrible hangover (room spinning, hadache, stomache, vomiting).

So if you are drinking beer, ONLY drink beer and only have a couple. If you are drinking anything made with vodka, stick with only ONE (cosmopolitan, apple martini, etc.) if you want to try more than one then have half of each. Wine no more than 2 glasses. Champagne and amaretto sours are a bit weaker, so you can probably have 4 glasses of those. Dont mix your liquor, and dont drink too much.

If your parents can see you are responsible, I am sure they wont mind if you have a drink on new years or your birthday. The key is dont get used to it. It is an expensive habit not to mention you shouldnt NEED it to have fun. If you do, or start going to bars evey weekend then STOP because you are in trouble!

Answer 4

You are in your 20's and never had one drop of alcohol? WOW! Honestly I believe that EVERY person HAS to sew their wild oats. You can not always be the perfect young lady, that goes to church every sunday morning, doesnt drink, doesnt smoke, in bed at 9pm every night... that is pleasantville/ stepford wives stuff!!! I am not telling you to go out and get blitzed out of your mind every night of the week, but I am telling you that you need to become your own person. Sure getting a degree is a great thing, but what happens when you turn 30 and you are married and have 2 kids in your big beautiful house with a white picket fence and you look back and have SO many regrets on things you didnt ever do. Its not a matter of IF that happens, its a matter of WHEN! One of my friends did that except she went a WAY off beat path and her mom never let her go out, and when she was 16 her mom let her get married and the first thing she thought would just be the icing on her cake was to have a baby with her husband at age 16! Make her lovely life complete. She dropped out of school to be the wife and the mom, she never got her teenage years, she never got to go to proms, parties, any of that stuff and she just turned 25 and has broken out of her old ideals of having a "perfect" life and she cheated on her husband several times and is drinking and doing drugs... the difference in her and you is that she has a CHILD in the middle of this, she has a HUSBAND in the middle of this... and that makes it 10 times worse for her to be doing this stuff when she has a family that she is breaking up to "sew her wild oats"... do it before then, because if it hasnt surfaced yet, IT WILL! And btw "sewing your wild oats" does not nessisarily mean drinking and drugs, just being a rebelious little sh*t head basically...

Answer 5

There's a difference between drinking and getting drunk. You can do one without the other. Drinking responsibly can be relaxing. It can be fun.

Drinking to get blitzed is irresponsible. It can be dangerous to your health for a whole bunch of reasons. Alcohol poisoning. Drunk driving. Lowered inhibitions meaning you're more likely to put yourself in dangerous situations including drugs and unprotected sex or rape. Not to mention the horrible headache and upset stomach of a hangover.

If you want to make your parents more comfortable prove to them that you know the difference. And stick to drinking responsibly.

Answer 6

No its not all that...wait.

Why do you think there are drunk drivers? Cause they are drunk and make a stupid decision. Thats what you do when your drunk....you make stupid decisions. So guess what, you get drunk and now your not smart...your drunk. Now your not just less smart than you usually are your less smart than the stupid guy who didnt get drunk and you wake up in his bed. Or worse....like my daughter who was drunk and so was her boyfriend and they were coming back from partying in Wichita Falls and he tried to pass going over a hill. My daughter is buried in Altus Okla, she was 25, maybe you should ask her what to do. I think she would say wait, what do you think? Dont care if others think of you as innocent ... better to be thought of that way than a stupid drunk or maybe even dead.

Answer 7

You don't need to drink. Stay in school and study. Your parents must love and care for you alot. You are very lucky. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Not really....I don't drink becaue I simply don't see the hype about it. And loosing control isn't as fun as it may appear in movies....anything can happen if you are drunk and I mean anything....If you want to drink then go ahead but do it because you want to. Not because you think its cool.

Answer 9

I'm 30 educated, great job, wonderful lovers and friends.

we don't drink... because it's a waste of time while you are sitting and drinking, getting drunk, and getting over being drunk, you are missing a lot of much more interesting things....

Plus, in my case it slows my libido....

Answer 10

Drinking is not all that and you can have a great time without drinking. You should stick to your studies for now!!