I am curious if you share in the picking up and dropping off of your children with their father? Is it standard for the non-custodial parent to pick up and drop off at the mothers residence? Thanks.
2007-10-15 08:46:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I usually have to transport and have been for years because he does not have a license to drive and hasnt for many years. I dont think it depends who has custody, just something that should be settled before visitation starts or during the divorce.
2007-10-15 08:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be stated in the divorce decree. If not, then there is possibly a "default" standard according to your state's laws.
Mine is stated that non-custodial parent is responsible. It also states times for picking up and returning. However, when the children were younger I was reluctant to let them ride with my ex because he drank and had also had blackout episodes that I didn't know diagnosis for, and because I pretty much didn't trust him or his judgment in general. I tried to make arrangements with his parents for taking custody of the children during visitation, and I did some of the driving myself just so I could make sure they got there safely (and make sure he wasn't taking them somewhere else besides specified location). Now my son is old enough to drive, so he does the driving to visit his dad. With modern gps technology, I suppose you could monitor kids that way.
But as far as saving on gas expense and time driving, I think in most cases it is the non-custodial parents' responsibility. See what your decree specifies, or if your divorce is not final, try to get the decree worded the way you want.
2007-10-15 08:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it should be a shared task. Perhaps one picks up and the other drops off...of course depending what works best for everyones schedule. Too many people trying to fight on minor issues like this. People got along well enough to make the babies they ought to get along enough to raise or co-parent them.
2007-10-15 09:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My kids father picks and drop my kids off. He took me to court to get them every other weekend so I shouldn't be responsable for transportation. He doesnt mind though.
2007-10-15 08:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by eye_candy380 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's more a come and go thing for us, I have a car. He has a part time taxi. what ever is handy for both we try to work it between us, it makes it easier on the kids, if we try to be civil. If she's just being awkward IE she can drive and you cant. I'd see a lawyer or the citizens advice.
2007-10-15 08:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by alan w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to meet my daughter's father half way - this is about an hour and half drive. We have been doing this for nearly 10 years. It is used to be every other weekend now it is about once a month to every other month as in she doesn't care to see him much anymore.
2007-10-15 10:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should say in your "parenting agreement". at least it does in mine. i'm pretty sure it's standard for the NON-custodial parent to provide transportation. good luck!
2007-10-15 09:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by lnzymere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they should do that it is part of there responsibility but i meet my husband halfway to be nice and if i can't make it or have plans he will come all the way.........it is in our divorce papers that ha comes and gets him but i still meet him halfway
2007-10-15 08:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever works for you,,, personally i drop kids at his door and he returns them to my door. we dont go into each others houses.
2007-10-19 05:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by JENNY B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋