My best friend is getting married and her sisters have decided that the party is going to be held in a restaurant and will be funded by all the bridesmaids (the sisters are the maids of honor). The shower is going to cost $118 each, and we are also each expected to each come up with a game to play and provide a gift for the winner of the game also. Seeing as I'm already spending so much for the shower itself, am I still supposed to buy a shower gift to give to my friend on top of it?
2007-10-15 07:39:03 · 18 answers · asked by Val 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would say get a gift if you can afford one, or just dont worry about it if you cant. I'm sure the bride will appreciate all of your efforts and not have a problem with not recieving a gift. I had a couple bridesmaids that put in a lot of time and money for the bridal shower and wedding... I didnt recieve a gift from either of them, but I had absolutely no problem with it. Honestly, I didnt expect anything from them... in my eyes, they already did plenty.
If you want to get a gift and can afford one, go for it... but if not, I'd say its okay...
2007-10-15 07:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what you feel you can afford. Are the other bridesmaids buying her a gift? If you each put in $10-15 more you could get her a nice gift from all of you.
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How many people are invited? It would not be noticable if you didn't give a gift if there were 10+ other people there that were gifting her, but if their are less than that it might become awkward.
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My advice would be to give her a nice card and write a note in it saying that you hope she enjoys her shower - indicating that is your gift without saying it, or having her wonder why there was nothing from you.
Sometimes the bride gets so caught up in the whole wedding / gift getting that she will forget that everyone else is putting a lot of money into her day.
2007-10-15 07:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by Angie W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate when people are expected to put out all kinds of cash for something like this. It would be much easier to have it at someones house and everybody chip in for the food. Much cheaper too. Maybe you could still get her something very small. I don't think you should feel obligated to buy her something though. My neice did my daughters bridal shower and one of her bridesmaids didn't give her a gift. Nor did she for the wedding. She probably figured she had to buy the dress and the shoes....My daughter had no hard feelings whatsoever. She realized her friend was putting out a lot of cash for the wedding and obviously couldn't afford a gift. If you can afford a very small gift go for it...if not thats okay too.
2007-10-15 07:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by roxy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is a good friend then she is not going to expect a gift from you all she would really want is your help and support though all this.. but here is a game i played at my bridal shower.... make a list of questions.. but nothing dirty.. like the first thing he said to you when you met. or where you going on your honeymoon, or how long have they been together, what is his pet name for her..things like that...good luck and don't stress just make sure if she needs anything be there for her..
2007-10-15 08:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You are putting a LOT of money into a bridal shower for your best friend. She should realize that and be grateful for that and not think you are cheap because you didn't get her a gift.
Or, get her a small gift, a picture frame or something.
But, you do NOT have to buy a gift for her.
2007-10-15 11:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you dont have to buy a gift if you dont want to. I think that your friend will understand that is alot of money to come up with just so you can have the party maybe you want to consider haveing the party at someones house that would be a lot cheaper and you would get to buy her a gift and you wouldnt feel bad its a win win situation
2007-10-15 07:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by Candy Cane 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its completely Optional
totally up to you
i mean you are putting all the expensives
So that would be the coolest gift in it self
I on the other hand am still giving my friend a gift basket
If you are making a big shower
stick to a small inexpensive gift
but again its completly optional
2007-10-15 07:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by Wicked Aliens 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its very nice that all of you pitched in for your friend. Im sure that she doesnt expect gifts from you guys after giving the party. Many would say that its proper etiquette to give a gift as well, but i think the party and the thought that went into it is a much more thoughtful gift :)
2007-10-15 07:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by jodes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't invite people to the shower who are not invited to the wedding so I would expect you are going to be invited to both. I would send a gift and a card to the shower as a nice gesture. Just something that you can afford, nothing extravagant. Good luck!
2016-05-22 19:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, a gift is typically still given. I know being a BM is a rediculous expense you never fully anticipate when you accept the post... you can give a jar candle from AC moore (they're under $5, but still nice).
2007-10-15 08:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋