i met a guy a while ago and i thought that he was playing me b/c he had a girlfriend at the time and he flirted with me a lot. he also asked me a lot of questions that made it seem like he wanted to know me better...we'd also talk for hours at a time. he made it seem like he was not so into his girlfriend. anyway, a few months after i met him, we had gotten pretty chummy and i still hadn't given anything to him but smiles and a few light touches. i never really flirted back with him. then his dog died and he was so distraught he cried in my arms and he was soo open with me about his feelings. he went to stay with his parents for a while and when he came back, he was really happy to see me and was once again really vulnerable to me. however, nothing changed...he went back to being with his gf and still flirts with me every so often. was he playing me or did he have real feelings and just happened to have a gf at the time?
2007-10-15 06:03:34 · 12 answers · asked by moosekid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats tough one, but he sounds like a player to me. Do you like him enough to think about wanting a relationship with him? Think about it. If you were his girlfriend would you want him to be doing what he is doing with you, with another girl. Chances are he would be. Some guys can be such dogs and know that being all emotional and open with their feelings makes us women all warm and fuzzy inside and think that we are "special" to them. Then they use it against us and it makes it easier for them to get what they want. Which is usually sex, or something along those lines. If he hasn't dumped his girlfriend by now then he really probably isn't that into you. BUT, if he has and he is still coming around them maybe he is into you. If you do, end up with this guy. Make him wait for the goods, if you know what I'm sayin'. Works every time! ;-)
2007-10-15 06:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he was really the consumate player, he would have tried to close the deal in some way by now simply because patience is not a player's characteristic, in general. Since this hasn't happened, it's easier to take him at face value (but it's always wise to be watchful for newly emerging player tactics.) Either way, the dog thing was a nice touch.
2007-10-15 06:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if he is a player or just confused. He's got a girlfriend and he's also shown that he's likely to cheat--- if he were to leave her and be with you, how could you trust that he wouldn't get feelings for the next girl that comes down the street. Move on and find someone who can make up their mind and be loyal to their relationship.
2007-10-15 06:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by dcgirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not being sincere with you or his girlfriend. Just because he shared his sadness over the lost of his dog with you does not necessarily mean he is serious about you. A player is just what it means, player. He plays with girls emotions, lies to them, tells them what he feels they want to hear, and all this is focused on him getting what he wants from these girls. Leave him alone, he sounds too immature to be in any type of serious relationship.
2007-10-15 06:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still a human being who lost a dog he loved. he still is a player with a girlfriend. he cried in your arms because they were there and maybe he thinks you are a good friend
2007-10-15 06:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by nyjae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had real feelings for u he wouldn't still be w/ his gf. Hes being manipulative. He probably did need to release his feelings, but all that dramatics was to get u to think he's a "nice guy"
2007-10-15 06:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants a friend. Are you causing a problem in his relationship with his girlfriend? If so, drop him. He can't have his cake and eat it too. He will hurt you.
2007-10-15 06:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by tysdad62271 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants 2 girlfriends. Numero uno won't know but you will. Can you handle that?
2007-10-15 06:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by thomas m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are looking at this way too long...he needed someone to lean on and you were there at the time...he needed a friend, and you were it....quit reading more than there is...he wanted you to be a buddy...not a saturday night date...
2007-10-15 06:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by bubba gumps light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A player would die infront of you if he felt the need.
Now I don't know about your situation, sorry!
2007-10-15 06:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by Shadow Song 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋