Should her man pay? my sister bought her and her spouse wedding rings at a pawn shop cause he did not have the money to get the new ones out of layaway. She eloped did not invite any family the family looked forward to a wedding she said they will have one next year. They didn't evren have a honeymoon. I was happy for herr getting married. But do you think she should have bought the rings with her own money? I looked at it like what if the ring was stolen and pawn and you are wearing a stolen ring? That just don't seem right. She's not speaking to me cause I mentioned it to her mom. She thinks I am not happy for her getting married. I hope she doesn't have to always pay for everything but marriage is based on for better for worse richer or poorer.
2007-10-15 05:37:42 · 12 answers · asked by bbmodels2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Quite frankly, it is none of your business in how they purchased rings, or under the circumstances the rings were purchased.
She is married-period. You combine your finances. Are you so old-fashioned that you still believe that a man should pay for everything?! Get real-women are 100 times more independent than they were 50 years ago. Get over it, because it's not your money, not your marriage.
2007-10-15 06:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon F 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you mentioned that they did not have enough money for a wedding so they will most likely not have the money for a honeymoon or brand new wedding rings. They wanted to get married right then so they eloped because it's much cheaper- each guest you have to your wedding costs between $50-$250. She is happy and that is all that matters. I would have personally waited until they were financially stable though because going into a marriage struggling for money usually causes conflict. Also, most pawn shops are getting better at not accepting stolen merchandise so I don't think you should worry about that.
2007-10-15 05:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Madison 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset if I were her as well. There is nothing wrong with the woman buying the wedding rings. I did this myself, and if the fiance bought an engagement ring then she isn't paying for everything. As far as getting it from a pawn shop, maybe the rings were sold to them by their former owners. It's just rude to basically say she's wearing a stolen ring just because she didn't go to an expensive store. Their eloping, maybe they felt they were being pressured by the family to have a nice wedding and decided to get married now and save up for a nicer event.
EDIT - what if those are the rings your sister wants anyways?
2007-10-15 05:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by Manny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you're married the money separation tends to go away. If she wanted the ring then it is okay she bought it. My first set was on clearance at a department store. 10 years later, I told my hubby what ring he was buying me, that went on "my" credit card that was paid out of both of our checks. It'll all work out in the end.
Often times, with pawn shops, it's simply because people need cash NOW and have to sell their most prized possessions. I think the police and victims tend to look at pawn shops for thier missing items.
contgrats to her and the family will get over it.
2007-10-15 08:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Had you asked me this questions 11 yrs ago, I would have felt the way you do...Having done things "the traditional way", I realized now what matters the most is how two people feel for each other. I did things by the book, and took what everyone expected from me and my then fiance at that time to heart...A ring from a pawn shop is still a ring, and what if the ring wasnt stolen and what if it was just meant to be that way? Somewhere down the road, he can always by her another ring...My congratulations to your sis..
2007-10-15 05:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by lilypad 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it...the rings were paid for out of "their" money. Regardless, of who's actual checking acount it came from. They are married so everything is combined. If your sister doesn't have a problem with it, why do you. It wasn't YOUR money, and it's not YOUR finger the rings on.
2007-10-15 05:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
whoever wants to pay for the wedding ring can. Why should the man foot the bill for an engagement ring and two wedding rings?
2016-04-08 22:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not her money, it is THEIR money. and if she has to pay, who cares. why does the guy always have to pay? and besides all that, money doesn't equal happiness. Look at Britney, or Paris. My first wife's dad called me white trash because we got married while we were still in college and we couldn't afford a fancy honeymoon. his attitude towards me ruined our marriage from the constant badgering he gave my ex, and she started to believe his rants. Now she is married to a rich business guy who hits her, and my new wife and I are doing great with our middle class income.
2007-10-15 05:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by Spoken Majority 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got news for you: when you get married, that's the end of "your own" and "his own" money. You combine your lives, combine your resources. It doesn't really matter who physically hands the money to the vendor - it's coming out from the same "melting pot". Let your sister handle her marriage as she sees fit. Looks like it is you who's missing the point of marriage.
2007-10-15 05:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
thats right marriage is for richer or for poorer, better or worse.
when i got married, we started off broke, and 7 yrs later we manage. if THEY are happy with their rings that their decision, not yours. as long as they are happy. my opinion, you dont need to have fancy expensive jewelry to show your love for one another. shoot, our rings were cheapos from wal-mart!! its what is in the heart thats imprtant!!!!!! also, its none of your business how THEY spend THEIR money!!!!! now apologize and give them your blessing!!!
2007-10-15 06:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by mswalls00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋