boyfriend crisis
2007-10-15 06:52:27 · 16 answers · asked by mimi 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
my ex did that and of course he didnt...they will get over it eventually, it is hard to hear them say that...but you just have to break ties...if you are really that concerned he would do something crazy i would talk to his parents about him
2007-10-15 06:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by Julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see what your boyfriend is saying as looking after a baby is VERY hard work. It will put a strain on your social life and your career. Another thing to think about - as you have said - is that it is very hard financially. You will want to give your baby everything and the best possible future but you wont be able to do this if you are not financially stable. On the other hand, if you feel ready for this baby then go for it. Your boyfriend has no right to theaten you by saying he will kill himself. This is blackmail and whether he's dad just recently died or not, he should not be speaking to you like this. If he is saying he hasnt loved you since his dad died then why is he still with you anyway. My answer is to think about what YOU want and nobody else
2016-04-08 22:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying things like that is just a way to make you feel guilty. If he was really gonna commit suicide, he would probably not tell you about it. He would just do it. Keep in mind that he is not saying that he loves you so much that if you leave he will kill himself, he is saying that he knows how to control you into staying with him. This has nothing to do with loving you that much. Think about it this way, if someone you loved left you, would you survive? It would hurt for a while, but you would. And would you want to be with someone who has so little self-worth that they are that attached to you? It is a little scary. not sweet to have someone that attached. Leave him if you don't want to be with him anymore. Don't let him guilt you into staying where you don't want to be. He will be fine without you. And if on the chance he does commit suicide or attempts to, remember that it had nothing to do with you. He was going to do it anyway.
2007-10-15 07:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had 6 guys tell me that & not one did it. Depending on your age, tell his parents, or someone that can help him. He is emotional & he is trying to trap you. Don't fall for it, you are not responsible. Don't stay with him because he puts a guilt trip on you. Even if he were serious ( usually they aren't) it is not your problem. If you like you can try & talk to him to ease his emotions of you leaving, but that usually ends up more emotional & harder for you. Let him be, you'll be better off & he'll most likely get over you faster.
One guy did flip out on me, he came to my house saying that he was going to kill me & himself until I grabbed the bat & beat the hell out of him, asking him if this is how he wanted to die, turns out he wasn't so suicidal. Good luck & get the hell away from this basket case.
2007-10-15 07:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who threaten suicide if you leave them, have other underlying problems.. and it's NOT your fault...you did not cause their misery, and in fact, they were miserable BEFORE you ever came into the picture.
Suicidal people usually have life long issues of depression or other mental illness. I know, i'm mentally ill.
If you have to leave your boyfriend, then do so. Sometimes we have to do what is best for ourselves. It's called self-preservation.
Meanwhile, if you are concerned about the suicide threat, then talk to someone who is close to him -- his family needs to know about the threat.
2007-10-15 07:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants your attention and doesn't want you to leave. Tell him you are going to call the police if he keeps up the suicide talk and they will take him to the hospital for evaluation and it can be a real eye opener
2007-10-15 06:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by Ginger1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a sign of a personality disorder (borderline personality disorder). if you want to break it off, just do it. you cannot be responsible for his actions. this is an attempt to manipulate you and he probably does it in other ways in your relationship. unless you want to be controlled by him forever, you need to just leave him. Tell him you're sorry he feels that way and go. Do not feel guilty for what he does (chances are he will not carry it out).
2007-10-15 07:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by no qf 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the suicide hotline or find him a therapist. If he's really suicidal, he needs help. That doesn't give him a right to hold you captive because of it.
2007-10-15 06:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't want you to leave him but it shouldn't stop you. if he's young, contact his parents or his school.
he will most likely not do anything. break off all contact. no cell phone, email, IM, nothing. in a short while he will realize it's over and move on as you need to do.
2007-10-15 07:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a form of control. Don't let him get to you. Call his parents and ask them to come stay with him, then say peace out.
2007-10-15 07:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋