and was told "no". but after a few minutes he left to go anyways, so he wouldn't have an accident and you found out the teacher blocked the door so he couldn't go, what would you do?
2007-10-15 05:00:35 · 48 answers · asked by (!)listen 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
i did discuss this w/ the teachR, principal, and son. he had to go #2. after i got the phone call i went straight up to the school and told him to go to the bathroom. 15 min. later he emerged and left a very large BM. you can't fake that. in the conference they kept saying that he just needed to ask permission. it wasn't until i got home and reviewed the "warning" that he had asked, but she told him he needed to get started on his classwork first. my child doesn't make lots of trips to the bathroom.
2007-10-15 16:40:51 · update #1
THANKS TO EVERYONE FOR THEIR SUPPORT.
2007-10-15 16:41:58 · update #2
I'd be in the principal's office in a heartbeat demanding an apology for my child. That's completely unacceptable.
2007-10-15 05:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by Celtic-Candy 3 · 14⤊ 1⤋
I would immediately contact the principal. This is not an acceptable way to treat a child. We had an issue when my son was younger where he wasn't allowed to leave physical education class to use the bathroom, and unfortunately, wet his pants. He was too afraid to tell the teacher it was an emergency. He has some issues with his bladder and kidneys. I got a call from the teacher apologizing for the incident. I followed up with an email explaining the situation, and it has never been an issue. I would absolutely bring this up with the principal. So sorry to hear that happened to your son. Best of luck!
2007-10-15 06:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhhh, I would definately go speak to the Principal and get this taken care of. There is no reason to block the door and be that mean, especially if the child asked permission. If you have to go you have to go. I don't believe in making children hold it until they are ready to burst!! Lots of medical problems can come from not letting the kids go when they need to. As long as kids don't keep asking just to get out of the classroom, the teacher should not be pulling a power trip on these kids.
2007-10-15 09:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some kids cope with stress by going to the bathroom. No big new news here. Talk to the teacher about your child's habits. The child has free access to the bathroom at home and does not need to plan. At school, somethings are different.
If it's a repeat problem, don't scold the child, give special permission for your child with your doctor's help if needed. He or she can help identify the development stage your child is at.
Don't worry. Kids grow at their own pace. You cant force the issue. Some do some things slower and others do something else slower.
2007-10-15 05:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by forest_bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would speak directly to the Teacher about the situation. It seems very unlikely that a teacher would do this, so I might even go as far as contacting other parents in the class and ask them to verify with their children who are in the same class. Once I had some corroboration for my child's version of the story, I would file a former complaint with the Principal of the school. If you are still not satisfied with the outcome, I would file a formal complaint with the District.
2007-10-15 09:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by midwee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite the teacher (politely) to discuss the matter, but not in the presence of your son. You may not have the full story and it is as well to be sure, before you decide what further action to take.
If any teacher did behave like this, then there would be grounds for a serious complaint. This complaint should be made to the head teacher to start with (not, repeat not to the teacher concerned), then if nothing was done, to the school board of governors. It is always best that these complaints are made in writing and dated, so that a factual record exists, documenting what happened and when.
The best you can reasonably hope for is a very public apology to your son in front of the class, and a disciplining of the teacher concerned by his/her employers.
It is best that you do not make a fuss in front of your son. He has had enough embarrassment to cope with, don't make it worse.
2007-10-15 05:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by doshiealan 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would call the principal immediately and ask for a conference with the teacher and principal. Maybe your child is always asking to go and disrupts the class, or maybe the teacher said to go before the lesson and he didn't go.
If there is no reasonable explanation by the teacher I would ask that they be disciplined and if the principal does nothing, I would go to the school board.
2007-10-15 05:04:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of 2 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know why the school had employed a teacher who behaved in so tyrannical, malicious and unjustifiable a manner.Even if the child had been asking to go to the bathroom every half hour..which would be something for the teacher to talk to you about at the end of the day rather then setting up Camp Bladder Control in a classroom!
Seriously, don't let this one go, your child is being taught by someone who will,at this rate.teach them first to hate school !
2007-10-15 05:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by selina.evans 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have serious issues with the teacher and we would probably need to meet about the incident. Something similar happened to my son last year and he had an accident, well after meeting with the teacher we found out that my son liked to play in the bathrooms (1st grader) that was why the teacher told him no...
2007-10-15 08:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by Kristin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not only go up to the teacher and demand that they say they were sorry but tell the principal that that is unacceptable !~ SERIOUSLY the child can get infections or get sick from holding it in without going for long periods of time ... it isnt only a problem but a HEALTH issue and the school can be sued !~ I hope your little one got through it ... I really think that you should talk to the principle ... I hope it goes well
2007-10-15 05:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is intolerable and I would not let the teacher get away with something like that. That could lead to embarrassment for the child.
A child looks to a teacher for care and knowledge, not Cruelty and Neglect.
Please call the Principal and address this matter. She/He should not get away this.
2007-10-15 05:09:15 · answer #11 · answered by Suko 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋