her and letting her listen to it isn't an option? Ok, my little sister loves to sing and she wants to be in the talent show at her school, but she can't sing! She has the potental to be a good singer, but she can't keep a tune! For years I've put up with her atrocious singing, but I can't let her ruin her life! And she's very sensitive and I think if I just tell her she'll get really upset! What do I do!
2007-10-15 05:08:12 · 6 answers · asked by dreamer555 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Music ➔ Singing
4got 2 add, she was thinking she either wanted to sing, or play flute (which she's quite good at). I just did this so if she wanted to sing I'd know how to tell her.
2007-10-15 07:57:22 · update #1
Gosh, that's hard. I have seen this is many wide eyed young singers who live in the fantasy of what they see on TV, leaving reality behind. The problem with videos and the culture of singing is, everyone thinks they can do it, because the entertainment industry makes it look so easy. Its not. And unfortunately, sometimes it takes people failing to get the hint.
I know it is hard to tell a family member you love that they are awful at singing. In your eyes, you are saving them from public ridicule and shame. BUT if you come at her with that regardless of how gentle and delicate you are with your opinions, she is going to resent you. If you do come to her with your opinion without her asking, she will resent you even more if she embarrasses herself in front of the public. She will think you will come off with this "I told ya so" attitude, which in turn is going to make her bitter. I would say this. If she asks for your opinion, be honest. Tell her perhaps if she takes lessons, she will do better. She should wait before she sings publicly. If she walks around with the ego thinking she CAN sing, there is NOTHING you can tell her to change her mind UNTIL she is embarrassed. It is going to be hard on her and it might break your heart to watch your sister suffer, but sometimes that is what it takes to bring people back to reality. When she realizes this isn't her calling, she will stop eventually and will concentrate on something she is good at doing. Perhaps you could compliment her on what she is good at doing in order to distract her from what she isn't (which is singing).
Have you ever considered giving her the idea to go before her music teacher or church music director and trying her skills out? Maybe a professional can give her a dose of reality since you can't. The problem with family is, family take things way more personal than the outside opinion. Sometimes someone on the outside has to make it plain. So if she insists on auditioning for the talent show, be still and don't interfere. The judges aren't going to let her in (hopefully) and they will save her the shame of embarrassment. If it is an open talent show where everyone gets to perform, you have to allow the cards to fall as they may. She will be hurt, but sometimes being hurt will allow her to see what level she is on when it comes to singing. You just be her support system and love her through it. Eventually, she will grow out of it, and take the hint. That might be good for her, because if she is extremely sensitive, a singing career may not be the route she wants to take anyway. You must be a good sister to look out for her. Just keep being supportive, but again, if she asks....that gives you permission to tell the truth. Whether she takes it or leaves it, that's fine. Just be there for her regardless of what happens.
2007-10-15 05:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Chick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her that she is a terrible singer, just let her know that you think she isn't quite ready to sing in front of an audience yet and she could use the help of a voice coach. Remind her you are only telling her because you care. She may get offended at first, but will thank you in the end.
2007-10-15 05:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by cz73 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you direct her to a musical instrument, such as the flute or oboe?
My favorite short story involved a young boy who loved to sing but was awful, and still he desperately wanted to make music. A wise music teacher recognized both the zeal and the strong breathing needed to play the clarinet, and began to teach the boy how to play. The boy loved it so much he paid for his own extra tutoring. When he entered in a young musician's competition, he made the most beautiful music, he won.
Maybe your sister could learn to play some interesting instruments - for example the oboe, the bassoon, or the soprano sax. These days good bassoon and oboe players are hard to find. Guide her to a music teacher who will instruct her on reading music, rhythm and instrumentality, and encourage her to practice.
Kenny G, Chuck Mangione, Branford Marsalis, probably all can't sing a note, but they can make their musical instruments sing better than most vocalists in the world!
2007-10-15 07:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by enn 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-05 10:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her listen to a recording of herself singing.
2007-10-15 05:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her nicley she cant sing and if she takes it up the butt which is wat she most likley will do then just ignore her if she wants to embarass herself then let her learn her lesson her own at least you tried
2007-10-15 05:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋