Okay, my dads a jerk and he hits me and calls me names and makes me feel miserable etc. Oh and he's a pot head. Okay, anyways, what would it take for me to get the hell out of there? I'm 15 and want to move in with my mom, my dad wont let me tho. Everytime i threaten to call the social services on him he threatens my animals and things i hold dear. I told the counselor about it today and im seeing the social services on wednesday, if they dont do anything about it i'm running away to my friends house. Will that help prove a point? What should i do?
2007-10-15 07:31:10 · 8 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
He threw freaking knives at my feet, he is losing his freaking mind!!!
2007-10-15 07:39:37 · update #1
Your mom needs to go to court and get custody of you. You are old enough to give the judge insight into where you want to live, and why.
Also go see Department of Children and Families in your state. They will come out within 24 hours, and investigate the situation. Your dad won't have time to do any harm to your animals, because DCF will not call him first, they will show up with police escort and investigate.
2007-10-15 07:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Bonnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look through the Yellow Pages and see if you can find a lawyer that gives free initial consultations. Different states have different rules, but in some states a child can elect to live with one parent or the other once the child reaches a certain age, as long as the child can give good reason. You obviously have good reason here, and in many states you can choose at age 14, so there's a good chance that YOU could go to court and petition to live with your mother. If that's not possible, start keeping track of EVERYTHING your father says and does that would show he's a bad parent (like hitting you, being verbally abusive, smoking dope, getting drunk, etc.). Write it all down, including dates, times, locations, exactly what was said or done, etc. If he hits you and leaves marks, take pictures and put them somewhere he can't find them. Then go back to social services, lay it all out for them, and DEMAND that your case worker move you out right away or you'll talk to her supervisor and have her arrested for child endangerment. Good luck, and hope you get out of that bad environment very soon.
2007-10-15 07:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell the counselor that your dad threatens you and your animals, they are obligated to do something to help. Can you get your animals out, like when he is at work? Take them to a friend's house or something? Then if your first counselor doesn't do anything, talk to your counselor at school. Their job is to keep kids safe and you are being physically and emotionally abused. You have a right to live in a safe environment where you are treated well. Can you call your Mom? Maybe she can petition the court that awarded him custody to change his mind.
2007-10-15 07:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by ItsJustMe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many states allow children to petition the court on their own behalf to tell the court who they wish to live with. At 15, that is probably old enough but you're going to have to check with an attorney who specializes in family law to find out what the law is in your state. Please do not threaten your dad with anything. It sounds like he's getting increasingly violent. If you fear for your safety, call the police. But you don't have to tell your dad what you are planning. Ask if your mom or another adult can help you with this. Be safe.
2007-10-15 07:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by CGordo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I answered your other question a little while ago. Let Social Services get involved. Tell your mom you want to live with her and have her go back in on her divorce paperwork and request a change of custody. She should be made aware of the things that are going on. By SS getting involved they will place you with your mom and then she can file. She will have SS paperwork to back her up.
2007-10-15 08:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Ana C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let Child Welfare handle the problem. If any serious beatings from your dad do occur call 911 and get the police to come right away. Your dad needs serious help with his self control. No child should have to put up with being hit and punched. That is child abuse !
Call the police right away if he ever hits or harms you again.
2007-10-15 07:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by woodster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good you have friends. What you need to do is next time wait for him to go to sleep, then call your friend and have them wait outside, then go to their house and call 911. Don't do it at your house, because he will find out. Then have your mom take him to court, and have her get custody, and maybe a restraining order. Also, i went through mild abuse so email me and let me help you.
You can do this!!
2007-10-16 06:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by a person whos cool like that 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have asked this question to many times on yahoo i think, u need to get off the PC and get some help, sounds like u need it. If u have the nerve to talk back to him (like u mentioned before when u asked this question) then get the nerver to tell someone that can help u
2007-10-16 05:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by MakeAmyUp! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋