I asked a couple questions today and mentioned a couple times that while I am a Christian, my husband is an atheist and I have had several "Christians" tell me that if I loved my husband I would try to make him into a believer of Christ.. so let me ask this..
My husband is a good man. he's an excellent father. he's faithful to me. He works long hours six days a week to provide for his family so that his wife (me) can be home witht he children because he feels that's important. He is kind to everyone and doesn't judge others' lifestyles. He doesn't try to tell me not to believe. In fact, he's happy that I am happy in my faith.
Forgive me if I insult you- but you are ALL judging other people unfairly when you claim that anyone who doesn't believe is bound for Hell. Do you realize that not believing isn't the only sin in the bible? So is judgint others- wearing make up- cross breeding cattle- and lying..
So what gives "christians" the right to say he's damned?
2007-10-15 08:54:32 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I believe I'll see him in Heaven a long time before I see anyone who throws around judgments..
2007-10-15 08:59:14 · update #1
They have no right to say he is damned.
Jesus himself say, very plainly, not to judge others.
So I would suggest that if somebody was judging your husband's suitability or lack of suitability for heaven or hell, they are not following Jesus's teachings. People who do not follow Jesus's teachings can't be called Christians.
Those people might be fundamentalists, but they are not Christians.
2007-10-15 08:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by Acorn 7 · 13⤊ 4⤋
I can totally understand how you feel. That judgemental attitude is ONE of the reasons why I am no longer a Christian minister.
It is true that there are MANY very good people in the world and throughout history who have not worn the title "Christian". And it is also true that many of these same people have been atheists. I ask you to consider one thing for me:
What does God ACTUALLY require for a person to get into Heaven? It is not actions or good deeds. The Bible says that salvation come only from the GRACE (unmerrited favor) of God as a free gift. This free gift is when God shines a light into the soul of soneone at just the right time and they can actually "see" the truth. At that moment the person makes a choice: Accept God's gift of eternal life or reject it.
The ONLY thing that a person MUST do to receive this free gift is to trust in Jesus Christ alone and what he did on the cross for their salvation. That's it! It is so simple, but people have made it so difficult with all of their stupid little rules and regulations!! Did you know that it is easier for a person to get into Heaven than to get a church membership card! LOL! Sad, but true.
Do not take to heart what any of these people on Y/A tell you. Love your husband. Live your life for Christ and let Christ's love flow through you to him. Pray for him and believe that God will open your husband's heart. He will do it.
2007-10-15 09:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by tempest_twilight2003 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not stress out about a few wrong opinions but just be encouraged that you are already the Light of Jesus in your household.
There are quite a few lovely Christian women in church and I do feel it for them coming each time without their husbands.Every prayer that you've said for your husband has not gone unheard by Him.These other christians are wrong because you cannot make your husband a believer.You cannot save your hubby only by him accepting Jesus as his personal saviour can he be.
We should not be condemning anyone to hell but lifting them and your husband in prayer.
You have my prayers and I hope other christians are praying for you too.
Relax and know that Jesus dearly loves your husband and wants nothing more for him to know Him ...which in time i'm sure he will.
2007-10-15 09:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mercede's Lamp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man is 3 things,# 1 A Protecter of the Home,Wife and Children
# 2 A Provider
# 3 A Priest You said He is Good,How Good?when He isn"t fulfiling # 3 ,How can two walk together unless they are in Agreement?Children will be confused,He will watch Your Life,
Nagging Him will not work;You can"t make someone a Believer;Get in Your closet and talk to God about this;
2007-10-15 09:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by section hand 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say that your husband isn't a Christian....but are you SURE? He might be. He might be quiet and not verbvalizing all of his convictions to you.
Ask your husband a few simple questions:
1. Do you believe that you have sinned and come short of the Glory of God? (a no brainer...Duh.....the anser is YES.)
2. Do you believe that Jesus was sent to this Earth, lived on this Earth, and died and then rose again.... to pay for all of your sins? ( I find that very easy to believe.)
3. Are you sorry that you keep sinning no matter how hard you try not to? (We're all pretty sad idiots here. Since his father made us.....He has our heartfelt sympathy that we keep screwing up.)
4. Do you want Jesus to come into your heart and make life easier for you? (Wouldn't it be great if someone could make it easier and has the power to do that for you??????!!!!!! We have a volunteer! His name is Jesus! He's the man for the job.)
5. Then ask Jesus to please come into your heart and please take over!!
It's that easy. It's so easy.
Tell everyone: My Father said he is building a great place for us and if we ask him, we can GO! YOU can GO!!! I asked if I could go and He said "Sure". I'm so excited!!! You wanna come too? Just ask!!!!!! Please ask him. I want you to come with me.
2007-10-15 09:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ayliann 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They have no right at all, but it IS consistent with christian doctrine - sort of.
The doctrine does state the requirements for eternal life as clearly as anything else in the book. What they can NOT say is whether your husband will ever fulfil those requirements or whether there will be an opportunity to comply when face to face with 'god'.
They certainly cannot legitimately tell you that your husband is definitely going to hell, and any who do must concede that without proof, all they are doing is making a hate speech.
2007-10-15 08:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Remember, in their minds they are not judging your husband as being any worse a person than anyone else. They just don't think that a person's personal qualities have anything to do with admission to heaven. Nasty believers are automatically in; nice, good non-believers are automatically out.
Unfortunately, this is a core part of standard Christian theology. By declaring yourself a Christian, you are opening yourself up to fellow Christians' simply stating core Christian doctrines.
I happen to agree with you that it's a cruel theology, but it is what it is. You are free, of course to hold to a more liberal version -- e.g., faith in JC is enough, but is not the only way to heaven -- but you will definitely be outside the mainstream of Christian views (certainly of fundamentalist Christian views), and outside the clear text of the Christian bible.
You might also allow this to lead you to question whether a decent god would set up a system like this. Have you ever checked out a Unitarian church? It might be a good fit.
2007-10-15 10:25:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well If you are a Christian then it is because you have received Christ as your personal Savior and are born again as it says in the Bible that we must be..
If we aren't born again then we aren't a Christian..
John 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.
The Bible is the book that judges everything and everyone and the Christian only applies the book to what he sees..
If I know the law and say you are breaking the law, then I am not condemning you but advising you. Then when the police arrest you it is not me, but them that have come to judge..
The Christian advises but then God judges and it is too late to claim ignorance of the law of God..
Your husband being an atheist doesn't even believe in God let alone obey his laws or ask forgiveness. How then can he be saved? He doesn't believe so therefore can not be saved and if he is not saved, then how do you expect to see him in heaven? Especially in a heaven where he doesn't even believe in the God of heaven, let alone the place..
With all respect I believe that you have an intellectual knowledge of Christianity but really do not understand what it is all about.. ( I do not say this to offend you, but you did ask a question, right and I have answered it. )
2007-10-15 08:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by † PRAY † 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I am a Christian and I don't think that others should be judging your husband. That is up to God Himself. I believe that our Father in Heaven sees all of His children and knows their hearts. He knows who is good and who needs help; He understands why some believe and some do not. He has promised that all will know and recognize what His message is and there will be no doubts in their heart and mind. I pray for those who don't believe and trust God for the rest. I do not judge others because they don't believe as I do. I think we are supposed to be the example and not the "strangle them with the Word" type of people. God will show them through different means than that. He doesn't say to go and criticize and make enemies of the non-believers; He says to go and show love to them. Those who doubt that God can handle the job of teaching and helping those to get the message are not trusting God at His word. Pray for your husband, love him for who he is and for all of his good qualities. Turn your concerns over to God and be patient. I have non-believers in my own family and I don't worry about it. I trust God.
2007-10-15 09:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by turkeybrooknj 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well that part about you trying to change him is only a good way to end up without a husband. It sounds like you have things worked out and that is no small accomplishment. Don't let morons on the internet screw it up. But it really doesn't sound like you intend to.
2007-10-15 08:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
listen sweetheart I know how you feel about this. I am going through the same problem. You are right there are many sins and you need to ask yourself would god want you to see your husband as a damned man or as a loving husband and father?we cannot change our husbands all we can do is love them and support them isnt that what god teaches? Its kinda like would god rather see him abandoned or embraced i think the answer is obvious.Noone but god knows what happens when we die. We all have our own version of god..... and who he is but I doubt he is such a bad thing as to base love soley on belief
2007-10-15 09:02:28 · answer #11 · answered by hispregnantwife! 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋