i have long distance relationship. i fed up now.none of us can move to other. whats the best to do?

Answer 1

Ok. This is a cool subject and I will tell you my story.
2 years ago I was in US when I meet my fiance online.. he was in Ireland at the time, we both had so much in common, same nationality, close age, close ideas.. So after 10 months of chating and hoping and going crazy, I went over to see him. We were so much in love but I had to return to my lifestyle, my studies, my life. It was very hard and after 1 month and a half without him, I decided I HAD to return to Ireland. Now we got engaged this year and still in love more than ever.

So, my point to you is, distance relationships are very hard to keep.. and if you want it so bad, give it a try, you 2 have a chat and decide what you want from each other because a relationship needs sacrifices.. both of you will have to make sacrifices in order to remain together. Follow your heart and if you want to be with him then my advice is speak-up. If you don't want to be serious with him, then honestly, forget about it and move on with your life, find a hobby but if you know you can't deal with distance relationships, try to stay out of it. I have been through this and I am telling you, they don't work. After a time, one of you will end up dissappointed and will be hurt, because it's normal, the less you see a person, the distant you become.

Best of luck anyway!

Answer 2

hello my partner lives an hour and a half awa, and at first i found it very hard not seeing him in the evenings and not going to bed together every night,and we have had plenty of rows about it as well because i felt like my place was a bed and breakfast,a place to relax as he lives and works in London.
well I've ofton thought maybe it would be best to break up and try and find someone closer to home,and i tried it once and it didnt work out as i was still in love with my ex so we got back together again,and now 5yrs later and a couple more break ups along the way i had realised i had got the best of both worlds,i have all week to do what i want and then see my boyfriend at the weekends and its great so if u love him just think on what Ive said don't rush into any decision making.PS neither i or he wants to move, so like u we are the same.

Answer 3

How long is the distance? My g/f lives an hour and a half away so we see each other every weekend and she's eventually moving down here next year because we're soooo in love.... and my friend who's in the UK has been with someone who lives in Canada and she talks to him every night and sees him twice a year and is moving over there next year, they've been together 2 YEARS!!! It can be done and it can be amazing, you just have to know and realise whether you two are actually in love enough to make the change for each other. You'll have to come together eventually, it's something to strive for, but as I've said it's possible to be together a very long time if you think it's meant to be, and sooner or later either one of you will possibly be able to move. Hope that helps you

Answer 4

I would say the best thing is to sit down and discuss it between yourselves I say this from experience as I was in a long distance relationship I met her on the Internet I live in the Isle of Man she lived in Holland and we fell in love with each other I was perfectly happy to move over to Holland but after a lot of decision she moved over to the Isle of Man with all her furniture 6 months later we were married and have never looked back My wife regularly keeps in touch with her family and friends via the msm messenger and phone they have been over here several times and we have been back there a number of time I hope this is of some help to you and good luck

Answer 5

Maybe give it some more time. Try your absolute best to see if it is possible to move. Even if it is a year or couple years from now and just make visits in the mean time as much as you can. If both of you are absolutely sure it can't work this way, at all, maybe you should start thinking about abandoning ship. Communicate your thoughts and feelings with her and ask for her thoughts and feelings. Go from there...

Answer 6

most people have needs that cannot be met by long distance relationship. if you can't move, there's a reason why the relationship isn't the most important thing to you. ie the fact that you can't move says that either you are still dependent on others (your parents) or that you are not willing to make the sacrifices necessary to be together. long distance relationships don't work very well for me.

Answer 7

You do not say if the reason,you can't move to each other is by a third party.If so you will have to decide yourselves,but remember money is not a thing that can make you happy.If you love each other,that is enough cause.If you are in two parts of the world,how did you meet.Is one of you in a evil country and can't get a visa.Maybe one of you has a criminal record,so the other must move to the others country.How bad it is,you will be together,and love will overcome.

Answer 8

It would be best in your interest to let this relationship go so you guys don't hurt each other anymore. If its meant to be, fate will find a way for you guys to be together. You have ever of the old saying, if you let something go, and it doenst come back, it wasnt mean to be yours in the first place. :) I know that sometimes the thing we want in life doesnt work out, there's always a reason why. When one door closes, another door will open.

Answer 9

I myself have along distance relationship. I live in Scandinivia and my fiancé lives in South America. We decided early in the start, that if this is going to work we need to be together, aspecially in the beginning of our journey to build a steady foundation. I´m not going to give a rant, but what I think is important is to really decide: "Do we want build our love, and our we willing to do everything that it takes?"Then also think over if you are willing to give up quality time with family and friends to be with your partner.
Be willing to take risks, look for ways that you can work in that part of the world..can you start an online business to provide for yourself? Can she work where you live. But the most important thing is: Real love is really hard to find; cherish it AND don´t give up just because it seems impossible right now! You can make it work if you are willing to sacrifice. I have sacrificied. I have quit my job, she has quit her job as a lawyer and we are now moving to another part of the world to pursue our love and also try to build a business. Everything is possible, but be willing to take risks, major ones, to accomplish. Best wishes!Linus

Answer 10

Simple - you have two choices. either of you give up the tug of war business and settledown or else close the show and hit the bed.