It drives me nuts!! Can you Help??

Question

here is the thing, My mom is a cellphone freak...she spends almost all day sending msgs to people who gets into fights with her, and she gets herself and us in trouble becos she says things which shouldn't be said, and she can hurt alot with these text msgs..besides, we sit beside her while she is texting doing whtever we do, she is like in another world, absentminded and boring...I tried to tell her 100 times, my dad too, I shouted and neglected her, did the same but nth works with her, she won't quit what so ever, i am afraid it has become an obsession or a disgusting hobby!! Please this is driving me nuts,,, and i am starting to get really pissed off at it :((

Answer 1

Ugh!

Yes, I can imagine that this would drive a person crazy.

Do you have a cell?

When you're sitting next to her, trying to get her attention, text her.

"Pls pass salt" for instance.

Or even "how was yr day".

Don't yell at her, it obviously doesn't work.

It sounds like she could use some therapy, but there's no way to force her.

You don't say how long this has been going on, but the only thing I can think of is to text her. Maybe the absurdity of it will get through.

If not, at least you can converse and get answers to your questions, if that's the only way she communicates these days.

Answer 2

Start with baby steps. Suggest a family dinner or game night or some sort of gathering where ALL of you turn your cell phones off (along with the TV, radio, etc.) TALK to each other.

Next step. Take her aside (post family activity) and explain to her that you really enjoyed her company when she wasn't so distracted by her phone. Even though you've done it 100 times, explain to her that text messaging is not an appropriate way to communicate with family members over important issues. It is immature. Also, you may want to mention to her that she needs to start minding her own business.

If all else fails, tell her to read this:
http://www.microsoft.com/smallbusiness/resources/technology/communications/cell_phone_etiquette_10_dos_and_donts.mspx

Answer 3

Aren't we talking about your mother? And how old are you? You have to be living still under her roof, just going on the post itself. B/c if you were an adult and had some business about yourself, you would not even be interested in what or who she is texting. Why do you feel as though, its your business? You must pay the cellphone bill for her, right?

Answer 4

how old are you? It may not be your place to counsel her about it unless you're both adults and you're careful about it- but it'd be better to have your dad sit down with her, take her phone away while they talk, have a good long talk, get her to make some promises and agree to some things they will do to enforce the promises. They need to make it a big deal and take it seriously - maybe she even needs to see a counselor.

Answer 5

I would take her sim out and put in a new sim so the people who she is having fights with wont have her numba...until unless they know her face to face.

Answer 6

I hate when I say, "thanks," and receive a reaction of, "No situation." Gee, i did not imagine it turned right into a situation. I also proceed hating to take heed to 39 reiterations of "like" in sentences, and detest "pass" substituting badly for "suggested." and do not even get me all started on "way" getting used really than "very" and "a lot." Oh, and that is starting to be a plague for individuals to apply double previous-annoying structure, which comprise "you should have went." And speaking of "went," i lately heard someone bastardize "pass" into the previous annoying "pass'ed"

Answer 7

i would suggest you find something else to do and occupy your time in a more productive way.

your mother is a good example of how NOT to act, and i hope you take it to heart.

we can't change others.

Answer 8

get out of her house and get your own place if you dont like it