Just a gentle reminder from a lady who just returned from visiting my 82 year old dad in the hospital.He suffered a stroke on Friday,and looks so frail and helpless laying in the hopital bed.I recall growing up how strong and vital he always was,and well...sorry,gotta go now,I am going to cry again...
2007-10-15 06:10:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm sorry your dad is ill... and for your pain. sending all my sympathies.
i took care of mom until she died, and it was one of the best things i could do. i hold on to the good memories, and i remember all the wonderful things she did for me while she was alive.
my father has cancer, and he abused me all his life, darlin, cancer is too good for him... i don't even like the man, and never will. i can't think of anyone who does?
we all leave our own legacy -- whether good or rotten.
2007-10-15 06:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that this happened. There is nothing worse than seeing your parents when they're really sick. I went through this with my dad, and it tears you apart. I know just how you feel. Fortunately, the good memories will eventually crowd out the frail and helpless memories, and the strength and vitality that are your father, will be foremost in your memories. Try as much as you can to see this in him even as he's in the hospital. It will help you and it will help him too.
God bless you and your father, and please know that you are in my prayers. And I'm a firm believer that prayer heals and is effective.
2007-10-15 06:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by Liza 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So sorry about your Dad. Its so difficult when we get to the stage of life where we have to watch our parents begin to fade.
My mother has a terminal brain condition and we have been warned she will eventually go blind, even more deaf, immobile and will loose all her faculties.
I'm just trying to enjoy her while i can. Good Luck.x
Karen H - have tried to reply to your email but it does'nt seem to go through. How is your friends son?x
2007-10-15 06:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Catherine1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its ok honey.......crying will help, hope your dad gets better soon. What you are learning now remember for your own kids and try and stay healthy. in the meantime, be there for your dad, do what you have to, and shed a tear if you have to.
But take care yourself, he will need u when he comes home. Chin up! I will think of you. x
2007-10-15 08:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by kitten 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you My dad is 88 and my mother is 80 i thank god every day that they are still with me
Many times when they have been so ill i thought i was going to lose one of them ,but so far they always rallied round so I'm praying that your dad will rally round also
My thoughts are with you
2007-10-15 06:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by Black Orchid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about your dad . i would like to say things will get better , unfortunately i know from experience they don't!!! (until the suffering stops) then its that roller coaster of loss , guilt ( with no reason !!) and generally feeling like ****. was in your position with my grandad a few years ago (whom i was very close to ) i became a carer with my nan because she couldn't cope alone.he died 12 years ago and i still feel like hes with me when i sit and think. sorry babbling , good luck.
2007-10-15 06:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by les.shanks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really hope hes alright, sometimes I wonder what Im going to be like when my parents get really ill, but for now I appriciate how healthy they are and how well they care for me.
2007-10-15 06:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Sophiee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You hang in there, honey. I'm sure this is very very hard for you. I DO appreciate my 80 year old - healthy Mom - who just won her battle with breast cancer. I will call her today and tell her that I love her and appreciate her - just to honor you and your Dad - 'kay?
Blessings!
2007-10-15 06:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by liddabet 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
aww im so sorry to hear about your dad.. my grandma is 85 and just broke her hip and then fell again and hit her head while she was in the hospital. it is the hardest thing to see the ones you love get old. i wish your family the best... :o)
2007-10-15 06:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all tend to forget our parents will get old one day. Thank you for making me stop and think about it, we take our parents for granted and never think about the day they might need you. You've started me off now. Hope you have all the support you need at this time. xxx
2007-10-15 06:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋