The relationship is new but very intense for a long distance relationship. I just want him to meet my effort half way. How do i handle this?? So confused!!!!!
2007-10-15 07:32:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him its his turn to drive to you. Make it a joke, I'm too tired after the long job to be at the top of my gain, etc., but also make it clear that you want him to drive to see you this time.
2007-10-15 07:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by redwine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a mutual thing, he should not have a problem. Do you both work, and have a decent income? If yes, then you should share the visitations.
Or, meet halfway, if you both can afford it. The trick is, the response you get may not be the one you want.
Try the, "Hey...I'm going to make dinner for us; what time can you be here???"
Or, "My car is making a funny sound every so often; I don't want to ge too far before I get it checked."
Or, even..."I've been there about 5 times already. It's time for you to come here. I want you to see my place."
If the relationship is intense, why would there be a fight??? You do need to think about that.
2007-10-15 07:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by wiscman77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop making the trip.
Tell him the truth, the truth never hurt anybody, its the not telling that creates problems.
If he is "wanting" this relationship, he should make an effort.
Give him the option, if he does not take it, no biggy, just stay home that weekend, and get some well deserved rest and catch up time with friends, family and "stuff'.
If he doesn't bring it up and ask you if you are coming, or offer to come himself, then that is telling you something isn't it.
A relationship needs to be a sharing, commitment by both people concerned.
2007-10-15 07:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 06:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by mccaleb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very nice about it and ask him if it would be okay if maybe the two of you swap to every other week or something.I don't think he'll take it in a bad way b/c gas is high.Besides he needs to also make an effort it can't just be you trying to make it work.....it takes 2 in a relationship!!!!!
2007-10-15 07:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by spoilt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By not going and telling him that it is his turn to come to you. If he doesn't then you know that he really doesn't care to be that close to you, and will not make the effort to come to you. If he won't meet you half way now, what do you think it will be like after the newness wears off?
2007-10-15 07:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it's early into the relationship...I would tell him to come to you so he can meet your friends and if he really cares about having a relationship he will make the drive. If he just doesn't want to the I would seriously consider ending the relationship.
2007-10-15 07:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by to_sassy4_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your bf that you are bfs and that he/she should take the time and visit you for a change and make plans from there were you two will exchange weekends or weeks whatever is more convenient to take turns traveling to see one another.
2007-10-15 07:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by sandra m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how intense can it be if he never comes to see you? You are likely a convenience. You come to screw him, so he is happy. Other than that, he is not willing to make an effort....an hour and a half is NOT far.
2007-10-15 07:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by zanthus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth.It never hurts.If he would get mad at having to come see you,that should tell you he is taking advantage of you already.Relationships are 50-50.If he complains about it just tell him you'll see him when he can make it and then grab your friends and go out for a reminder of other guys who are in your own neck of the woods.
2007-10-15 07:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by sandy v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋