Sex before marriage, wrong,or right?

Question

Okay! The big question: In the Bibical sense, sex was created by God - to reproduce, and it also has a benifit of being pleasurable. Now, I have read the Bible quite a bit, yet I have never stummbled across the scripture forbidding sex outside of marriage, infact David (the one who is a man after God's own heart) had many wives, and it was only a sin until he had sex with someone else's wife, and Jesus does point that this is audltry and immoral - the 10 Commandments only say to not have adultry, and throughout the Bible it says to not commit sexually immoral things - the list of which is: Homosexuality, audltry, animals, angels, and such. But never does it say outside of marriage from two who love each other, and wish to show their love (and it is not out of pure lust), so my question is, is this just the Church's way of pushing absence and births outside of marriage? Or is there really a verse, because I fail to find it, or the logic behind it, if it is in the right context.

Answer 1

sex is healthy and marriage has nothing to do with it (anymore)
it is just fine to have sex before marriage as long as you are of consenting age and you are knowledgeable about the consequences of sex.

Answer 2

I also wonder the same, I think there is an answer at the DEAD SEA SCROLLS and NAG HAMADI library.

In somewhere between those documents which were forbidden by the catholic church never the less original some of them comming from the hand of apostles, like goslpel of THOMAS.

Somewhere it says that sex is a union between a man and a woman who are in love, in the eyes of God.
Thus having sex as an act of love seems right.

You must understand that the catholic church is an institution created by men, they only include 4 gospels, even though they know there are other gospels that are original (there are 12 apostles in total, although not everyone wrote a gospel).

So I think that just as an institution the church wants to be an intermediate in marriage, to keep in power. I was in a very catholic school and once asked the priest teacher "what if I am in a desert island and I want to get married, and there are no priests around", the teacher answer that it is possible if you are in love you can marry yourself in a desert Island.

So any act out of love is not a sin basically.

Answer 3

You need to use the correct terminology. The term you should be looking for is fornication. Fornication is defined as sex outside of marriage. There are MANY passages that refer to fornication as being a sin (I Cor 5:8-11;I Cor 6:8-10;Mt 15:18-20;Mark 7:20-22). The logic behind it is that if you are truly wanting to have sex because you love each other, then get married, make the promise to each other of a lifelong commitment. If you are not willing to do that, then it is just lust.

Answer 4

Wrong in the bible's context. It is one of the seven deadly sins.
Sexual acts without the Church's blessings in considered immoral given you are a Christian.

I am sorry I am not familiar with other religions so better to leave this as it is.

However, due to ever changing men's perceptions, in modern times, sex before marriage is simply neither right or wrong. it is actually a celebration of love without the boundaries set upon by the church and the society. sex as we all know is private and sacred. it is suppossed to be in between the couple's knowledge only and no one is privvy to the details of the act, as would a loving couple would do.

Answer 5

That depends on how you look at life and society.

Society consists of families and should be like that so children can have a chance to grow up in a normal family.

a 15 year old boy who starts going out with girls will eventually have sex with over 20-30 woman by the time he gets around 25-30 years old. Now how is that boy(man) going to marry someone to have his own family?! he just simply can't because he is used to have different sex partners and he's used to different bodies and personalities. he marries someone, they get a child(or more) then they just divorce(something we see every second) cause they are tired of each other. what happens to the child?! isn't this child going to be the worlds future?!

Answer 6

Don't listen to man. Listen to God. Fornication is a sin and many on here have given you the correct Scriptures. We are to abstain from sex until marriage. This would eliminate divorce. When we've had many, we are seldom satisfied with one. And the husband and wife are to become one in God's eyes.

Everybody thinks they are funny and smart and they know better than God. But God's way is the perfect way to contentment and enjoyment.

Answer 7

Well...what happens if you don't have sex before marriage only to find that the pair of you are far from compatible in that department? Sex isn't everything but it sure as hell is important in a marriage or relationship.
Some of us can be really good together or really bad. I think i would much rather know BEFORE i married a person. And it isn't that some are good and some are bad at sex, its definatley all down to compatibility.

Answer 8

Ever bought shoes without trying them on?
And got really sore feet from fools rush in?

Better thing is check out the mother,
see what wife's gonna be such like.
The apple don't fall far from the tree.

Pst: Ye are not under the law, but under grace.
Clarity: not under law, but grace, if led of the Spirit.

POINT: God [is] a Spirit(Alive), not a Ghost(Dead).

Allegory Point: God is Grace us, and not Law Law.
Further Allegory Point: God is Light, and not Lights.
Prove all things: God(Grace) is merciful, not merciless.

The GRACE of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen.

Answer 9

Yes, the bible does say that sex before marriage is not aloud and if you follow that christian doctrine and call youself a christian than I would say to you, follow your religion. But, I am not a christian, I am a pagan and my religion says nothing either way really, so I do as I please, feel comfortable with and live. I guess then your answer would vary from person to person whether or not sex before marriage is wrong. It all lies in the perception of the person's belief system.

Answer 10

What if we have sex with some one before marriage?

Sex before Marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verses 2-3:The woman and the man guilty of ‘zina’ flog each of them with a hundred stripes: let not compassion move you in their case in a matter prescribed by Allah if ye believe in Allah and the Last Day: and let a party of the Believers witness their punishment. Let no man guilty of ‘zina’ marry any but a woman similarly guilty or an Unbeliever; nor let any but such a man or an Unbeliever marry such a woman: to the Believers such a thing is forbidden.

Sex before marriage is a heinous sin in the sight of Allah, and Allah has forbidden ‘zina’ for the believers.

The people who have committed this gross and heinous sin in the past, they should immediately turn to Allah and make sincere Taubah and repent for their sin; and make a solemn covenant with Allah that they will not do ‘zina’ ever again, and fulfill the covenant they have made with Allah. If one turns back to Allah and makes sincere Taubah or repentance, it is expected Allah will be Merciful to them and forgive them their sin. For Allah indeed is Very Forgiving, Most Merciful.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.”

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

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Answer 11

Adultery in the bible does not always mean what we think of today (cheating). It alo means having extra-marital sex and even says that looking upon a woman/man with lust in your heart IS already commiting adultery.(Mat 5:28)