is this a whore-like thing to do?

Question

so my bf and i will have been together for a month on the 24th of Oct. about 2 wks after being together....we had sex. This is really soon for me...we talked it through and came up with a better plan of action for next time so that we don't get carried away before it's appropriate time-wise to do so. Heres the thing tho- I love him already. which is also very unusual for me which is why i feel it was justified. I know that month is a very short amount of time to love someone but we have known eachother for about 3 mo. and i feel like we have been together much much longer. is what we did wrong?

Answer 1

If you believe in God, yes it was the wrong decision to do. In the eyes of the world, yes and no. I think it was way too soon. You should've waited till you were married. Also, after having sex, people feel differently about each other cause of chemical changes. If you felt close to him you would have sex, if he thinks your hot, he will have sex with you then love you later. Its a bizarre thing, but its how it works.

In your situation I wouldn't have sex anymore till marriage. Its a thing where your mind is weaker then the body thus gives in to what it wants. Which is something that most people do now just because they can. I get this alot, "Why fight what you body wants when its how were made?" Or similar sayings. We were made this way, but sex is something that needs to be enjoyed in the confines of marriage, not randomly.

But, if you believe in not believing, then it could be considered a whore-like thing to do for you and him both. Cause it takes two to have sex. I never got the whole thing that the women are the whores but the guy is praised. You both were involved, so you both bare the idea of doing something whore-like.

So thats my input, hopefully theres something that helps.

Answer 2

I don't think it was wrong or "whore-like" at all. Only time will tell whether you two are meant to be and whether the way you feel about him will last. I base my answer off of my experience with the girl who is now my wife. We met one night through a mutual friend. We seriously fell head-over-feet for each other that first night. She lived about three hours away, so I didn't see her again until the following weekend. That second weekend was our first time, and two weeks after that she moved in with me. That was almost ten years ago... we've been together since, and now we're married and have two boys. You never can tell, and I was not a believer in love at first sight, or jumping right into things like that, but when ya-know, ya-know. -and it sounds like you know. Just be glad you've found someone that makes you happy (there's a lot of people out there hoping, wishing, and wanting that), so don't be afraid to take the risk of being in love, and don't second guess yourself. You know yourself better than anyone and the fact that things are playing out with him differently than they have in the past for you could be a good sign... so no, not wrong, and not "whore-like".

Answer 3

It's very simple, see how long you can last without having sex. Did you do something that would be classified as whore-ish? no, because in the moment you didn't think of: i want him in bed. you thought: i deeply care for him and let me express myself that way.
In tandem with seeing how long you can last without having sex you should get to know your partner more, see his likes and dislikes, see how he reacts to certain things. All in all, communicate with him, tell him how you feel, after all a relationship doesn't consist of 1 person it's of 2.

And like someone else already said: if you feel as though you should regret it, then you should. Don't do it again, because if you really were sure about what you did you wouldn't be here asking a bunch of strangers their opinion. Love is being sure of every action that you take and if you are unsure then your partner is there as your backup because he/she will do everything in their power to make sure that you are happy and okay.
Oh well, those are my 2 cents. good luck and peace out!

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong at all with what you did! It's normal to want to have sex with your bf... You're not a whore at all.
As for loving him, there's absolutely no way. You THINK you may love him, but you don't. True love takes a lot more time than that. You're probably too young to understand that.
Anyway, if I were you I would stop having sex if you're regretting it because then you'll regret it even more. If you're worried about what others think, who cares. It's your body, your life, and your relationship. A healthy sex life can keep relationships strong so I think what you're doing is perfectly normal.
Take care and good luck!
~Michelle

Answer 5

I don't think it is. I dated a guy once for a month and we also did the same thing. It's been 2 years and we're still together. :] But don't...have sex often. Sex messes up everything. We broke up once because it confused our feelings of love for lust. That's not good. You can have a mix of both, but don't overpower love with sex. If it seems it's all he wants, I'd let that go before it turns into a lustful relationship rather than a loving one.

Answer 6

Not at all. Sometimes you just get that "feeling" early on. My current b/f and I actually talked online and on the phone for a few weeks before we met face-to-face, and let me just say that night was electric! lol But hey, we're still together and working on a family now. I'm sure you don't do this on a day to day basis,and it's not like you're out there with numerous different men. Girl, don't worry about it.


P.S. I fall quick too.

Answer 7

It's not wrong if you both feel the same way but after that short amount of time I would be careful and not use sex as the thing that keeps you together.

Answer 8

safe sex with someone you care about is never wrong. Its not like you met on a one night stand and fell abck to his and did it with no protection. You obviously care about one and other. I dontthink you need to take precautions - as in ways to stop you two doing it again so soon - not unless you want to, if oyu feel uncomfortable then slow it down. If you enjoyed it and you feel he did too and has feelings for you then by all means make love again... be protected though. Making love is a powerful special and tender thing to do. Dont feel bad for it and it certianly isnt whoorish.. x x

Answer 9

Just speaking for myself here, I'm slow to fall in love. There have been several times when I thought I was in love early like you are and it was just infatuation and with a little more time the feeling was gone. I'm not saying that you're just infatuated, you might be in love.

The second thing is, yes, I think 2 weeks is too early to have sex. That might give him a false idea of who you are and once you bring sex into a relationship, everything changes. So, basically, just be careful for the sake of your heart.

Best of luck,
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Answer 10

If the feeling is true I don't see how its wrong, but the time frame is rather short. As a woman you have to give yourself more time before you give that gift to just anyone. Next time hold out a little longer sweetie.