should I still give him a shot?

Question

there is this guy i met a couple weeks ago and we have been talking since, he comes from a good family, he is sweet, not pushy, good morals, down to earth, but my only hold back is the fact that he is 30 yrs old,lives in his friends basement, and sells furniture for a living. DO I sound shallow by this? Or does he seem not too stable. should I still go with him or back away?

Answer 1

why does it matter what he does for a living. he's got good morals doesnt he? he's from a good family aint he? he's sweet and not pushy. what more can you ask you. you sound very snobbish by asking this question. he sounds great and your puttin him down just because he sells furniture for a living. you don't deserve him

Answer 2

He's a salesman???!!!@
Do you want to shop at macys or K-mart? It matters.
Eat at mcdonalds or the place by the beach? Do you want to take vacations and stay in nice places and not sleep in the car and pack your own food?
Always scrounging around saving a penny here and one there, things don't get fixed, there is no money for it. So you wash the diapers for three kids by hand???!!!
Love wears a little thin under these circumstances.\
Now you wish you were divorced. But he can't pay more than a couple bucks for the kids, you can't afford rent so you move into a smaller dump and start looking for a job. Errrr? No experience.?
Welcome to the Mcdonalds machine. Hamburgers are made, from the grindings of people like you.
Well, says you, I will date again and get a better provider. Mmmmm are those stretch marks? And the extra 25 pounds from eating all that cheap starch..
and you have 3 little kids...

I have dealt with so many cases where an older man without ambition or any serious goals woos a young girl, ( who else would know better how than a 30 year old EXPERIENCED little boy. That's what he is you know. Hasn't taken responsibility all his life and can't even support you while you go to college to make some money when you graduate. But wait.
He won't LET you???!!! You have to stay home or work in the 5 and dime where he can check up on you.
Is he a drinker, gambler, druggie? Married before?
Maybe he gets women to work while he hangs out with friends at the card club. But he is sooo smoothe, always says the right thing, even stole some flowers for you, how sweet, he needs to borrow how much? From your savings? He loves me. He will pay it back, I just know it. He will get a good job tomorrow. No one understands him. I love him..
Have you lost your (&U(^)*&^ mind? You are not a loser, why consider one?

Have some fun. If you're bored, take a drive down to the other side of the tracks. Now think about going to school for whatever you want to do in life.
That could be you. Oh, that's right, he lives in a basement. How appropriate for a bargain basement kind of guy.
There's an extra prayer for you

Answer 3

You really need to look at yourself first. Do you know what you want in life? Have you made a commitment to that goal? Have you taken the time to know yourself?
Everyone needs to have standards, even to the point of who they will spend time with. However, making a decision on the facts you have given is not fair to the other individual. He should be judged from the inside out, not the outside in.
If it is a physical attraction, and that is all it is, you need to convey that as well if you want to continue with that type of relationship. If he doesn't meet your standards and you see no future, convey this is a polite way and don't waste time, his or yours.
If more people would be more honest with each other, things would get a lot less complicated. Best of luck with whatever you decide. Just make the decision for the right reasons.
Your friend always!

Answer 4

Doesn't sound shallow...sounds like you just want to make sure you don't find yourself in a position where you are taken advantage of, which is good!

I wouldn't jump the gun just yet though. Since you've only known him a few weeks there could be any number of reasons for his current situation. Just keep hanging out/dating and see where it leads. If you find that he is happy where he's at with no problems, all is good. If you find he's a butt with money and begins to depend on you to get him somewhere financially, you might want to move on.

Answer 5

Let me get this straight: You met a great guy, but you're turned off because of his profession and where he lives. Yeah, that does sound a bit shallow. It could be a lot worse, and, to me he sounds like a catch.

Answer 6

Give him a chance...he has a job and you like so many other qualities about him. You don't sound shallow, just concerned. That's okay. Give him a chance but try not to get too attached in case he isn't what you really want.

Answer 7

I think you should give him a chance cause i'm sure i can find a better place to live than that and mabey a better job but if things don't work out between you 2 just let him go.

Answer 8

You have to be between 26-34. Since he doesn't live in his parents house....but a friends. I think that you should go for it, you just have to accept him the way he is a know that he will never change and you can't change him.

Answer 9

you cant knock aomeone for how they live..just because he lives in a friends basement doesnt mean anything..maybe he's waiting to find the right one before he moves out.. and seeling furniture oh well thats fine too he is who he is and you must follow your heart..its not what they do for a living that makes them who they are.

Answer 10

I say go for it. Its not like you are looking for marriage, at least I think not. I would assume that you are looking to start a simple relationship and start dating a guy. And if the chemistry is there, things could change and when chemistry is there and you like him, why not give him a chance.