So confused! Can you help??

Question

Alright, so I've got this guy friend that wants to take me shopping. He says I need 'sluttier' clothes. I've only said, "Whatever you say," and never totally agreed, but he went on and on about what I would need to get. He even went as far a saying I had to get some thongs. And he guessed my bra sized (he was only off a little), and by God, I told him my actual size. And he told me what color bras we would have to get. (I'm sure you can tell from that little information that we have a pretty good relationship) And he kept going on about how pretty I was and how I had to use it. And that I have boobs now.

And then as it got later (10:30 last night) he asked if I could date anyone who would it be. I was drawing blank after blank, so I finally said him. Not sure if it registered, but I said it.

So, anyway, my question: That conversation wasn't normal, was it? Any ideas on what could be brewing? Any ideas on anything?

I'm clueless about guys, so any help would be great!

Another thing that kept coming up was, "Don't you want guys to look at you and think you're hot?"

But, I did tell him that if I wore any of that stuff I wouldn't be me (I said my name there). That kind of shut him up.

Answer 1

I wouldn't be surprised if he's one of the guys on here asking what he should do because he's interested in his "best friend" but doesn't want to mess up the friendship.....think about it.

Answer 2

Pretty simple.

Any guy who wants you to dress more like a s1ut wants you to be more like a s1ut.

This is a ploy to instigate a sexual relationship. And not a very subtle one either. It goes like this. Once you buy the underwear, then of course you HAVE to model it for him. (After all he DID help you buy it, right?) And at some point during this serious effort to help you find just the right combination, you will find yourself naked in a closed room being told there's no rush to try on the blue thong.

Is it normal? Well, talking young women into irresponsible sexual relations is pretty much the standard behavior for teenage boys.

Now there's nothing wrong with a healthy sex drive, but "Let's s1ut you up a bit" is not the mark of a guy that's got your best interest at heart.

Read "10 Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives" it will help remove a bit of that 'clueless about guys'

Good luck.

Answer 3

He was hitting on you.

Yes, he did a terrible job, and the whole thing about clothing sent a really bad signal, (sluttier clothing? If you dress like that, will it be easier for him to get into your pants?) Sounds like a friend with bad intentions.

If my sister came to me with this story, I tell her to stay away from him, at best, he's a poor communicator, at worst, a pimp.

You want to keep him as a friend? Fine, put him firmly in the "friends" zone, if he tries to escape to the dating/relationship zone, avoid him like the black plague of death.

He's obviously confused, what you look like isn't what's really the most important thing, long term.
Who you are is what will keep a guy's interest.
If you'll concentrate on becoming a better person, it will serve you much better than wearing slutty clothing. (Also, what kind of guy with slutty clothing attract? Is this really what you want?)

Luck

Answer 4

I would be extremely careful. I wouldn't get "sluttier" clothes if you aren't comfortable with them. If you aren't comfortable with the way he talks to you, then steer clear of the situation.

Answer 5

hes all for you. he wants to get with you cant you see that hes tryin evry single little trick in the book. make his life a whole lot easier and ask him if he wants to go out on a date.

Answer 6

Not to offend but he sounds gay or metrosexual and has no "sexual" interest in you...he just likes shopping. :)

Answer 7

are you sure he's not gay? if he's not he wants you.
kinda sounds gay, kinda sounds straight. depends on how ya read it

Answer 8

what a fag, he just wants some ***, ditch him.