I just found out that my Young Uncle (47 yrs Old) has been given 3 to 6 months to live due to Colon Cancer. His liver has failed and the Doctors say that can not do any more.
His wife has sent an e-mail out to all the family and friends asking us to think positive and send our thoughts their way.
I don't know what to say, I am so sadend by this news and would like to let them know what my thoughts are with them, but I just don't know how to put the right words down on paper. What do you say to someone or their family members in a situation like this?
Thanks,
2007-10-15 06:49:22 · 6 answers · asked by Jenn~ 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I think it is okay to "I'm so sorry. I would like to visit". Then talk about memories you have had together. If he wants to talk about it, fine. If he doesn't want to talk about it, that's fine too. Take your lead from him. You could just do a lot of listening. Quiet is okay too.
2007-10-15 10:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to say anything special, just let him know that you love him, and want to spend time with him(if possible). If time cannot be managed, phone calls can be made, just regular conversation, don't go on and on about the cancer, just express your love. He will be trying to make the most of each day left, I found that providing my mom with her favorite things helped alot, for her and me. She wanted her room to be more cozy, so I bought some curtains, plants, candles, things to comfort. Her appetite was very poor, but she loved Prime Rib, so one of her final meals was Prime Rib. Doing things like this are simple, helping your aunt would be helpful also. If hospice hasn't made contact with them, maybe you could make the call, they can help with your uncle, as well as help your aunt cope/manage. Just knowing that there is someone out there that is willing to help, is comforting. Being alone trying to help a loved one dying is difficult, I never want to experience this again. I hope your family/friends can be there for not only your uncle, but the immediate family as well. Take care.
2007-10-15 15:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your news. I lost my Mum to kidney cancer that spread to her liver and lung in sept this year. She was sick for only 4 months. I understand where his wife is at. We went thru all the positive vibes, thinking positive, things will be ok... i think for us it was denial that Mum was as sick as she was and of course we held on to hope even thou there was none. What do you say to someone who is facing death???? There is NOTHING positive about it. You just need to let him know how important he is to you. He knows what is happening and he will start being in a 'different' place and will start to detach from the family in preparation for the next phase. I found it extremely hard to communicate to my mum, we had a close relationship but most of the time i struggled with words, and rarely knew what to say. i wish you all the best.
2007-10-16 05:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you will see him on the other side, and he is passing through this life and into the next. If you can, get "Into the Light" by Betty Eadie and "Life after Life" about NDEs, Near Death Experiences. All those who have them lose all fear of death because they already know what will happen.
2007-10-15 17:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably hard for u, u should tell him that u love him of course, and try to cheer him up make the rest of the time he has filled with happy and good thoughts.
2007-10-15 14:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him all the happy thoughts you remember having of him. tell himgood things and not metion that he is deying. no one wants to be reminded they are sick.
2007-10-15 14:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋