i've been with my g/f for 4 years, long time i know today she broke up with me for personal reasons, i love her to death. there really isnt a question that im asking because i know that we wont get back together ever again. if you ever been inlove you know that it hurts so much knowing that someone you love wants nothing to do with you, it feels like your empty inside. :-( so help me have a somewhat better day or atleast bring a smile to my face by leaving a nice message for me. thanx
2007-10-15 06:08:11 · 12 answers · asked by Ollie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's sad but it's true that love doesn't always have happy ending. There are times when we ask ourselves why we have to find love only to lose it. When we love a person, it brings out the best in us. When that person stops loving us and we still choose to continue to love that person, we become miserable because it is like running a race in the opposite direction. The more we love, the more we are drawn away from reality.
Oliver, there is always a reason why people hurt us and make us cry and feel devastated. It is always part of a learning process that would make us better persons. Stop looking back for love that may make its way back. It wouldn't be coming from behind. It would always be there in front of you. If you miss it, then move ahead for even in love's greatest tragedies, there is always a promise of hope---that of finding love again and keeping it for eternity.
I know how you feel. The only way to stop hurting is to stop wanting, and the only way to stop wanting is to start accepting that she is probably not the same person anymore. Then and only then can you move on to finding the happiness that becomes truly rewarding when shared with the person who loves us in the same way.
This one is for you Oliver, click the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cDnf6j7JDbI
ravishingV
2007-10-15 06:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by ravishingV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about what you had to deal with today.
I won't go into all the corny responses one normally gets except to say that it will get easier once the shock of it wears off.
To bring a smaile to your face, here's a cute joke I just got a few minutes ago.
Fifty-one years ago, Herman James, a North Carolina mountain man, was drafted by the Army. On his first day in basic training, the Army issued him a comb. That afternoon the Army barber sheared off all his hair. On his second day, the Army issued Herman a toothbrush. That afternoon the Army dentist yanked seven of his teeth. On the third day, the Army issued him a jock strap. The Army has been looking for Herman for 51 years.
2007-10-15 06:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by tinyavenger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what she did to you and I'm sure you've been told " everything happens for a reason" I know 4 years is a long time. If you know that you'll never get back with her then what you have to do is
1- Take time to grieve the relationship and put it in place.
2- Understand completly that what happened; happened because you weren't meant to be.
3- Take this time to do something you've been putting off for a while and in time try to find someone that makes you happy again.
If she broke up with you then the relationship wasn't what she wanted anymore and now you have to wish her well and move on. I know it'll take time for your heart to heal but In your mind youhave to know it's probably for the best.
Good Luck
2007-10-15 06:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have all been there I'm sure. Life has a funny way of plucking us from the highest place we have been and stomping us below the bottom. Unfortunately the only thing that heals is time.. you're gonna feel really bad for a long time, but one day you will wake up and you'll feel again. It took me years to get over a broken heart.. and just when I thought I wouldn't ever be able to feel anything but pain again something lifted up out of my chest and let my heart breathe again.. Its all time man.
2007-10-15 06:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by cafeconle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pain now
More pain later
Be happy it happened now, not a year from now.
What if you'd gotten married, and in 5 years you were going through a divorce, (I know this hurts, but trust me, this is nothing compared to the pain of a divorce).
The good news is you're now single.
1) More free time
2) Go to bed when you want
3) Less responsibilities
4) Can make you own decisions
5) Eating out is cheaper, (only paying for 1)
7) YOU GET TO DATE OTHER WOMEN!!!!
Yes, I know this is a good/bad thing, but focus on the good......maybe there's someone Better for you than she was.
Sorry for your pain
Luck
2007-10-15 06:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
been in your shoes man.... i'm there right now me and my husbend are getting a divorce and he told me all this after being married for 3 years and together for 6. And yes it hurts deeply. But it's all gunna take time. It's time to heal and try and spend some time with friends... ppl that make you laugh. she will always be in the back of your mind. But take the time to do whatever makes you happy, besides being with her. Keep your self busy:)
2007-10-15 06:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the honest truth ?
The real love of your life is the person you will end up marrying, every other thing is natures way of buffering you for the marriage, think about it
2007-10-15 06:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Hindu-Atheist-Rebel 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
aww! im so sorry! its sounds like your having a really bad day! do you know what you did or whats going on why she broke up with you? if you do talk to her about it. i hope you meet someone that doesn't take you for granted cause you sound like a really nice guy! im sorry again! :)
2007-10-15 06:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by brownbrilliantbrunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel. hopefully it helps to know that you're not the only one that's been left heartbroken..the only way that i can get over him to move on with someone else. keeping the wall up so that you prejudge others will leave you alone for far longer than necessary.do whats right and move forward.
2007-10-15 06:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by ..((~babarskiz~)).. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"OLIVER MY SWEETIE IM SO SO SORRY TO HEAR THAT IT HURTS ME TO KNOW THAT YOUR BROKEN HEARTED.DONT FEEL BAD OR TRY NOT TO "I DONT KNOW YOUR LIFE BUT IT SEEMS TO ME THAT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR THE RIGHT REASONS AND THERE IS ALOT OF OTHER GOOD STUFF HAPPENING IN YOUR LIFE ITS JUST TAKING YOU IN A DIFFRENT DIRECTION DONT WORRY BABE IT WILL BE OK TAKE MY ADVICE IM A DOC. AND LIFE ISINT ALWAYS EASY FOR ME "BUT SOME HOW WHEN WE REACH BUTTOM THERE IS NO OTHER WAY TO GO, "THEN TO GO UP! AND IT SEEMS LIKE FOR EVER BUT IT ISINT LOOK AT THE OTHER SIDE OF THINGS AND COMPARE, YOU HAVE ME FOR SURE TODAY IM OFF WORK SO ASK AWAY SWEETIE IM HEAR FOE YOU." CHEER UP XOXO!!
2007-10-15 07:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by Q678 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋