why does my 6 year old daughter humiliate me in public?

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i am a middle aged man who is having a problem,i have been married to a wonderful beautiful lady for nine years,it has been a great marriage with only one exception,six years ago my lovely beautiful wife gave birth to baby girl.at first i was really exited about being a father,i have always wanted to be the father of a beautiful smart daughter.but i will be honest,our six year old daughter has been one dissapointment after another,and i am not sure how long i can take it.one week ago i took my daughter to the fair,we were waiting in line to ride a roller coaster,in front of all those people my daughter began to scream and cry,this went on and on for ten minutes,i informed my daughter that she was humiliating me and i told her to stop or else daddy will not take her to public places anymore.my daughter is not very pretty as is,but with all the screaming crying she became even less pretty.i have decided i will no longer take her anywhere because she embarrases me,my wife feels the same w

Answer 1

I think you and your wife may want to consider family counseling and parenting classes. There are ways to get the upper hand in a situation like this. There are coping skills you can learn. It almost sounds like you regret having a child or had other expectations on what it's like to have children.

She is her own individual. She is not a pet or a robot for you to control. She needs disciple, boundaries, love, attention, help her expand her creativity and learning. She is a child and should enjoy being a kid.

I have nothing else to add...but I would encourage you to seriously consider what I've suggested.

Answer 2

I did not even read all of your question because I know the answer. Here it is.

BECAUSE YOU LET HER!!!!! If my child at 6 would have started that...she would have gotten her butt busted right there in front of God and everyone and taken home. Stop being a Wus and bust her butt. You are the parent and she is the child. Let her know that and that when she acts up she don't get what she wants.

Also how can you say that your child is not pretty? That is really low. All children are pretty! It sounds to me like Dad has issues himself and should see someone.


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Why are you upset with your daughter, she is only doing what you & your wife have been doing for years. This behavior just did not start she has been doing it for a while you shuld have trained her from the time she can walk how to behave. That comes from the home giving in just to keep the peace or not wanting to be botherd so she always got her way & know you have the end results. I a very desrespectful daughter & your not so nice yourself mentioning that she is not a pretty child all parents should adore ther childern reguadless of looks do you & your wife talkd about her looks in front of her or worst do you call her ugly to her face.
the whole family needs help not just your daughter. You also seem like your daughter intrued on you & your wife seems you would like it better if your daughter was not born ? you should be ashamed.

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I wonder what kind of a moron you are.. But then I read the following . "Q" ..
Do that baby girl of yours a favor divorce your wife and drop out of their lives
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Wow...maybe you need to think about what's going on with HER. It sounds like you don't like her that much...and she can probably tell. Maybe that's why she's acting out.

It's really hard for me to understand you thinking your child is just one disappointment after another because children are the greatest gift that God can give a person!

But I DO understand not wanting to go out in public with your child. I HAVE been there. We had a time where we had lots of tantrums. You just have to be firm, "This is unacceptable behavior. If you continue, we will leave." Then you need to follow through. Don't give her power by telling her that she's humiliating you...she'll then use that...she knows it gets to you. You have to be calm and firm.

It actually sounds like you might have a combination of a lack of discipline and that she can tell you don't like her.
Your job as a parent is to make her feel special and important and loved. To praise her when she does things good and right, and to discipline her when she does things wrong.

Answer 6

I hope that this question is some kind of a joke! Just in case that it is not...
The more that you continue to make these kind of comments in front of your daughter and the longer that you keep this kind of attitude about her she will continue to cry out for attention. And that is exactly what all this crying in public is all about....a cry for attention. Try being patient and loving and understanding with her. Dont tell her that she is humiliating you, ask her the reason for her crying and try to deal with the real issue. And for heavens sake please dont make comments like she is not pretty and that you dont want to be seen with her in public. You will be emotionally and mentally scaring the poor girl for life.

Answer 7

Stop putting so much emphasis on beauty and start being a parent. Children throw temper tantrums. That's what they do. You have to be patient and discipline her. Who cares what other people think? Get a grip.

Answer 8

Bring her to therapy... Really.
And note: SHE IS JUST A 6 YEAR OLD.
She'll grow up and hush up.
Don't bring her out to places as much. Only special occasions such as going on a plane to _______. Or when you are going to the market, bring her with you and tell if you be quiet, you'll buy her something.
Don't give up hope for her and turn her into the orphantage..

Answer 9

Ur a disgrace to fatherhood... what the hell is wrong with you? She is ur daughter, to u she should be the prettiest 6 yr. old in the world. If i were her i would embarass u ever chance i get too.
Hopefully her time with u wont scar her too much

Answer 10

shes ur daughter and how can u feel so about her..have a heart,instead of complaning about a innocent little child,try to fix the problem,identify her issues and talk to her and explain it to her the way kids understand bot by being angry with her and punishing her,good luck!!