I'm still bitter (we've been happily married for a while, but I'm just dying to know what other people think...and let me know if i'm overacting..
First let me say that my fiancee at the time, and this ex girlfriend broke up and haven't talked (except for a casual email once or twice a year) in 8 YEARS!
We got engaged in June, and around Christmas, Joe* got a package from Slut* (names have been changed to hide their identity). In the package was a bottle of cologne and a note made out to the two of us saying Dear Joe and Connie, Congrats on getting engaged. Good luck in the future..blah blah blah. It was French cologne (she's from Canada) and at first we thought it was just a nice room spray (because we don't speak french).
I thought nothing of it at first- I was just kind of like..OK- she lives in another country anyway...wierd gift. After analyzing it for a week, and looked it up, I found out it was men's cologne...NOT spray...not for men and women..so I asked Joe
2007-10-15 07:22:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
He said that he realized it was the cologne that the biznitch used to buy him when they were together and he didn't want to hurt me so he just threw the bottle away...(remember he hasn't spoken to her in 8 years at that time).
Isn't that rude of her to send him the cologne she used to buy him as a congrats gift for getting engaged to another woman???
This is rude, right?
2007-10-15 07:24:28 · update #1
it didn't say cologne on the bottle...and didn't look like a bottle of cologne
2007-10-15 08:03:02 · update #2
It was her way of reminding him of what they "had". When she found out that he was getting married her possessive side kicked in, and she likely wanted to remind him of the times they shared in some way, and at the same time impress upon you her supposedly "good taste" and the fact that they shared something that you were not privy to.
Don't worry about it. All it shows is her intimidation of you for pulling off something she couldn't accomplish. He tossed that "expensive" cologne and that's what really matters (oh yeah, and the fact that you go the guy *wink*) Whatever taste she had in cologne, she severely lacks in good taste for sending this gift.
Chase
2007-10-15 07:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by Chase P 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Legally, when a couple calls off the engagement, the guy owns the engagement ring. She should have given it back to him a LONG time ago. And she shouldn't pawn it off...if he ever realizes that he should have asked for it back, he might try to sue her to get it back. And if she pawned it for less than it was appraised for, she won't have the money to pay him. It doesn't matter who is at fault in the breakup, nor does it matter how he will interpret the action of her giving it back to him after this long time -- it's technically his and she can't legally sell his property. And why IS she getting rid of all his stuff -- if not because she's letting go and getting over the breakup? Is it really so bad for him to think that she's getting over him? Most people would LIKE for their ex to know that they're over him -- it seems to me like that's the most logical and reasonable purpose for getting rid of your ex's stuff and giving it back to him.
2016-04-08 22:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was extremely rude for her to send that cologne. She shouldn't be sending anything at all really, but that was really low. Your husband did the right thing by throwing it away. As long as he promises to never contact her, you'll have to get over it. She's obviously is a desperate person, and you got the guy, so be happy. Don't let what she did cause any discord between you and your man.
2007-10-15 07:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you may be overreacting a bit. She may have just thought that he still liked the cologne and couldn't get it where you live. It was an odd gift to send whatever the motive. Since she sent you both a nice note and hasn't pursued a relationship with your husband, I think you're safe. Your husband, by the way, reacted to this admirably by being sensitive to your feelings - he's a catch and you caught him! Just write the gift off as odd and peculiar and enjoy your marriage.
2007-10-15 07:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by Susan G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's a Ding-Bat. Laugh it off, he garbaged it and her. I wouldn't even acknowledge that either of you even received such a ludicrous gift. No Thank You note needs to be sent. Her actions were pretty infantile and rude in my opinion. Best wishes to you both on your new life together. Oh yeah, and let the trash stay where it is, in the trash.
2007-10-15 07:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by ishowtt4beads 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a rather odd gift... but i think you're overreacting just a bit. It's clear that your husband has nothing to do with this woman anymore, so there's no reason to make a big fuss about it now.
Congratulations on your wedding!
2007-10-15 07:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by live*laugh*love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well as you say he hasn't seen or talked to her in 8 years. Jut let it go.... When my cousin got married an aquaintance/rival of his wife gave them two sets of twins sheets.
It's just a ploy to get under your skin. Do your self a favor and do not allow it to undue you or ruin your wedding. After all he is marrying you. Not her.
2007-10-15 07:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it get to you.
She's obviously not worth the energy to get all frustrated about it. He threw it away, so you should just let it go. He's not with her any more for a reason. He loves you, and that's all that should matter.
Ignore the woman. The only reason she does things like that is to get a reaction, so you're giving her just what she wants.
2007-10-15 07:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly P 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's rude. Give it away or sell it on Ebay and send her an email telling her what you've done with it and tell her not to send anymore gifts.
2007-10-16 01:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has serious issues with herself and her inability to maintain relationships, so she is living vicariously through yours.
Yes it was poor taste and extremely poor manners - it sounds like your husband did the right thing so don't worry about it. Don't let this creep get to you.
2007-10-15 07:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋