10 Commandments?

Question

So one of the commandments is to honor thy father and mother. Does this mean the people who gave you life here on earth, or those who raised you? I ask because I love my mom (really just because the Bible tells me to, she has never been a mother to me), but I don't respect her or have feelings about her either way, but my step-mom raised me and I love her like she gave birth to me. So I am always caught in: what does God consider a mother? The one who gives birth (because let's face it, giving birth doesn't make you a mother), or the one who nurtures, raises, and teaches His word?

Answer 1

wen the commandments were made, i think god means it for the people who raised you like your mum and dad, so i believe that you cant honor thy father or mother if you dont no them and if they got no feelings or love towards you then it wont be a sin for you not to honor your birth mother, love and respect the woman who was there for you wen you were ill, who fed you, who clothed you, who showed you love and affection, the woman who raised you to the person you are today, that is who you should honor and obey. thats my opinion.

Answer 2

The Bible says to raise a child in the way he should go, and when they are old they will not turn from it. If your step mother raised you, then she taught you the things of life and how to live it, she should be respected and loved as you would a birth mother. Your birth mother is to be loved, because Christ says to love your neighbor as yourself, but if you are feeling that you have to respect both, you do. Your birth mother, no matter her case, is still an "elder" and should be respected, but only to the point that it doesn't interfere with the one who is raising you.

Answer 3

Strangely enough the argument could be made for both. You should respect and honor your birth mother and treat her civily however your teachings and the role of your step mother entitle her to receive honor as well. You get a double duty as far as that commandment goes!

Answer 4

We are to honor and respect our birth parents as well as our heavenly parents. Give your birth mother respect, but honor and love the one who raised you.

Answer 5

Naturally you love the mother that nurtured you. You don't have to love the birth mother..just treat her with respect. People don't always have to be deserving of respect to be treated with respect. It almost falls into just having good manners and being polite.

Answer 6

The commandment here refers to honoring one's parents, regardless of what kind of parents they were. One may well resent their parents if they were bad parents, but still properly honor them because they are your parents.

In the new covenant, where we find the fulfillment of these commandments, it is a matter of having love for you parents, regardless of their behaviors of the past.

But if you love your mother because Scripture tells you to, you miss the whole point.

Did you ever try to crawl inside her head and understand where she was coming from? What sort of childhood did she have? It's not that you want to make excuses for her, but you need to understand that, "there but for the grace of God go I" in this respect.

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Answer 7

A Godly mother?

Here are her qualities:

Proverbs 31:10-31 (New International Version)
New International Version (NIV)
Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society



10 [a] A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.

11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.

12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.

13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.

14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.

15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.

16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.

18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.

19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.

26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:

29 "Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

31 Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

Answer 8

Doesn't say whether it is your biological parents or not. So in the absence of your biological parents it applies to those responsible for you until you're no longer a minor. Part of honoring is to forgive them all their sins against you. A tall order for most people.

Answer 9

Just as you should love your earthly parents,

so too should you love your heavenly parents..........

God the Father and the Blessed Mother, Mary

Answer 10

honor depends on respect,respect thats earned not given.what,parents cant be assholes? u dont need 10 commandments. be honest an dont kill,that about covers the ten commandments.