Ok so, im 14 turning 15 jan. 5. my name is kelly/ he just turned 21,,, his name is brandon,...im Very mature for my age, hes very imature, i act like im 17-18, he acts like hes 16-17, we have been dating for about 3 months, If You Saw us Walking Down the Street... Would U think its wrong?
2007-10-15 07:37:09 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It s too hard to judge someone on how they look together, but that is a big age difference, why though do you care what people think though>? What I mean is , you like the guy right, and if your parents know how old he is then, let it be. Just dont let him control you though because of your age all right!! Good luck
2007-10-15 08:29:44 · answer #1 · answered by Carlos de La Vega 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly dont think there's anything wrong with that. Especially because you said your mom is fine with it. Just as long as he is good to you and respects you i think thats wonderful you guys have been together for 7 months. I know right now it may seem like a big age difference, but i know many people that have large age differences and have the best marriages. For instance, my grandma and grandpa have been married 55 years and my grandpa is 15 years older than my grandma is and they still walk around holing hands like they just started dating, and my cousin has been with this guys who is 10 years older than her and i havent even seen them get annoyed at each other. I'm 17 and i have been dating this guy who is 24 for a while now and i love it! haha. I'm not sure what to tell you about if you should tell other people though. Some people are really biased against large age gaps and could try an split you two up, but if you trust the person then go and tell them lol.
2016-05-22 19:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to what others have said, I will share my opinion. Since you say that you have been dating for 3 months, you obviously like each other and telling you that it is bad or wrong probably won't change anything.
So my advice is to just be careful. And no, I would not think it was wrong to see you together on the street. The age difference is not that great. Now, if he were a 40 year old, that would not look so good.
2007-10-16 06:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jani G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adolescence (you're right in the middle of it, sweetie) is a time of experimenting and making mistakes. You can't become an adult without making some bad choices and learning from them.
That said, the choice you're making by choosing to be with this person is a very high-risk choice. I know you think you're being careful, and perhaps you are, but I can tell you from both first-hand experience (yes, I do remember my own adolescence) and second-hand experience (I also take care of a lot of adolescents, and have seem some really bad outcomes) that it's very unlikely.
And, you know, what's your hurry? Sex and dating will still be exciting when you're 17, 18, 19, and you will be smarter and better able to take care of issues before they become serious mistakes. 14 is a really bad time to get pregnant, or a sexually transmitted disease, or be in a relationship that turns violent or abusive, or to get a reputation that you are willing to be more sexual than your peers.
I hope you are talking with your parents or some other adult you trust to have your best interests at heart. If you don't think you can talk to your parents, find a teacher, guidance counselor, preacher, older sister or cousin, someone who is old enough to have gotten through their teen years without making really horrible mistakes. Someone who will love you regardless of your choices, but can help you think about why you're doing this.
2007-10-16 16:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. R. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, girl I know that you may think its cool and just trust me I have been there before. Thats wrong! He needs to get a life. I could see yall as maybe being friends but, anymore then that and he should be locked up. When you turn 18 then you can do whatever with whoever but until then you need to keep within 2 years age difference. I mean seriously would you date a 7 year old??
2007-10-15 07:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how mature you think you are....this is totally illegal. He could go to jail for a very long time..he would be put on the sex offender list. Obviously he is immature for even looking at a 14 year old..no offense to you.
You should either date someone your own age or don't date at all. I would go nuts if my 15 year old niece went out with a 21 year old man.
2007-10-15 08:04:06 · answer #6 · answered by Rosita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how mature you think you are, the law states differently. In Michigan the man is looking at fifteen years for pedophile and, the rest of his life as a sex offender. That's the law. He will get four years in prison if he ever goes within 1000 feet of a juvenile playground, or school. He will get four years if he ever forgets to register and, if he ever sees you again, he'll get life in prison, is this worth it to you to sashay down the street, acting like grown up and, acting so big? huh? little lady?
2007-10-15 07:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would think it was inappropriate. He needs to grow up and stop preying on children. You might think that you are mature but a few years from now you will realize how much more mature you could have been.
Why does a 21 year old want to be with a young teenager?
2007-10-15 07:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by jellybean 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I thought that kind of thing was illegal. If I was to see someone with that big of an age difference while they are young I would think it was a bit strange. But in about 10 or 20 years it would only seem like a couple of years.
2007-10-15 07:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by Andrea luvs u...maybe...lol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call the cops.
At 14 I don't care HOW mature you are you are not in a place where you can say you know what you are doing.
What about drinking, clubbing, gamling, military service and sex?
You can not have any experience or opinion of any of those subjects legally. how do you know what life is going to teach you or change in you?
You can NOt knowwhat you want in life at 14. That is just a 21yo taking advantage of you.
2007-10-15 07:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋