my family and I are probley the closest fam you will ever meet , we have our fights tho and the last one has turned 5 out of the 7 against my husband this puts me in awful situation , how do I get them to stop making him out to be a bad person he is far from an asshole he just protects me when we all fight I mean he takes my side they should only be mad at me right?
2007-10-15 03:34:54 · 6 answers · asked by momo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I come from a family of 8 kids and I sometimes wish we all were open enough to have fights and to openly voice our opinions. So on the one hand you're lucky because it gives you an opportunity to find a resolution to disagreements instead of not knowing how people really feel.
If your husband said something that offended another member of the family they should be upset with him for saying it not at your for being defended. Having fights in your family is not a new experience. Look back at how the others were resolved and do the same things. Usually that involves talking to people calmly and if necessary agreeing to disagree.
Whatever the differences, you are all still family and that deep love is still there. Give it a little time, talk to each one individually and clear the air. If apologies from you and/or your husband are needed, extend them. If not, try to forgive. Things are said in the heat of the moment that sometimes illuminate deeper feelings that aren't being voiced. If you feel that's the case here, address it. Whatever the issues, you know your family members. Talk to them and try to resolve things.
2007-10-15 03:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be difficult at times for a large family to get along. How did your siblings become aware of this situation(whatever it is)?.Had your siblings loved and respected your husband prior to this incident ? What made this situation so volitile? Do your siblings think one bad situation should erase all your years together with your husband? I don't need any answers to these questions just ask them to yourself.I think you should talk to your husband separately from your siblings then later talk to your siblings.Later ,if you wish,have a family meeting to address everyones concerns.Let your family know you love your husband and you will not let them come between him and you. I am making an assumption that no abuse was invovled in this situation and I do apologise for saying it .I hope everything works out.I come from a large family as well and we've had our share of" Hallmark " moments.Throughout it all we are all still friends. Family is important ,but your priority is your own household.Take care.
2007-10-15 04:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Momo, your very fortunate to be such a member of a close clan like you are. At times when people are angry with others, especially close relatives, people act very immaturely. If your family members are angry with your man for taking your side it is natural as he is not in agreement with their side of the story. You guys are just going to have to learn to roll with the punches and hopefully eventually things will iron themselves out. If not then it might be a wise idea to hold a family conference and attempt to get things straightened out there. Best of luck.
2007-10-15 03:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family that he was protecting you and isn't that what they would want for you. ( had it been someone else) Remind them that this is the man you chose and they should respect your choice. Even if they do not agree with what ever happened. If for no other reason than for their love for you. Good Luck!!!!
2007-10-15 03:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kay A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him separately....
Then talk to your family without him being there and tell them its not carrect to do whatever they are doing to your husband...
2007-10-15 03:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by NoNameForYou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but people rarely understand
2007-10-15 03:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by ted t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋