ok... my g/f just posted up a question about "Is this considered cheating when...."
Thank you for all the answers. Some of you guys did say that I was cheating on her, and some said I was not.
Hear my side of the story.
I had dinner with my friend/client without telling her (my gf) because she always whines and gets mad. I knew she would be mad so I didnt tell her. I offered dinner (my client/friend) because I just wanted to be nice to her and because she is my client and bought my product. Yes, I dressed up to meet her. Why? because I wanted to respect her as my client.
After dinner, I spoke to my Gf and told the truth. I dont like keeping secrets. I dont know how she (friend) feels about me but as long as I think of her as friend, i believe its not cheating. Besides, my friend do know that I been dating for 5 years.
I believe cheating is when touching or more gets involved. I touched her by shaking her hand.
is this cheating?
2007-10-15 06:18:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's about honesty.
You could have nipped this in the bud by telling her up front, "I have a business dinner with a CLIENT!"
Yes, she may have whinned a little, but give her the other option, "Would you rather have me not be honest with you?"
It's good that you told finally told her.
Did you intend for it to go beyond a handshake? No?
Then it's not cheating, it's a business dinner.
Enjoy
2007-10-15 06:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As they say, there are always two sides to every story. On this site we can only give advice to the person that asks for it and base our answers by what they say. You did do right by telling your girlfriend about it but you did wrong by not mentioning it before hand. You said you held back this information because you knew she would have whined about it, being that is true, I bet her reaction was even worse by you not telling her. I know you only did what you felt was right with a client of yours and it is understandable. Most women would have a hard time of knowing their guy is out with someone else, it takes a very secure girl who doesn't. Next time, why not include your girl also? I mean is there a law against taking clients out to eat and not being able to invite your girlfriend?
2007-10-15 06:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a young attractive female client to lunch with your boss.
Not Cheating.
Take a young attractive female client/friend to dinner by yourself.
May not be cheating. But is sure as hell is how you get there.
Wait!!! How did I know this was an ATTRACTIVE young female? I must be psychic!!!!
Lose the 'Who Me?' routine, no ones going to buy it.
If you want to cheat, create the alibis and learn to lie.
If you don't want to cheat. Lose the solo dinners with attractive female clients.
But don't spend alone time with a cookie jar and act surprised that people think your sneaking cookies.
2007-10-15 06:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as mental cheating. I think one of the best things to do when your not sure about if what you are doing is cheating is to imagine your girlfriends in the same situation. Say she had a friend who helped her with something. This friend happens to be a guy, and she decides to take him out to dinner just to be nice and show her appreciation. She also decides to get dressed up for the occasion because it is only appropriate. Would this make you feel uncomfortable? My suggestion would be taking your girlfriend with you to this dinner next time to make the dinner more casual. I'm sure other people in the restaurant didn't just assume you were friends. You should never put yourself in any situation that can be mistaken for cheating, it's just not worth it. Best wishes!
2007-10-15 06:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by j c 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No. There is nothing wrong with taking clients out for dinner as a thank you. Most business people do this so they can refer clients to them and grow their business. If this is something you don't do often, then it might seem a little fishy to just take this one girl out for dinner. If its a common thing, your girlfriend might be intimidated. Get her to understand that part of business is taking care of your clients. Even if that means paying them with gifts or dinner or treating them to an afternoon of golf, its how you get referrals.
2007-10-15 06:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by solelone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional cheating is still cheating. If you were taking out your client then that is not cheating.
If the dinner had other intentions, that is cheating.
If the client were male you would not have held back the information from your girlfriend. You should not hold back a female client either, unless you have other intentions.
Hopefully you see the point above. Your intentions are as important as how far you take them. Make sure that you have no intentions beyond making a client happy.
Take care,
Troy
2007-10-15 06:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Anything that you have to keep secert is cheating her out of something. There are many forms of cheating it doesn't always involve touching. You should've invited her. Because you doing it without her knowledge opens the door for her to think you are doing something. If your client knows you went to dinner without telling your girlfriend it's going to give her the wrong impression. Why would you have to hide the dinner date if there were only good intentions?
2007-10-15 06:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This isn't cheating. It is nice to do something for clients when they use your services so that you can build a rapport. If it was just that, then your girlfriend has some security isses. Did you do something in the past to make her so insecure?
2007-10-15 06:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by Babylesley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is NOT cheating. you did not even have any intention. you can dress up and meet your friends. my gf knows that most of my friends are female, so I am cheating every time? even a hug or a kiss on the cheek is just a polite gesture. you didn't even have any contact. if someone is so possessive and thinks everything I do is to cheat, I wouldn't even want to go out with her anymore. she has to choose either to trust you or else.
2007-10-15 06:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by Carborane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to your side fo the story, I would not consider it cheating.
There is always two sides of the story and unfortunately, on these forums we would get to hear only one of the sides.
I didnt think it was cheating when she posted the question.
She needs to trust you. Especially that you told her.
Good Luck.
2007-10-15 06:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Dimitar A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋