I get angry over the simplest things.....?

Question

I don't know what my problem is. I have a million triggers that have made me blow up. Especially at my husband. I start yelling and doing stuff to push his buttons deliberately. He tells me to stop but I keep on and keep on because I feel so angry inside. I have pushed him and slapped him in my rage. We have no kids because I am scared that I may blow up at them. I have even been so angry I feel like killing myself at times but I never had the courage. I have a very manipulative spirit too. I will lie to others and make up outrageous things to get people's sympathy. I can't afford to see a doctor but I really do need help. Does anyone know what this is called? I live in Kokomo, IN if anyone can recommend a cheap if not free clinic. Thanks! ((HUGS))

Answer 1

No clinic need here. Here are some pointer.

People who are easily angered generally have what some psychologists call a low tolerance for frustration, meaning simply that they feel that they should not have to be subjected to frustration, inconvenience, or annoyance. They can't take things in stride, and they're particularly infuriated if the situation seems somehow unjust: for example, being corrected for a minor mistake.

What makes these people this way? A number of things. One cause may be genetic or physiological: There is evidence that some children are born irritable, touchy, and easily angered, and that these signs are present from a very early age. Another may be sociocultural. Anger is often regarded as negative; we're taught that it's all right to express anxiety, depression, or other emotions but not to express anger. As a result, we don't learn how to handle it or channel it constructively.

Research has also found that family background plays a role. Typically, people who are easily angered come from families that are disruptive, chaotic, and not skilled at emotional communications.


Strategies To Keep Anger At Bay

Relaxation

Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can call upon them in any situation. If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered, it might be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques.

Some simple steps you can try:

Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your "gut."

Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy." Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.

Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.

Nonstrenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.
Practice these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you're in a tense situation.

I hope this helps?

Answer 2

well depending on your kids sense of humor..... you could try something that mirrors his exact behavior. From what it sounds like in your question, the kid becomes rather volatile before completely hearing you out. Jumping to the conclusion before you have finished what you were saying to him. If this is the case be sure to do just that . Go through all the "stomping out of the room, shouting at the top of your lungs, door slamming and other rude gestures" your kid may display so he can see what it looks like. Or, secretly video tape him in his "angry defensive" mode and have him view it once he's calm..... or has friends over. Most often, if a person can see their actions from a different perspective, and it's ugly, they'll conscientiously put forth an effort to change.

Answer 3

Hi to Kokomo! I grew up 22 miles from there in Flora.
It is so good that you recognize your problems and know that you need help. Surely you have a mental health clinic in Howard County that serves on "ability to pay". You can even go to the local ER and tell them how you're feeling and they can direct you to help. There are many good programs that serve the needs of people with anger management problems. It's entirely possible that you have a chemical imbalance that is causing you so much trouble. There are medications for this. Try any program that deals with mental health. I'm sure you can find one that will serve your purpose and your purse. Good luck!

Answer 4

hi, an internal rage like this can be very frightening...and some times comes out of trying to keep those things that we do not want to remember off our focus...
I do not know of a cheap clinic...but you can find good mental health professionals in the telephone book and most work at a sliding scale...meaning that you pay what you can afford....
Can I suggest something...maybe just maybe you need to see a person that knows something about child psychology...chances are the rage and anger you are feeling is coming out of some unresolved issues in your childhood dealing with things best left between you and a therapist

Answer 5

If your having suicide thoughts at any time call a crisis center now! Dial information and ask them for the number. Keep as calm as you can by breathing deeply and clearing your mind. You may not be able to do this easily at first. There are many ways to remain calm. Find what works for you and keep with it. Again, since you've had thoughts of suicide call for help now!

Answer 6

Be an observer to your owns thoughts . Think about the feelings , dont get too anxious , just calmly observe them .
Do some good yoga techniques as well . And next timw when you get anrgy , think why am I getting angry ...

Hope that helps
Cheers

Answer 7

Do some exercise to burn the high levels of energy you have but do not do any kind of sport that involves body contact.

Love yourself and above all things control yourself...

You know your problem so you should know the answer, work on it to get the result you want to.

Seek some professional help... stop thinking and start doing!

Answer 8

Call on Dr. ALI for Acceptance, Listing and Introspection. This negative energy can destroy you like the Arabian Bomb. This military culture. Its the Ego which creates us. Bible : "We are born sinner from the womb. The world is ruled by the devil". So call on God as positive energy. Divert you mind at the spark of non agreement. Advice is numerous and free. Good Luck !

Answer 9

You might have explosive anger disorder. Read this article and see. http://www.sciencenews.org/articles/20060610/fob4.asp
Maybe at this address you can find a clinic near you.
http://www.ahirc.org/cat_list.cfm?cat=31&st=x_IN
It gives listings of different places, you can't deal with this on your own. Alot of your problems could stem from a chemical imbalance, I hope that you find the help that you need. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 10

You may be bi-polar. I had the attitiude thing going myself so bad I would flip out about something as simple as my kids spilling juice or getting water on teh bathroom floor. I saw a pyschologist and am now on Zoloft. I was told I have anxiety, not as bad as what you sound like you may have but there are medications to help. DOnt you have insurance at all?